If you’ve already read the in-depth orgasm guide on how to pleasure yourself and have earth shattering orgasms, but want more specific masturbation techniques, then you’re in luck! Below you will find 14 different masturbation techniques & tips to guarantee you have super powerful orgasms. The other great reason to read this article is to understand fully your anatomy and what parts of your vagina give you the most pleasure, which seems to be key to having an orgasm during masturbation .
You’ll find that you enjoy some of these masturbation techniques more than others when trying to make yourself cum. The key is trying them all out and then figuring out which ones you enjoy the most. While the below techniques all focus on your clit, you can read another masturbation guide for fingering and penetrating yourself here. You may also find that masturbating will help increase your libido.
Ok, let’s start with some of the basic masturbation techniques, then move onto the more advanced techniques.
1. UP & DOWN
This first masturbation technique will get you started and is super easy. You’ll be focusing on the clit, and all you need to do is to take a finger and just start rubbing up and down on one side of it like in the illustration above. If you want more stimulation, then try rubbing your finger directly over your clit.
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It’s that simple, but of course, you can experiment with how hard you rub your finger, how fast and the length of the strokes. This is also an easy technique to use on yourself while you are giving your man a blow job (Read the in-depth, illustrated Blow Job Guide here).
2. THE LONG SLOW STROKE
Using one or more fingers, very lightly and softly glide over the middle of your vagina and clitoris, from bottom to top like in the illustration above. Listen to your body to feel which areas provide the most pleasure and stimulation when touched.
Then experiment with fast strokes, slower strokes, as well as using more or less pressure. Also try switching direction, starting at your clit and rubbing downwards or rubbing up and down. You may not orgasm from this, but it’s a great masturbation technique for exploring all of your vagina to see what is most pleasurable and reacts most intensely to your touch.
3. FROM SIDE TO SIDE
This is another simple and straightforward masturbation technique focusing on your clitoris. As the name suggests, you are going to rubbing your finger from side to side over your clit.
Some women prefer indirect contact here, barely touching their clit, while others need more intense contact and pressure to enjoy themselves. As always, you’ll need to try different variations for yourself to see what you enjoy. Here are a few ideas
- Try different speeds.
- Change the amount of pressure you use.
- Try using some lube.
- Vary how many fingers you use (one, two, three or four)
- Switch between direct and indirect contact
This masturbation technique is perfect to use during any doggy style sex position if you want to add in a little extra clitoral stimulation. You can find 11 different doggy style sex positions to try here.
4. FANTASTIC FUN WITH FOUR FINGERS
This may be the most used and effective masturbation technique of the 14 listed here, as you will have four fingers running over and rubbing your clit, making it easy to climax. Performing this technique is a simple case of holding your four fingers together and rubbing them over your clit and vagina in a circular motion as demonstrated above.
You can rub in small circles to mostly focus on your clit, or your can use larger circles to stimulate your labia, U spot and the rest of your vagina too.
This masturbation technique is also great if you like giving yourself extra stimulation during sex when you can easily access your clit. Of course, your man can also take over during sex and use this technique on you. Doggy Style (check it out here) is the perfect position for this as both of you will have easy, unhindered access to your clitoris.
So many women don’t seem to know about the U Spot. I’ve indicated it with a slightly darker shade of pink in the diagram below (please note that it does not have any distinct coloring in real life). As you can see, it’s the area of skin just above your urethral opening and to the sides of it.
To stimulate it you just need to gently stroke it with the tip of your finger like in the illustration below. While rubbing only your U Spot is super pleasurable, an even better masturbation technique is to rub softly from your U Spot right up to your clitoris and back down again (demonstrated in the diagram below).
If you’re not already wet when rubbing your U Spot, then make sure to use some lube. And don’t be afraid to venture a bit off course and start massaging your labia or clit to vary the sensation.
For some women, the U Spot can extend higher than in this illustration, to right below the clitoris.
6. LOVE THAT SHOWER HEAD
If you haven’t yet used a shower head or faucet to get off, you are missing out! Women have been using this method to masturbate for decades . While it’s a more hands off masturbation technique, it feels incredible and entirely different to your finger. All you need is a faucet that you can maneuver your vagina under so that the water can freely flow over it or a shower head that you can direct towards your vagina.
I don’t know the exact science behind it, but everyone that tries it reports that the running water feels wonderful and can help you get off very, very quickly. So experiment with the settings on your shower head to find out what feels best. Quick Hint: You may find that the ‘pulse’ setting is best. One of the benefits of masturbating in the shower is that if you are trying to make yourself squirt, everything gets quickly washed away by the water. And if you want to learn how to make yourself squirt, then check out the squirting guide here.
Some women have a super-sensitive clitoris. Often it’s so sensitive, that it can feel almost unpleasant to touch. If you are one of these women, then you may find that using many of my masturbation techniques to be too uncomfortable…and possibly even painful.
If that’s the case, then instead of using my masturbation techniques to apply pressure directly to your clit, you need to use your clitoral hood as a sort of buffer or shield instead. That’s the flap of skin just above your clit that covers it. I’ve indicated it in the illustration above with a slightly darker shade of pink (in real life your clitoral hood has no distinct color).
So if you have an overly sensitive clit, then try rubbing your clitoral hood instead of your clit. You’ll notice that it’s a lot more pleasurable and not so sensitive. Alternatively, you may want to use some of these fingering techniques instead.
You may have the opposite problem to the one I mentioned above in Under The Hood. You may happen to be someone who suffers from a lack of sensitivity and so need all the rubbing, grinding, touching & stimulation you can get on your clitoris. No problem, there is a pretty simple solution. To allow yourself to stimulate your clit intensely, you’re going to need to expose it more. It’s easy, and the demonstration above should be all you need to expose it more.
As you can see, by placing your fingers above your clit and on either side of it, then slowly pulling the skin backwards, you will pull back the clitoral hood and expose it much more. While pulling back your clitoral hood is not exactly a masturbation technique; it will allow you to use your other hand or a vibrator to stimulate it more directly. This can also be helpful in certain positions during sex if you want more intense clitoral stimulation. You can learn more clitoral stimulation techniques here.
When I first heard the words, “Orgasmic Meditation” I sort of imagined people practicing tantra. In a way, orgasmic meditation is sort of like tantric sex as there is a process you are supposed to follow and the end goal is not necessarily having an orgasm. So what does orgasmic meditation have to do with stimulating your clitoris?
The basic technique involves both you and your man. You need to start by getting comfortable while lying down on your back with your legs spread right open. Then your man needs to get into a comfortable position sitting down to your right side with his left leg bent and over your stomach and his right leg under your right leg. He then needs to start stroking the upper left quadrant of your clit with just one lubricated finger very slowly and lightly. I’ve indicated this upper left quadrant area between the dotted lines in the illustration above.His touch should be as light as possible.
The masturbation technique he needs to use – He’s going to move his finger a few millimeters back and forth making sure to apply only the slightest amount of pressure to your clit. Some women report that it just feels too frustrating, and they can’t keep doing it for long, that it seems like they are teasing themselves, while others say that the longer they do it, the better it feels.
My advice is to try it at least once and do your absolute best to hold out for as long as you can, making sure to use the very least amount of pressure possible. At a minimum, it can serve as great foreplay for your masturbation session.
Of course, we don’t believe in strict rules for performing this masturbation technique; we merely see these instructions as a guideline for getting more enjoyment out of masturbation and foreplay. So feel free to experiment with it and see for yourself what is the most pleasurable and enjoyable way to perform orgasmic meditation with your partner.
10. THE SQUEEZE
The squeeze is a little-known masturbation technique involving your clit. Everyone seems to understand that the clit is one of the most densely packed areas of nerve endings in your body ! – what many people fail to realize is that it extends back inside you and along the vagina as well.
So the visible tip of the clitoris isn’t the only sensitive part. The base of the clitoris, known as the clitoral bulb , isn’t visible but is also hyper sensitive…and we’re going to use the ‘squeeze’ technique to stimulate it!
All you need to do is place your thumb and index finger on either side of the clitoris like in the illustration above. Then press down and inwards so that you are ‘squeezing’ it between the folds of skin surrounding it. Start with very gentle pressure. You’ll quickly notice that you can squeeze it with a lot of pressure without it being uncomfortable.
Then it’s just a simple case of playing around with your clit between the folds of skin, by rolling it between your index finger and thumb.
One fun variation of this masturbation technique is to imagine that it’s a tiny penis and that you can jerk it up and down slightly.
As I keep repeating, the most important thing you can do is lots of experimentation to see what you enjoy the most with this masturbation technique. And if you have a squeeze technique that you enjoy, please let everyone know in the comment section. If you are looking for even more great tips on how to have powerful orgasms (alone & with your man), then make sure to check out the Orgasm Guide here.
Rubbing and stimulating your labia is kind of like foreplay for masturbation. It may not bring you to orgasm, but it’s an excellent way to build up to more intense masturbation techniques. There are plenty of ways to rub your labia:
- Run your fingers up and down them like in the illustration above.
- Press and squeeze them together
- Use lube to give yourself a more “silky” feeling.
- And of course, you can run different materials over them too.
12. HUMPING & GRINDING YOUR PILLOW
Many women first learn to masturbate through humping or grinding or rubbing against a pillow, toy, blanket or bed . This masturbation technique is perfect for stimulating your clit and labia at the same time. You’ll find that you get most friction, stimulation, and pleasure if you are wearing your panties or nothing at all while grinding off your pillow. As always, discovering what you prefer comes down to experimentation. Here are a few different ways to do it.
- If you have a long pillow, you can lie down on your side with it between your legs. Then squeeze your legs together to grip it and pull it backwards so that it is pressing against your labia and clit. Then just start grinding.
- If you don’t have a long pillow like the one in the picture above, grab a mid-sized one and turn it on its side and straddle it. Or fold it in half and straddle it, whichever works best. Then rest your weight right down on it. Before you start grinding on it, you can adjust it so that it’s pressed firmly against your vagina. Then move your vagina up and down the pillow and ride it to orgasm!
- Another great way to provide even more pressure and stimulation to your vagina when pleasuring yourself is to cover your pillow tightly with a towel before you start masturbating with it. This way you will be grinding on something slightly rougher. It also helps to prevent your pillow from getting wet. Bonus Tip: You can also experiment with putting different things like stuffed toys or electric toothbrushes under the towel for different sensations.
- Using a pillow is the most basic version of this masturbation technique. Why not try grinding on your man the next time you are making out with him. Simply straddle his thigh and start grinding!
13. PEARL NECKLACE
The Pearl Necklace is a masturbation technique that requires a pearl necklace or any necklace that has a lot of round beads on it. So even something like a cheap Mardi Gras bead necklace works great too.
When performing this masturbation technique, you will want to be either on your knees or standing up. You’ll then need to hold one end of the necklace in front of you with one hand and then reach down your back with your other hand to grab the other end of the necklace so that it’s between your legs.
Then it’s just a case of slowly pulling the necklace forward and backwards, allowing it to run over your vagina, labia and clit. It’s a lot of fun and can be even better if you use a little bit of lube on the pearls.
Don’t feel limited to only using a necklace; there are plenty of other great things to perform the Pearl Necklace with like a towel, satin scarf or anything that gives you pleasurable sensations.
Quick Note: I don’t advise you trying the pearl necklace if the necklace you are using is expensive in case it breaks. Consider using a cheaper Mardi Gras necklace or even clean anal beads, instead.
If you are interested in learning about the other “pearl necklace” technique, where your man cums on your neck, you can learn everything there is to know about it here.
14. VIBRATOR TIME
Vibrators…Some call it cheating while many more have positive opinions of vibrators  and more than half of all women have used one .. and for good reason! The orgasms they facilitate are typically easier and often more intense.
Everyone has their own personal preferences, so I don’t want to prescribe any one technique as the “only” or best technique. Here are a few ideas to get you going:
- Some adore rubbing their vibrators all over their bodies and can even orgasm from using them on their breasts and nipples. Learn more about nipple play here.
- Some love feeling the vibrations indirectly on their clit. Direct stimulation can sometimes be too much. So use masturbation tip #7 & tip #9 if that sounds like you. Some people even recommend placing a towel between the toy and your clitoris .
- Some need direct stimulation on their clit to cum. Masturbation technique #8 will help you get lots of direct stimulation.
- Some adore running their vibrator up and down their labia. Check out masturbation technique #11 for some powerful labia pleasuring ideas.
- Some adore being penetrated by their vibrator. This guide on using a dildo will teach you the most important spots to focus on when penetrating yourself with your vibrator.
By the way, if you are using a vibrator to masturbate, my advice is to play around with it and see what you enjoy most. There is no “one size fit all” method or technique to using a vibrator to orgasm. For more tips & info on how to use your vibrator, check out this guide here.
EVEN MORE MASTURBATION TECHNIQUES
All of these 14 masturbation techniques & tips above focus on your clitoris, but there is a lot more to satisfying masturbation than just your clit. If you want to learn how to masturbate by penetrating and fingering yourself, then you’ll be glad to know that I created an entirely separate guide here. Inside, you will learn how to finger yourself and have back-arching, eye-popping orgasms. Click here to read it now.