Seducing a man can seem like an insurmountable obstacle, especially if you’re not familiar with good flirting and seduction techniques. While I cover flirting in detail here, these techniques will teach you everything you need to know about seducing a guy. Learning to be sexy and getting a man interested is usually not an overnight event, but a process that involves a lot of fun back and forth. Follow these 15 easy and compelling tips on how to seduce a man and get him thinking of nothing but you.
1. Make Eye Contact With Him Frequently
One of the things that a man is most likely going to notice about you first is your eyes. Many guys like to gaze into a woman’s eyes as soon as they meet her, even before they check out her cleavage, or size up the rest of her figure. The eyes can communicate sexiness, mysteriousness and desire without a single word. Use this to your advantage by seducing him with frequent eye contact.
Make sure to look directly at him when he’s talking and at other times when neither of you are speaking, and hold your gaze for a second or two longer than is comfortable. This may be tough at first, but the more you do it, the easier it will become.
2. Wear Clothes That Flatter Your Figure
While many men are attracted to provocative clothing as a whole, you can make more of an impact by dressing to flatter your figure as opposed to dressing just to show skin.
Whether you’re curvy or athletic, wearing clothes that look good on you (no matter how much skin they show or don’t show) is a great way to get a guy’s attention. If you have a great rack, play it up by wearing a dress or top that shows some of your cleavage. If your legs are your best feature, wear a short skirt with heels.
Don’t be afraid to leave something to the imagination with what you wear when seducing him. Showing off all your best assets all at once can give the impression that you’re “slutty” instead of “playful.” If you’re showing off your legs, make sure you’re wearing a more conservative top and vice versa.
Guys love it when a woman smiles. A genuine smile catches a man’s attention and helps him to zero in on you and only you.
This is especially effective if you’re smiling at something he said or did. Fake smiles don’t count — most guys can spot those from a mile away. Flash your pearly whites when talking to him, and show him that you enjoy his company and an all-around happy person.
4. Ask More Personal Questions & Offer Intimate Information
Talking about the weather or whose team has the best quarterback is only going to get you so far with a man.
When learning how to seduce a man, try asking more personal questions and offer more intimate information in return when you’re speaking with him.
For example, you might ask him what his all-time favorite bedroom move is, or what turns him on more than anything else. If you can work it into the conversation naturally, tell him personal things about you, like how much you dig dancing with a guy or what you like most about a man’s body.
5. Use Your Body Language to Convey Your Interest
Your body language can show a man that you’re interested in him more so than anything you say.
Use your body language to your advantage when seducing him and let him know in no uncertain terms that you’re into him. In addition to making eye contact and smiling, you can face him when you’re speaking with him, or you can lean towards him just a little. If he’s into you too, he may start to mirror your body language and gravitate towards you in the same way.
6. Don’t Throw Yourself At Him
Most guys are turned off by women they see as “desperate.”
Throwing yourself at him and showing an inappropriate level of interest (obsessive instead of playful) can have the opposite effect of seducing him. It may even drive him away before you have the chance to do anything else. Instead of being all over him, show your interest in him in a flirtatious way, without being overbearing.
7. Touch Him Often
When seducing a guy, make sure to touch him frequently in a subtle way. For example, you could lay your hand on his knee briefly while he’s talking, or lean over to whisper in his ear while gently brushing your lips against it.
This is one of the most powerful tools you can use when figuring out how to seduce a guy. Make sure when you touch him, it seems accidental or slight. If you’re touching him constantly or doing it in a non-natural way, he may get turned off or feel like you’re smothering him.
8. Get Him Alone
If you’re hanging out with friends, make a point to get him alone for a few minutes or more.
Suggest going to the bar to order another drink together, or challenge him to a one-on-one game of pool. Getting him alone not only gives you more freedom to flirt and seduce him, but will also help get him in the right frame of mind for anything you have planned next without being distracted.
9. Send Sexy Snapchats or Text Messages
If you have each other’s numbers, you can make it easier to seduce a guy with sexy text messages or Snaps. Create your own private little world with him by flirting with him via text (learn tips about sending flirty text messages here), or sending him provocative (but not too revealing) photos via an app like SnapChat so that the photos get deleted.
Text him and let him know you’re thinking about him, or send him a photo of you chilling by the pool. This can help spark his imagination and get him going in the right direction.
You might find that this gets you turned on, too.
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10. Don’t Be Afraid to Get Awkward
Awkward silences and situations can be one of the most interesting — and effective — ways to stir up sexual tension with a guy.
Instead of trying to fill an odd silence, let a few seconds pass in order to create a little bit of sexy nervousness when seducing him. You can also create awkward situations by brushing up against him when walking by or “accidentally” dropping something in front of him and bending over to pick it up.
11. Have Fun Without Him
While this may sound counter-intuitive, having fun without the man you’re interested in can have a positive impact on his attraction to you.
When you show a guy that you’re independent and able to have a great time when he’s not around, it says two things: you don’t need him to enjoy yourself, and you’re desirable to others. There’s more to seducing a man than just being super sexy around him — it’s also making him think about you when you’re not with him.
12. Make Him Work a Little, But Not Too Much
Most women know that guys like to chase a woman. However, they don’t want the goal to feel impossible to reach. Many guys respond well when there’s enough space to chase a girl, while still feeling like the end is within reach. i.e. he has a chance with you.
It’s okay to make him work a bit for your time or affection when seducing a man to increase his anticipation, but don’t make him bend over backwards for little in return. Doing so is more likely to turn him off than on.
14. Show Confidence, Not Insecurities
Men love confidence in a woman. Everyone is insecure about themselves to some degree, but showing him this side of you can have a negative impact on his attraction level towards you.
So try not to talk about how much you hate your butt, or ask him whether your outfit makes you look fat. Leave negative thoughts about yourself, your job and your family at home, and bring your best self out when learning how to seduce a man.
15. Be Positive & Don’t Forget to Laugh
Along with showing him confidence instead of insecurity, you want to keep your conversation with him positive. Avoid bitching about work, or the friend that backstabbed you last weekend. Many guys are more interested in “glass half full” girls, and may steer clear of women who bring them down with their negativity.
Instead, chat about how much fun you had the last party you went to, or how you’re thrilled about your new promotion.
In addition to following the above tips, learning how to seduce a man is about experience. As you develop your “game” by seducing new guys, you’ll learn what works and what doesn’t and foster your own style of flirting. By adapting seduction techniques that you’ve found to be very effective and dropping ones that don’t seem to work as well, you’ll be able to establish a seduction style that is all your own and fundamentally effective.