The trick is getting your guy to see you as a habit he can’t break. After all, you’re already way into to him, so why shouldn’t he feel the same way? He will, if you make him. By taking care to keep the spark alive after you start dating, you’ll ensure that his eyes stay trained right on you instead of wandering. You just need to learn how to make a man addicted to you, and the following list of tricks will help.
1. BE FUN
Everyone likes to have fun, and your Mr. Right is no exception. Without fun, you have no chance of keeping a guy truly addicted to you, and the secret is to see things from his perspective.
Sure, you think it’s awesome to make cocoa and play Scrabble while listening to Bing Crosby in October, and there is a time and place for that. But while your guy may be willing to indulge your interests, are you as willing to come his way? Figure out what he loves and do it with him, whether it’s video games, antiquing or building tables out of reclaimed wood. Find it fun and he’ll find you fun.
2. STAY FIT & EAT HEALTHY
If you’ve ever wondered how to make a man addicted to you, a great way is to start with your body. Slimming and toning your figure is just one benefit of eating healthy and exercising; you also receive better skin, sleep more soundly and have more energy.
These all impact how a romantic partner sees you. Remember, it’s not just your looks that are important; it’s also your confidence. The better you feel in your own skin, the more courageous, inventive, confident, experimental and charming you will be, and the more your man will want to be around you!
3. TRY NEW THINGS IN THE BEDROOM
Want to know how to make a man addicted to you in the bedroom? Easy: branch out. Guys like to experiment, and while girls usually do too, society sometimes may make hold back a little bit more than you want to. Well, screw society.
Your guy likes you, probably loves you, and you don’t need to be ashamed or afraid of just suggesting something new to try in the bedroom. An easy way to start is by trying some new sex positions.
4. CHILL. THE HECK. OUT.
Pop quiz: do guys like stressed out, anxious ladies who can’t stop talking about their upcoming presentations or most recent beef with their moms?
Just kidding, no they do not. Freaking out nonstop about trivial issues, is the opposite of the best way to make your guy addicted. Instead, use him as a sounding board for your problems big and small, but stay calm as you work through them and he’ll appreciate you even more.
4. GIVE HIM HIS SPACE
Although not all stereotypes are true, the common theory that guys like their alone time more than gals does hold water.
Even in the throes of new love, your man wants time to do his own thing or spend time with his friends. If you’ve just moved in together, he’ll need all the more space. Offer him a weekend off or a concert with his buddies before he has to ask. If you’re unsure how to make a man addicted to you, try this tactic…his friends will probably tell him how lucky he is to have someone like you!
5. TALK DIRTY TO HIM
One of the number one tricks in the “making him addicted” toolbox, talking dirty is a prime way to get your man going. You can try this in the bedroom using some of these examples, but you can also do it over the phone, which is a great way to stay in touch when you or he is far from home.
6. INTRODUCE HIM TO YOUR FRIENDS
This might seem like a no-brainer, but it’s actually an important step in getting your man to commit. Once he sees you with your friends, he’ll get a taste of the fun, relaxed version of you that he may not have seen before, which can end up making him like you even more. Plus, if he likes your friends he’ll have even more incentive to stick around and make things work. It’s like addiction squared.
7. LAUGH. A LOT
Everyone knows a good joke session is fun, but did you know that laughter releases the hormone oxytocin? Also responsible for bonding mothers and babies, oxytocin brings couples closer together. The more you can laugh with your guy, the more he will feel close to you and want to be around you.
The more he’s around you, the more you two can laugh; it’s a virtuous cycle. Think about fun ways to keep your guy entertained, like telling jokes, renting comedies or (gently) teasing one another. It’s a surefire way to make your guy addicted to you. Another great way to make him laugh in a more intimate way is with some light flirting…these flirting tips will show you how.
8. SET A REGULAR DATE NIGHT
Everyone knows that date nights keep a marriage strong after kids, but what about when you’ve just gotten together or have only been with someone for a few months or years?
Dedicated date nights are still important in this case, because that’s your time to invest in the relationship, be silly, have fun, prioritize romance and continue to get to know one another. Failing to set aside time for date night means that the to-do list gets the upper hand, so don’t let it.
9. KEEP FLIRTING!
Ah, flirtation. Something we relegate to our younger years, but we really shouldn’t. Flirtation makes us feel special, sexy, wanted and approved of. It stimulates sexual appetites and builds bonds. Knowing this, why would you ever stop? Use shy glances, playful games and steamy touches to keep your man interested.
10. SHOW HIM RANDOM KINDNESS
Dudes are people too, and they appreciate a random act of kindness as much as anyone.It can be as simple as making the bed or doing the dishes before he gets home, or as elaborate as surprising him with dinner out or organizing a trip together to Vegas. Whatever your budget and level of free time, the most important thing is to do something nice purely for the sake of being nice, without any expectation of reward or payback.
The great thing about this tip for making him addicted to you is that he will be highly likely repay the favor and start doing random acts of kindness for you!
11. SURPRISE HIM WITH SEX
You might want to sit down for this one, because it’s kind of a bombshell: guys like sex.
Like, a lot.
Remember that whole “random act of kindness” thing? This is one of the best ways to go about it, hands down. Men are more than willing to ask for sex, but one of the hottest things you can do is initiate it. Guys love feeling wanted too!
12. STAY YOUNG AT HEART
As we age, even in our twenties and thirties, the world starts to weigh on us.
We lose that childlike ability to play for hours with nothing more than the rocks and branches that used to entertain us throughout long afternoons. Guys like simplicity, though, so hearkening back to the pure pastimes of your youth will help keep him around. Make up the rules to games, refuse to be bored and laugh easily.
Another important aspect of staying young is remembering to never stop flirting. It reminds him exactly why he likes you so much.
13. HONOR YOUR COMMITMENTS
Most guys value honesty and integrity in their partners, and if you’re wondering how to make a man addicted to you, you can start here. Keep your promises, whether to him or to other people, and don’t give in to temptations to flake on school assignments, work projects or not-so-thrilling social engagements. He’ll respect you for keeping your word, and it will deepen his investment in staying with you.
14. MAKE HIM A LITTLE JEALOUS
A little jealousy never hurt anyone. No one is advocating that you disappear for a night or hold hands with his best friend, but a small reminder here and there that he wants you to be his and his alone can be good for your relationship.
A touch of flirtation with a passing stranger, a long gaze with the waiter, drawing heads in a pretty dress … these are all perfect ways to remind your guy that you’re desirable and that he’s lucky to have you.
15. BECOME HIS CONFIDANTE
In almost all cultures, men often have a hard time expressing themselves and feeling as though they can show emotion.
Even the toughest nuts to crack usually want to share their feelings with someone they love and trust, and in a society that isn’t abounding with choices of people for your guy to talk to, you can step in and fit the bill like a champ. Whether he needs to harp about a tough day at work or really delve deep into some something much deeper, if you’re there for him, he’ll keep coming back for more.
16. USE SEXY BODY LANGUAGE
It doesn’t matter whether you’re on your first date or thousandth … sexy body language is, well, sexy.
But people tend to lose the knack for it over the weeks, months and years as they become more comfortable with someone. It happens to guys too, they forget about looking sexy. Lean toward your man intimately, touch him softly on the arm or shoulder or cheek, lower your head and look up at him from underneath your lashes. Everyone loves to feel special, and using sexy body language is one method of making your man feel that way.
17. PUT YOURSELF TOGETHER FOR HIM
After you’ve been with someone for a while, it’s natural to let your hair down a little as I mentioned in the last tip.
You start to use the toilet while he’s in the shower, he adopts an exclusive uniform of sweats from Friday afternoon until Monday morning.
And that’s okay and totally normal, but in the interest of making him addicted, consider putting yourself together a little more often. Hair, makeup and a cute top shouldn’t be reserved for other people. If he knows you go to extra efforts for him alone, he’ll crave and appreciate you even more.
18. BE UNIQUELY YOU
Addiction of all types rests on the feeling that you can’t get what you need from anything or anyone else. This is how your man should feel about you. If you spend all your time worrying about trends, keeping up with the Joneses or acting like someone you’re not, though, you won’t be unique … and you won’t be you. So be yourself, because that’s the only person he wants to be with.
Addiction is a simple matter of being likeable, lovable, desirable and fun. Keeping these 18 tricks in mind will keep your relationship strong and your bond addictive … to both of you!