Teasing your man is a great way to have fun, turn your man on and get yourself aroused, too. But you can go too far when learning how to tease your guy. The key to teasing is balance. Lead him to the edge and keep him there; don’t let him feel sexually frustrated or annoyed.
When you use these tips for teasing your boyfriend, you’ll be rewarded with better sex and intense orgasms.
Teasing Your Boyfriend in 12 Steps…
Feel free to change these steps to suit your preferences and personality. Consider this list as inspiration about how to tease a man, don’t treat them as rigid rules.
1. Text Him Naughty Somethings
Your phone is an easy way how to tease him, and there are plenty of techniques for teasing him you can try. You can send him a naughty message when you’re at the grocery store or while he’s away for work.
Your messages could be on the innocent side and hint at what you’re thinking about, or you could get more explicit.
Finally, you could send a photo or even a video to turn him on. He’ll hate that he can’t have his hands on you, but he’ll ravage you when he finally walks in the door after work.
Just be careful that someone else won’t see the messages when you tease a guy with your text messages.
2. Tease Him Over the Phone (Up to Having Phone Sex)
If you’re not in the same place as your guy, you can still engage in plenty of naughty teasing. All you need is a phone! When you’re on the phone, you can tell your boyfriend things like how much you miss him and want him there. You might allude to what you do when you think about him or even what you’re doing in the moment. Knowing he cannot be there to see and touch you is sure to tease him. Although, the tease might end if it leads to some steamy phone sex.
Phone sex is a great way to remain sexually intimate with your man when you’re in a long-distance relationship too. Even if you don’t strip down on the other end of the line, a little moaning and heavy breathing can get his blood pumping harder. It’s also a good way to test out the waters for actual phone sex.
And when you’re ready to pull out all the stops, and tease him over the phone, you can break out your favorite toy or just use your hand and let your man know what you’re doing. Get as explicit as you want when you describe what you’re doing… or what you’d like to do or something you have done.
Take turns crafting a story and let the fact that he can hear you turn you on and come even harder.
3. Accidentally “Flash” Him
When you share a home with your boyfriend, you’ll have plenty of opportunities to tease him. This includes when you get dressed or undressed. Often, this is done in a hasty manner, especially if you’re running late. But slow it down or at least time it, so he sees a slip of your skin.
Exaggerate your movements, slip your hand down your thigh as you adjust your skirt or nylons, and otherwise do something that will attract his attention. You don’t even need to make eye contact; although, it could certainly increase the sexual tension of the moment.
But it can still be just as powerful if you pretend you didn’t “notice” what he saw because he’ll feel like he got a sneak peek.
4. Draw Attention to Your Mouth with a Lollipop
You’ve seen the movies where an attractive woman sucks on a lollipop, eats a banana, or even just drinks from a straw. It seems to drive men wild. Your boyfriend won’t be able to stop himself from thinking about what you could do – or have done – with your mouth if his penis were that lollipop.
Your mouth is definitely one of the sexier parts of your body. Why else would you dress it up with gloss or lipstick?
Don’t love the lollipop idea? That’s okay. We have plenty of other teasing ideas.
You can draw attention to your mouth by biting your lip, which most guys love, or circling your lips with your tongue. You can even trace your lip with your finger or another object if you’d like.
5. Play with Your Words
Brush up on your pun skills because sexual wordplay and euphemisms are a surefire way to tease your husband. If you can slip something sexual into your conversation in a less-than-obvious way, even better.
You don’t need to be a poet to tease a man with words. However, you can certainly discover sexual chemistry if the two of you trade witty, sexual banter.
6. Touch Yourself – But Don’t Let Him Touch You
Once you master this one, you’ll know how to tease your guy skillfully. This works great as foreplay if you’re already stripped down. You can also work it into domination games if you tie him up so he cannot physically touch you.
The sight of you touching yourself and the knowledge that he can’t do the same – or even touch himself – is one of the most effective methods of teasing your boyfriend. Rub it in by reminding him that he can’t rub you. Saying things such as, “Don’t you wish you could do more than just look?”
Of course, you should “give in” and let him touch you after a while… if he’s been a good boy!
7. Play with Ice
When you rub freezing ice across your skin so that it melts in rivulets, you’re teasing him in all the right ways. It might feel cool, but things are definitely getting steamy.
Run the ice down your jaw, neck, and between your breasts. You can also trace it along your panty line or into your panties when teasing him before sex.
Pop it into your mouth to finish it off. When your mouth is still cool, wrap it around his member for a blowjob he won’t forget!
8. Brush Up Against Him
This one’s something of the opposite of the previous way of teasing your boyfriend. Instead of telling him, “Hands off!”, you can surprise him by rubbing up against him in a public place.
Perhaps you’re walking past him in a crowded room or hallway. You might be bending down to reach something at the store. Let your hand, your breasts, or your butt brush up against him ever-so-slightly for just a moment. No one else might notice when you tease his penis, but he definitely will!
9. Play Footsie
There’s something about playing footsie that resonates within us all. Perhaps it’s because feet can be so sensitive and erotic, but you can still tease him without being overly sexual. If you agree, you might have a foot fetish.
Footsie is a simple game. Rub your shoe against the side of his foot. Drop your shoe when you’re sitting at a desk or table together and brush your foot against the legs of his pants. You can also run your foot up his shin beneath his pants leg.
Try footsie with different shoes and hosiery. Socks feel different than nylons or bare feet.
If you’re really daring, you can lift your leg and massage his package from outside his pants. He’ll love this if he’s into foot jobs. For more on how to give a good foot job.
10. Tickle Him
Not everyone likes to be tickled, so consider what you know about your man before teasing him in this way. If he’s down, proceed to physically tease him.
Tickling is a tantalizing combination of putting your hands on him, taking control, and eliciting reactions that he can’t control. It’s a great way to tease.
You can also use a feather to tickle your man with the lightest of touches.
And if he decides he’s had enough, he can grab your wrists, toss you on the bed and have his way with you.. a hot role reversal!
11. Make Out with Him When He’s Least Expecting It
If you always let your man take the lead, you can switch things up and tease him by initiating things. Start by making out with him unexpectedly.
Wait until he’s doing something where he wouldn’t mind being interrupted such as watching TV before you approach him. Plant your lips on his, wrap your arms around him and kiss him to take his breath away.
Making out can be great foreplay, or you can break it off and walk away if you really want to tease him!
12. Strip Tease
The ultimate form of sexual teasing your boyfriend is the strip tease. It even has “tease” in the name! The art of striptease is all about being seductive and in touch with your body. You’ll slowly remove clothes and move in ways that remind your man what you’re capable of.
It’s normal if you feel a little apprehensive, but you should read this post on how to strip for your man to help ease those nerves and figure out what to do so your striptease is sexy and not silly.
13. Shower Together But Keep It Clean
One of the great things about showering with your man is how steamy things can get, both figuratively and literally. However, you can always take a shower just to get clean. In fact, showering together when he can see your body but pushing his hands away from your body or at least your most alluring parts is a great way to tease your man in bed.
14. Leave Him Wanting More
One of the easiest ways to tease a guy is to leave him wanting more. In person, this might mean making out but leaving (or asking him to) before anything more can happen. Ending a text or call as we suggested above also works. However, you need to give him enough attention and satisfaction that he’ll remain interested, not remove it entirely.
15. Dress Like a Tease
There are plenty of ways to tease with the way you dress, and you do not need to have a specific body type to achieve it! All you need to do is:
- Emphasize the body parts you know he likes. If you’re not sure, the breasts and butt are great places to start. But some people love tummies, thighs, or other body parts!
- Let a little something show. Perhaps it’s a bra strap or your lingerie (learn how to pick the right lingerie). You might even wear a dress that slips up when you walk in front of him or sit down. He’ll be especially surprised if you normally go for more practical clothing.
- Leave something out. Guys often go crazy when they discover their partners aren’t wearing any underwear. So whisper that tantalizing tidbit into his ear when you’re in a public place and watch how he reacts! Consider discreetly flashing him to let him see what you’ve gone without.
- Use your makeup. A smokey eye or deep red lip can be quite sultry and get your guy thinking about you in a sensual manner.
- Wear whatever makes you powerful and hot, even if it’s unconventional. It’ll show in the way you act!
Get more ideas in this post about dressing sexy for your man.
16. Play a Game of Strip Poker
There’s something so fun about the classic game of strip poker because you’re not really playing to win. Instead, you’re playing to get a chance to show off your body and see some of his. Now, if you’re too good at poker, you might want to throw a hand to keep things stimulating.
As the clothes come off, you might just find your hands on each other.
Don’t worry if you’re not a fan of poker. There are plenty of games that you can easily turn into a foreplay session, and several you can buy for that purpose!
17. Use Your Body to Tease Him
When you’re actually with your husband, you have plenty of options if you want to tease him in bed. Before you’re even undressed, you can breathe on his skin. Keeping your mouth wide makes your breath warmer, while pursing your lips, cools it down. Try is against his chest, neck, or ear as you whisper into it.
When your clothes are off but before intercourse, try rubbing your vulva against his penis. Chances are, this will feel pretty good for you, too. You may even be able to come if you get the right clitoral stimulation!
Finally, pull away as he’s about to enter you or push his body from yours. You might take this time to return to kissing or other activities or just appraise his body.
18. Don’t Kiss Him
The next time you want to tease your guy, go in for a kiss. Then STOP. You can either place a finger between your lips or simply press your lips against his lightly without actually kissing him. Bonus idea: make a soft, contented sound almost like a moan if you really want to physically tease him!
19. Get Your Hands On Him
It’s pretty common knowledge that when you’re into a guy, you’ll touch him, often on the arm. But that sense of touch can be used to tease a guy even if you’ve moved beyond flirting. For example, you might swat your guy’s butt softly (or not-so-softly) if he’s “naughty.” Alternatively, consider grabbing or cupping his butt as you pass each other. If you’re a fan of any particular part of his body, a passing grope can be quite the turn-on!
20. Avoid the Goods
We’ve recommended sensual massage as a way to relax and get in the mood for sex while connecting with your man. It doesn’t have to lead to anything, of course. But if you want to tease him, you might consider giving him a sensual massage where you get close to his penis… but never too close. You can also glance at his penis if he’s in a position to see you do so, letting him know where your mind is, even if your hands haven’t made it there yet.
Don’t be surprised if he finally moves your hands or even pulls you atop him.
Of course, if you find it difficult to avoid touching him in certain places, your best bet might be to ruin his orgasm instead of letting him come.
21. Use Your Eyes
While many of our tips for teasing your man are all about how you touch him—or don’t—you don’t need to lay a hand on your man to tease him. Instead, you can just use your eyes. Make prolonged eye contact to let him know you’re interested. Try looking for sultry, smiling, or even raising your eyebrows to get across whatever message you want to send.
Bonus, after getting his attention, you can direct his eye contact by tracing your finger from your neck toward your cleave or drawing attention to your mouth (you’ll find a few tips in this guide). Of course, he might break eye contact if you do this, but it’s well worth it when it comes to the art of the tease.
22. Incorporate Your Voice
Do you know how sexy it is when your man drops his voice just a bit in bed, even if he’s just tired? If you don’t have your own sexy voice, it’s time to find it. You can experiment with lowering the pitch of your own voice or just speaking in hushed tones. If you start using that voice in the bedroom, you might even be able to turn him on outside the bedroom by using it (this is called conditioning).
And if you want to tease, use your bedroom voice when he can’t act on it.
23. Actually, Tease Him
A great way to tease your guy sexually is to do so verbally. When you tease, you let him know that you’re interested but that he doesn’t retain all the power, showing him that you’re fun and confident. Teasing is all about playfully joking, not actually insulting him, however.
24. Keep It Light
One way to tease your guy is to stimulate him but keep it so light that he can’t come from it. Using a featherlight touch as you stroke your man or give him a blowjob is a great way to accomplish this. Instead of going fast or rough, be gentle. Caress him instead. If he gets to the point where he absolutely needs more, you know that you’ve done a good job teasing him!
Keep This In Mind When Teasing Your Man
Although the following important concepts about teasing your boyfriend might be pretty obvious by now, they’re worth saying one more time. Follow these guidelines to avoid sexual frustration:
- Teasing should be fun. The movies often making teasing look incredibly serious and over the top, but it usually doesn’t happen like this. Remember to have fun, laugh and smile, and don’t get too caught up with what teasing “should” look or sound like. Enjoy yourself!
- Teasing, just like any interaction, can be a bit awkward. That’s okay. Laugh at yourself and with your partner.
- Teasing is fun, but don’t overdo it. If all you ever do is tease, your guy might get bored or annoyed. This is why it’s sometimes bad to be known as a sexual tease. This brings us to our next point.
- Teasing is two steps forward and one step back. You get a little closer, then you pull away or… You pull away before getting a little closer.
- Teasing sexually is all about keeping him guessing. If he doesn’t know what’s coming, it makes the whole thing more thrilling. Don’t assume that just because you’ve gone all the way you guy never wants to be teased again!
- Use things to help you tease. If you can’t see each other because of work, school, or other commitments, turn it into a fun tease. You can even work those little barriers into your dirty talk by saying something like, “I’d love to fuck you if only I didn’t have to work right now.”
- Not every time is the right time for teasing. There will be sometimes when other concerns take priority, whether that be responsibilities or even a tummyache. Just because teasing doesn’t get the response you were looking for doesn’t mean you shouldn’t keep trying!
With this general advice and some of the specific tips for teasing your man above, you’ve got plenty to try out if you want to tease your man. Knowing how much you can turn him on and make him want you is a great way to feel confident and sexy, so keep practicing until you find the right balance. Remember that teasing should be fun for you, too, and can lead to some amazing sex, which is why teasing sexually works so well as foreplay when you want to be naughty!