How many types of orgasm can you name? And how many do you have? Many women struggle to just have one, the clitoral orgasm. You may have mastered that and the G-spot orgasm, but have you heard of the cervical orgasm?
According to the Taoists, the cervix is the third gateway, after the clit and G-spot. Of course, it’s literally the “gate” between your uterus and vagina, and it serves its main purpose during childbirth. But can your cervix be a source of pleasure? We certainly think so!
Some cultures believe that there is an irrevocable connection between your cervix and your body, which is exactly what makes a cervical orgasm so amazing. And sex educators such as Annie Sprinkle are among those who have been able to have a cervical orgasm. She even lists this as one of seven types of female orgasm. But what’s so great about a cervical orgasm? Read on!
HOW CERVICAL ORGASMS DIFFER
You’ve probably heard someone describe clitoral orgasms differently from G-spot or even cervical orgasms. Clitoral orgasms tend to be “shallow”, which means they’re focused on the outside of your body. The come and go quickly, and they’re centered at your clit. Some people go so far as to call them “immature.” Now, we think all orgasms are pretty awesome, so we wouldn’t say that. But many women do report that cervical orgasms feel better than the other types.
While G-spot orgasms might be deeper, cervical orgasms tend to radiate throughout the entire body. Muscles contractions are deeper, closer to your stomach. Some women feel exhausted after this type of orgasm in a way that doesn’t happen with a clitoral orgasm – like when a man cums and is down for the count.
A cervical orgasm may be much longer than you’re used to. For some women, it may be possible to have multiple cervical orgasms, too. It’s no wonder why you might want to try it!
If you continue reading about cervical orgasms, you might find some of the personal accounts and anecdotes to be a bit New Age. Some practitioners say that absolutely every woman can have one, but that’s a bold statement. Comparing an orgasm to taking ecstasy is also setting the bar pretty high, and some people simply don’t want to mess around with Taoism or Tantric sex or anything else that might seem far out.
It’s totally cool if those ideas don’t apply to you, and you simply want to experiment – just like it’s cool if you dowant that type of experience. The information below will help you get closer to your goal!
HOW TO ACHIEVE CERVICAL ORGASM
1. UNDERSTAND YOUR CERVIX
Your cervix is the tissue that connects your uterus and vagina. It might feel like a tiny donut if you or your partner touches it. It dilates during childbirth, IUD insertion and your period. All of those things can be pretty uncomfortable, so you might not be too keen on playing around up there. But your cervix can lead to great pleasure if you spend a little time waking it up.
Did you know that your cervix tends to sit lower around your period? This might make cervical stimulation easier. However, the cervix also tends to be harder during these times, so you may find it more uncomfortable to try to have a cervical orgasm then.
Warning: some women find that cervical stimulation actually releases emotions. So don’t be alarmed if you find yourself experiencing some feelings you didn’t expect.
Still not everyone woman enjoys having their cervix touched, according to sex educator Carol Queen:
Some people find this kind of stimulation unerotic, neutral, unpleasant or painful—so the cervix isn’t a magical hidden pleasure point, at least not for everyone.
You know your cervix better than anyone, of course!
2. PLENTY OF FOREPLAY
If you’ve only associated cervical contact with discomfort in the past, then you might be understandably wary about trying for a cervical orgasm. One way to make things more pleasurable is to make sure you warm up with plenty of foreplay. Ask your man for a sensual massage. He can go down on you or finger you. Perhaps you’ll already have had intercourse before you even try to access your cervix. Make sure to use plenty of lube, too.
All of this should help you relax, which is essential to the cervical orgasm!
3. DEEP PENETRATION
Deep penetration is key to the cervical orgasm. While the G-spot might lie just a few inches inside your vagina, the cervix is all the way at the back. A partner with a longer penis comes in handy, as does finding a position that pushes your cervix a little lower. Many women have found success with doggy style, which is great for G-spot stimulation, too! You can also try when you’re on top because you’ll be in control!
When it comes to playing with toys, choose a longer vibrator or dildo. Because you’re aiming for cervical orgasm, you might not necessarily need one that’s super thick and filling – unless that’s what you’re into, of course. There are a few other choices to make when picking dildos.
4. EXPERIMENT WITH TECHNIQUE
While many women don’t like having their cervix pushed, poked or prodded, some find that these very things are key to having a cervical orgasm. One thing to try is consistent cervical stimulation once you’ve made initial contact. Then, stimulation will be less “pokey.”
Some experts even recommend visualizing your cervix as a gateway and allowing it to open so that you will find stimulation pleasurable and can have a cervical orgasm. Try it and see if it helps!
Now, let us remind you that if you’re capable of having a cervical orgasm, this is awesome! Do it if it’s something that feels good to you or turns on your man. But if you’re not capable, that’s okay too. Whether there are separate types of orgasm or you can simply cum through various forms of stimulation (such as with G-spot and clitoral orgasms), it’s wonderful as long as you can achieve any type of orgasm.
There’s nothing wrong with you, either, if you’ve having a little trouble getting off. It’s not all about the destination!
For some women, focusing on orgasm is exactly what makes it so hard to get off. Make sure you’re enjoying the experience. If it doesn’t happen this time, you can always try again. But you don’t have to if you simply don’t like having your cervix touched.