There are a few really easy things that you need to do if you want to make a guy horny. While some guys can get horny and turned on just by holding your hand, other guys need a lot more to get horny. Below you will find some of my most powerful strategies from the Princess Fantasy for turning your man on without acting slutty or weird.
How to Get a Guy Horny
1. Set the Mood
The mood or atmosphere of where you are with your man plays a big role in making him horny and turning him on. If you are at a football game together during a sunny day, you could both be having a great time.
But this isn’t a place where most guys get turned on…
How about in the corner of a quiet bar, with a candle on your table? This is much more likely to help make your man horny. So the next time you are choosing somewhere for you and your man to hang out, ask yourself this:
Is this place likely to make him horny or not?
Some great places that you should consider that will make him horny are:
- Small, quiet bars
- Your place
- His place
- A deserted beach at night
These are just a few suggestions, but you’ll notice that each of these 3 places are quite private and not too loud.
Finding a way to engage all his senses is important if you want to make him horny.
Smell – Candles or incense treat his nose. You can spray your signature scent around the room or apply lotion to get his attention. Pick scented massage products to fill the room with a sexy smell. Leather is a scent many people enjoy. If either of you is sensitive to smells, you might want to skip this. A headache is not sexy.
Sight – Dressing up sexy will tantalize his eyes, and we’ll get to that shortly. Don’t forget other things he can see. Declutter a room and lower the lights. Switch out bulbs if the ones you have are bright. Candles make a room feel romantic or sexy, too, and LED candles don’t pose a fire risk. Drape a scarf over a lamp to make a room feel sexy. If you’re a little kinky, a blindfold prevents him from seeing anything, which can really amplify the mood for sex!
Taste – There are products that you can wear so your skin will taste different. Flavored lube can do this, too. But he might just enjoy the way you taste. Consider wine or another food that’s known to be an aphrodisiac.
Hearing – Consider putting on a sexy playlist to help get him horny and seduce him. Some people might find the sound of a thunderstorm especially sexy. You could even play porn in the background. Lower your voice just a bit to be sexier.
Touch – Silky sheets and scarves, fur, gloves, your own hair on his skin. All of these things can engage with his sense of touch. Don’t forget how the room feels, either. Too hot or too cold can be uncomfortable. It should be in a comfortable range to undress.
2. Think About How You Look
How you look is a crucial aspect of making a guy horny. I say it over and over again. Guys get turned on by what they see. Dressing in an old overcoat, having greasy hair with split ends and wearing baggy jeans won’t turn on many guys (although, there are always exceptions).
So am I advising that you dress like a slut?
Hell no!
You don’t have to dress slutty to turn a guy on. You need to dress sexy. Dressing sexy means wearing clothes and makeup that show off your good parts.
- Tight trousers or leggings can help show off your butt.
- Low cut tops help show off your cleavage.
- Certain bras can make your breasts look bigger.
- You may be hotter when wearing glasses or you may look hotter without them.
- If you have great legs, then try wearing a dress to show them off.
- If you want to look taller, wear heels.
- If you have some spots, use concealer.
I could go on and on, but I hope you get the picture. You have a lot of control over your looks. And your looks play a huge part in making your man horny.
One element, in particular, is lingerie, sensual pieces of clothing and accessories designed to show off your asset when you wear them before – and sometimes after – sex. The key to picking out the right piece of lingerie is to choose a piece that highlights your best areas and perhaps minimizes the ones you’re concerned about.
You can often pair lingerie with stockings and heels, which many guys love.
Remember, however, that you want to feel comfortable in your lingerie. He’ll be able to tell if you’re not comfortable, and it’s definitely a turn off for both of you. So don’t force yourself to wear lingerie if you’re not feeling it.
Another thing to consider is layers. That way, you can take them off one by one as you strip for him (learn how) or even give him a lap dance.
3. Touch Him
Being in a place with a seductive atmosphere is a good start if you want to make your man horny. Being in a seductive place and dressing sexy will help a lot more. But if you are not touching the guy you want to turn on, then neither of these things will help much to make him horny!
Touching your man is VITAL if you want to make him horny.
When I say touching, I do not mean groping or anything inappropriate. I mean that you should just be making physical contact with him whenever you are talking to him or hanging out with him. This physical contact will help to turn your man on and also let him know how you feel about him. It should start off with nothing too serious or creepy and slowly build up until you are getting closer to him.
Below are some examples of how to touch him with increasing intimacy:
- Touch his arm or shoulder briefly when talking or making a point.
- Touch his hand briefly when you are talking or laughing together.
- Touch his leg briefly with your hand when you are both talking.
- If you are sitting down together, gently push your leg up against his for a short while.
- Rest your hand on either his hand or leg for a few seconds while talking to him.
All of these techniques are great for helping to make your man horny without creeping him out. When combined with setting the right mood and looking sexy, you are practically guaranteed to have him salivating over you.
When you’re more confident that he wants to have sex with you, such as when you’re in a relationship, you can up the ante. Kiss him deeply and passionately (tips here). Press your body against his or perhaps grind your butt against his crotch. Massage his penis through his pants or unzip his fly and start giving him head.
Related: The Ultimate Guide On How To Give A Great Blowjob
Focus on his erogenous zones. Don’t forget his nipples, either. Most men find this aids or causes arousal [1].
These more direct types of touch can be a good way to get him horny and let him know you want to have sex if he’s not good at picking up cues. This leads me to my next point.
4. Be Direct
It’s understandable if you want to drop hints to initiate sex.
This might help to get him horny 🙂
Or he may miss your cues altogether 🙁
Don’t worry…a lot of guys are slow to get the hint! The solution…
Try being direct instead.
If you walk out of the bedroom naked, your partner is unlikely to miss the hint that you want sex. And seeing you in the nude will likely get him horny!
One small study found that simply undressing yourself or your partner leads to sex 100 percent of the time [2]. If you strip down, you’ll be getting down. It’s that simple.
Directly asking for sex has a positive success rate, too: 76%, But undressing might feel sexier and less awkward.
Women initiate sex less often than men [3], but your man might appreciate it if you initiate sex. Plus, doing so can make you feel powerful. It might be awkward the first time or two, but the more you do it, the more accustomed you’ll become to initiating sex.
Read: 9 Ways to Initiate Sex, Drive Him Wild, and Take Control of Your Sex Life
5. Remember What Gets You Horny
You might recall a previous post for women about how to get horny. I took a survey of readers and got their insight into what they do when they want to get horny. Many of these things apply to men as well as women, and you can use them when learning how to get your boyfriend horny.
Our readers listed some popular ways to get horny:
Taking a shower or bubble bath together – You can invite your man into the shower for shower sex. The steam and slippery suds will get him in the mood.
Read erotica or watch porn together – You can even read erotica to him if he’s into it. If porn is too direct, put on a movie with a sexy scene that you love and see how he responds.
Send him a sexy text – Many women get turned on when they look at their phones and see a message telling them how hot they are or how much their partners desire them. Why not do the same? You can up the ante by sending a voice or video recording or a photo of you. Remember, it doesn’t have to be X-rated. Just give him a glimpse of what’s in store for him.
Masturbate for him – Many women feel horny when they masturbate, but if you masturbate in front of your partner, it can make him horny.
Women initiate sex less often than men [3], but your man might appreciate it if you initiate sex. Plus, doing so can make you feel powerful. It might be awkward the first time or two, but the more you do it, the more accustomed you’ll become to initiating sex.
Read: 9 Ways to Initiate Sex, Drive Him Wild, and Take Control of Your Sex Life
5. Remember What Gets You Horny
You might recall a previous post for women about how to get horny. I took a survey of readers and got their insight into what they do when they want to get horny. Many of these things apply to men as well as women, and you can use them when learning how to get your boyfriend horny.
Our readers listed some popular ways to get horny:
Taking a shower or bubble bath together – You can invite your man into the shower for shower sex. The steam and slippery suds will get him in the mood.
Read erotica or watch porn together – You can even read erotica to him if he’s into it. If porn is too direct, put on a movie with a sexy scene that you love and see how he responds.
Send him a sexy text – Many women get turned on when they look at their phones and see a message telling them how hot they are or how much their partners desire them. Why not do the same? You can up the ante by sending a voice or video recording or a photo of you. Remember, it doesn’t have to be X-rated. Just give him a glimpse of what’s in store for him.
Masturbate for him – Many women feel horny when they masturbate, but if you masturbate in front of your partner, it can make him horny.
Shop for some sexy lingerie or toys – Doing so can rev up both of your engines, and you might find yourselves having sex after you checkout online or come home from the store. And if you’re shopping online, you’ll be excited for your package to show up on your doorstep!
Talk about fantasies – Not only is this a way to turn him on, but you can discover new things to try in bed. Here are the 10 most common fantasies.
Have a drink – But just one. This can loosen you up and help him get horny. Too much will make it hard for him to perform, however [4].
Massage – Although you read about the importance of touch above, don’t forget to give him a massage. Not only does this connect the two of you physically, but receiving a massage can reduce stress or promote relaxation [5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10]. And stress is a serious killer of desire for many people (especially women( [11 p 118, 12 p 29].
You’ll notice that several of these tips include talking dirty. It will be hard to understand how to make a guy horny if you’re afraid of talking dirty. Don’t worry, however! You can get tips for talking dirty.
Sexual “Conditioning” – Now, there’s something interesting you may have noticed. If you tend to do something before sex, then doing this at other times is actually one way to make him horny… even if you’re not trying to!
What do we mean?
Things such as spraying a certain scent only before sex, letting your hair down, or playing a specific song or movie when you want to get him in the mood can become associated with sexy times. It can condition him to think about sex. So when he experiences these things in the future, he might automatically become horny.
You might remember this idea of “conditioning” if you took a psychology class. What you might not realize is that it can apply to sex, too [13]!
This is a powerful key to understanding how to make your man horny and men might be especially susceptible to this conditioning [14]. Feel free to experiment, but recognize that you might cause him to get an erection any time a song comes on the radio or when he smells your signature sex smell… which could be a big issue if his sister wears the same perfume!
6. Avoid Stereotypical/Cliche “Sexy” Tropes…Most of the Time
One mistake women tend to make when discovering how to make a guy horny is by doing what they see in movies whether it be showing up in a trenchcoat with nothing underneath, wearing sky-high stilettos, talking in a husky voice or what-have-you. These things certainly look good in the movies, and they can work. It all depends on whether you can make them work.
If you meet him wearing sky-high heels or wearing all black leather, the sight might be exotic and make him horny.. or it might make you feel so awkward and unable to move that it’s more cheesy or comical than sexy. It’s easy to go over-the-top when trying to be sexy. Sometimes less really is more.
Being comfortable is key, so it’s okay to add little sexy things or to find your own brand of sexy rather than imitating someone else.
7. Be Careful with Laughter
Laughter can be a great way to bond, but if you want to make him horny, it can get in the way of your goal. Laughter can be really distracting as can too much talking. If you’ve been with your man a while, you probably know how he feels about this. But you might want to play it safe with new partners until you figure out their style.
This means not being too goofy or silly and not talking too much or too loudly. It’s okay to lower your voice to a sexy whisper (but one that he can hear) and to take things slowly.