7 TRICKS TO GET YOUR BOYFRIEND TO SPANK YOU IN THE BEDROOM

So you want to be spanked. That’s great! But you may be wondering to yourself, “How do I get my boyfriend to spank me?” You can always leave a copy of Fifty Shades of Grey on your nightstand, but there’s no guarantee he’ll read it. No, there are much better methods for getting your boyfriend to accommodate your spanking needs. How to get my boyfriend to spank me is a common question, and we will provide the answers.

If you are tired about just thinking about how to get my boyfriend to spank you, and want him to start doing it, here are some ways:

  1. ASK HIM DIRECTLY

When you’re not having sex yet, like when you’re out to dinner, bring up the subject. Say to him, “I want you to spank me.” He’ll probably like the idea and might want to get home before the appetizers arrive.

Or you could wait and say, “Spank me,” while you are having sex. Maybe you can bite him or slap him on the butt. Then you can tell him that you deserve a spanking for doing that.

  1. WEAR SOME PERSONALIZED PANTIES

You can write a special message for your boyfriend that he’ll see when you’re wearing only your panties. Using a permanent marker, write the words, “Spank me” on the back end of your underwear.

Or buy underwear that is see-through only at the butt. He’ll get the “spank me” message loud and clear. There are also panties with sayings like “It’s not going to spank itself” on them to send the right message.

You may want to remove your underwear before the spanking begins!

  1. TELL HIM HOW YOU LIKE IT WHEN HE’S IN CONTROL

One of the top fantasies women have is that of being forcefully ravished by a man. Many romance novels feature a strong male character who wants sex and who won’t accept a woman’s initial hesitance. So if that sounds like you, tell him that you want to be dominated, and the way you like him to show his control is to give you a good spanking.

  1. TALK DIRTY DURING SEX

When you’re having sex, ask him if you’ve been a bad girl or if you’re a naughty girl. He’ll probably say that yes you are. Then ask him what you’ve done. He’ll probably say something, whether it’s sexually related or not, like you didn’t give him a blow job yet or that you left your clothes on the floor. You then respond that you need to be punished for being so naughty. He might then pick up that you want to be spanked at this point. If not, go ahead and tell him, “Spank me” and that you deserve it for doing whatever it was he said you did.

  1. HOW TO SPANK FOR THE MOST PLEASURE

To get the most pleasure from being spanked, have him bend you over his knee. Then, have him put a pillow under your stomach for maximum comfort and positioning. You can also get down on all fours or lie down on your stomach. He should be spanking the meatier part of your butt cheek where the cheek meets your thigh. After the spank, it feels good for him to lightly caress the area he just spanked. Note that he shouldn’t be wearing any rings on his fingers when he spanks you.

  1. WHAT TO USE

Your boyfriend can use several tools besides his hand to spank you. With all of these, it’s best to start slowly and build up the intensity of the swing used to do the spanking. You might even enjoy a massage or a soft tickle to begin. Then, he can work his way up to letting you feel the sting of the intense slap.

His hand: Start by having him use his hand, of course. He can smack you on your butt open-handed, or he can cup his hand. Both feel different and make different sounds.

A paddle: (available in wood, leather, silicone or metal): Each type of paddle feels differently, and all of them are more forceful than the hand. You might want to have him start with his hand and then switch to the paddle. This tool might be too intense to use right from the beginning.

A whip: You can find whips or even riding crops in all sorts of lengths and styles. Whips usually make a loud, cracking noise.

A flogger: This is like a whip, but it has many tails. Floggers made of soft material, such as suede, might be better when you first start.

A cane: The cane sensation is similar to a whip’s. You’ll feel a sharp, intense pain. A cane will probably leave marks on your skin.

Consider wearing Ben Wa balls in your vagina during your spanking session When he spanks, you’ll feel the balls moving around.

  1. SET UP SOME RULES

Now that you know how to get the job done, there are some ground rules you should consider. You need a safe word that you can say if the spanking is hurting you more than exciting you.

But don’t say, “stop” or “that hurts.” Those words might put a damper on the experience. A prearranged word that has no meaning associated with sex, like “broccoli,” will let him know that you’ve had enough.

Or if you don’t want him to stop but want him to ease up a bit on the pain part, you can use code words that mimic traffic lights. Red means stop, yellow means ease up, and green means keep doing what you’re doing. 

Spanking is one of those activities that provides pleasure even though some pain is involved. The first time you ask your boyfriend to spank you might feel a bit forced or awkward, but you’ll probably both enjoy yourselves so much that it won’t be difficult to get your boyfriend to spank you again.

Depending on how intense the spanking session is, your butt might be a little red and sore afterward, but that feeling shouldn’t last for long, especially if you apply a balm to help soothe it.

If it felt good and you you enjoy being dominated, what’s a little sensitivity later? Now that you’ve found out the answer to how to get your boyfriend to spank you, you’re all set for some fun.


6 comments

  • I Ben a boy please come an spank good ok then then I slow put dick in your ass slow ok

    Waynecopeland
  • I like be spank’s a lot and slow put my dick down your back an outing slow your ass

    Waynecopeland
  • Hey I’m 15 and I have always wanted to be spanked since I was 9 or so. Never in a sexual way but just for discipline like when I don’t clean my room or do homework. I don’t have a boyfriend but when I have one I want him to spank me I think so. My parents never spanked me and I think I need some discipline I don’t get really good grades at school and stuff but I just wanted to say this. Haha bye

    Sara
  • how to get spanked…

    1) wear panties around the house with a loose top on (no bra)

    2) act like a brat … little things.. like standing in his way when he’s trying to leave a room, or walking up to him and knocking something on his desk on the floor.. draping your hair over his face from behind while he’s trying to watch tv… (this is tricky, b/c you want to be a brat, not a c**t / b***h. Huge difference. if you know your guy, you know what slowly pushes his buttons as opposed to sets him off like tnt.. you want the slow build of frustration, not the explosion.).

    3) if he tells you to move or pick up whatever it is up that you knocked over or stop putting your hair in his face / blockin ghis view… say “what are you gonna do, spank me?” (This is an earworm… it plants the idea of spanking as an acceptable action to handling the situation in his head)

    (for some guys.. that’s plenty.. they will leap into action, grab you, bend you over their knee, tear those panties down and start going to town)

    (if your guy still can’t take a hint)

    4) keep being a brat

    5) when he finally calls you out on it (“why are you being such an a-hole!?”) say something like “what are you gonna do about it?” or “maybe you need to put me in my place”

    That should trigger him to take action if he’s a semi-dominant guy. You’ve already planted the idea of you being spanked in his head, and now all you’re doing is triggering it as a response to your actions.

    If your guy doesn’t take the hint from all this.. then you need to just be more direct

    6) catch him sitting down (eg: on the couch)

    7) step in front of him, pause, make eye contact for a couple of seconds

    8) drop your panties / take them off

    9) lay across his lap ass up / face down

    If he goes “what do you want me to do with this?” then you’ve got a guy that’s just not into spanking.

    A guy that’s never spanked, but might be into it, and presented ass like this will take a hint and start rubbing your butt and slapping it and (if he’s cares about you) will ask if you want it harder or softer and such.

    It’s good to discuss limits while you’re doing it. Let him give you a good hard smack on the bottom to see how it feels, and tell him if it’s too much or not. Some girls just like light spanking. Others like good hard swats.

    Congratulations, you’re now spanking.

    But, since spanking is now on the menu, you need to discuss using it for play and using it for discipline, because once the spanking door is open, many guys will revert to it as a way to discipline. So, you need to set some clear ground rules for discipline spanking.

    The rules my wife and I have are

    1) she gets bare-bottomed
    2) I go full-force (no safe word allowed)
    3) I tell her what pissed me off / what she did wrong while I’m swatting her to help the message head home
    4) she has to keep count
    5) 10 open-hand swats (no tools, belts, paddles or such.. if my hand stings, I know her bottom stings, so that’s my feedback loop)
    6) she can squirm and wriggle, but she’s not allowed to block the swats with her hands. If she does, we start over from 10.
    7) after that, I either leave her on her own to contemplate what she did wrong, or I rub her bottom and comfort her. (if I’m really upset, I leave and go for a walk.. this is so I won’t be tempted to keep coming back and swatting her, b/c then it’s just abuse. Me leaving her is the worst punishment she can have, because it leaves her in a time of need all alone and feeling vulnerable, and I often come back to her crying.)
    8) after care is important… it’s important to follow up and talk about why she was spanked, but not scold her.. the spanking was the scolding. It’s time to move from spank mode to nice mode, and cuddle.

    Spanking for fun should have a safe word, and the spankee should be in control. But, spanking for discipline should have the spanker have all the control, but with pre-determiend limits / boundaries to keep it from becoming abuse.

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  • I totally get turned on just reading spanking stories ever since i was young my boyfriend is very hesitant to spank me i dont know how to get him to do it im at a loss need a good old fashion over the knee bare bottom spanking

    Jenn

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