So you want to take a sexy selfie. That’s great! It can also help increase your self-confidence. But the idea of snapping a sexy photo can be a little daunting, especially if you haven’t done it before.We’ve curated the following pieces of advice to help you achieve success when aiming for that sexy selfie. There’s no reason to feel self-conscious when sending that photo if you’re sexting your man, and you might even learn you’re more photogenic than you once thought!

Your sexy selfie can become part of a fun and flirty text game.


You can absolutely take a sexy selfie when you’re wearing day clothes. In fact, if you give your man just a glimpse at your bra or underwear underneath, it can be super effective. Just pop a few buttons on that business attire or slide up your skirt! However, it can be hard to feel sexy enough to want to take a photo if you’re still wearing the same duds you wore at work.

You have tons of options to work with. Perhaps there’s a dress you own that hugs your curves in all the right way. Your favorite pushup bra can provide the perfect boost, too. Heels and boots flatter your legs, and they’re perfect if you or your man has a foot fetish.

Footwear pairs perfectly with stockings, too. Who doesn’t love the seam running up the back of a woman’s legs?

Consider lingerie, too. If you’re of the mind that less is more, wrap yourself in a sheet or blanket to hint that you’re wearing underneath. It will definitely drive your man crazy!

You don’t need to spend a fortune on a wardrobe just to take a selfie. You might be surprised how sexy things in your wardrobe can be. A button down shirt that’s partly open or a longer t-shirt can both be incredibly flattering, and it will definitely turn him on if it’s his shirt you’re wearing!

Remember not to hide your body.


Yes, this is all about makeup. Even if you don’t wear much – or any – on a daily basis, you might want to wear a little when taking selfies. That’s completely up to you, but we’ve got plenty of advice to help you perfect your makeup application.

  • Don’t be afraid to go bolder than you would normally for daily wear.
  • Highlight the bridge of your nose, cheekbones, center of your chin and forehead.
  • Apply bronzer along your hairline, under your jaw, right beneath your lower lip and under your cheekbones.
  • Avoid too-light makeup, which can make you look washed out when you use the flash on your camera.
  • Use clear mascara to tame your brows – and flyaways!
  • Pinch your cheeks for a rosy glow and you can avoid using blush entirely!
  • Avoid sparkly makeup on your face, which can reflect the flash from your camera.
  • Pick a brighter lipstick so your lips look fuller in your selfie.
  • Opt for a semi-matte or matte foundation or use powder over your foundation to prevent any shine from showing up in your pictures. Blotting paper can help to reduce shine, too.
  • If your hair or skin is looking too dry, a light water spritz can refresh it.
  • Bend over forward real quick to give your hair some volume if your blowout has fallen over the day.

The right prop can really create the look and feel you’re going for whenever you take a selfie. It might be some sparkly earrings or a white scarf, but it brightens up your face. A pearl necklace will always be in style (if you’re looking for information on the other type of pearl necklace, click here). Plus, holding on to a prop tends to relax your body and create a more natural pose.

There are so many options when it comes to props. You can grab a teddy bear if you want to look cute in your selfie. Place a pillow to cover your nudity. A banana or lollipop might be cliche, but it can also be sexy as hell. Keep the curlers in your hair for a “getting ready” selfie. Perhaps grab an apron and spatula to show that you’re sexy no matter what you’re doing.

You don’t have to keep it PG, either. A flogger or paddle makes for a great photo prop, and they’re functional for impact play, too. Some leather cuffs or a vibrator can hint at what you’ve got in store for your man when the two of you are together and don’t just have to send selfies back and forth. It’s a great idea when you’re in a long-distance relationship.


There are so many ways to take a selfie that will boost your confidence and make your man drool! Angles are incredibly important. Not all photos have to be straight on. You can take it from the side, from above, from below or from behind. You could even take a photo from behind you as you look in a mirror. Capturing your reflection shows two angles!

Don’t be afraid of closeups, either. The angle of your hip or swell of your butt while lace lays against your bare skin makes for a great shot, even if your face isn’t in the photo. That way, people won’t be able to identify you from your sexy selfie, either. Practice framing the body parts you love and try to capture the reason you love them before taking a selfie and sending it off to your man.


Now, one thing you don’t want to do is to pick a pose that’s difficult or seems forced. This will come through in your photo. You know exactly what we mean if your “photo smile” looks foreign to your natural smile, so don’t push yourself into any positions that are uncomfortable. That’s just not sexy! Hint: think of something funny as you press the shutter button.

The classic red carpet pose involves placing one hand on your hip, turn your body away from the camera and look back over your shoulder. This will be flattering for both your face and body! We’re also big fans of the pose where you lie on your stomach on the bed with your knees bent behind you. It’s sexy and fun while flattering your breasts!

If you prefer lying on your back, lean your heels against the wall to elongate your legs. Your hair can splay out around you, or you can bend your neck over the edge of a piece of furniture and smile at the camera in your upside down pose!

Posture also helps when you take a selfie. To improve posture, imagine you’re squeezing a lemon between your shoulder blades. This pulls your shoulders back while simultaneously pushing your chest out. For a more boudoir photo, arch your back seductively.

Bend your leg slightly to hide your tummy with your knee if you’re worried about it. You can also show off shoes or boots with a similar pose. Pull your knees to your chest to make footwear the focus of your photo.

Reach toward your shoulders to give your hands something to do when standing up in photos. You can also play with your hair.

Make eye contact with the camera. When your man sees the photo, it’ll be like you’re looking right at him!

Remember that even the most gorgeous woman can look awkward or unattractive with the wrong pose. Think of those double-chin pictures. This unflattering image is a result of looking down toward your camera. Look straight on or above, which also allows you to show off you bosom.

Similarly, taking a photo from too high above you will make you look smaller and wider.

To highlight your jaw, push your face outward a bit. You can also tilt your chin down as you do this. Looking sideways or backward over your shoulder is a great way to flatter your face, especially when smiling! Look through some existing photos to see if there’s a specific angle you prefer, then use it to take a selfie!

Some of these poses can be difficult if you’re holding a camera or phone with one hand. Fortunately, modern cameras include a countdown mode, and a front-facing camera makes taking selfies incredibly easy!

Set your camera on a steady surface before taking a photo. If you use your phone to take a selfie, a case with kickstand can be useful. Finally, a tripod is useful when it comes to taking selfies, and you can even buy small tripods for use with your phone for under $10!


Professional photographers often bring a mobile light source with them, even when the sun is bright overhead. It’s a staple in the industry. While you probably don’t have thousands of dollars in photography equipment at your disposal – although you absolutely should use it to take a selfie if you do! – you can still make the best of the light you do have.

There are a number of ways you can play with light when taking a sexy selfie. Try taking your photo at different times of day. Natural light is almost always flattering to the subject of a photo! Lean against a window or sit on the seat while the light washes in around you.

See how your photos look in different rooms, which will have different types of light and brightness. Move so that your light source is in front of you or behind you.

You can get extra creative and incorporate soft candle light or even a string of decorative lights. Vary the type of light that brightens your selfies for more interesting images. Dimming the lights can also make you feel more comfortable when you’re on top.

Finally, be wary of flash. It can be useful, even during daylight, but it can also be harsh and unflattering when it washes you out. Having enough ambient light so you don’t need to use the flash can combat this.


You don’t want to look like someone else in your photos, and some people forget this when learning how to take a sexy selfie. A filter that brightens up a cloudy day or makes colors pop more than your camera was able to capture when taking selfies is okay.

Your camera probably has an option to shoot in sepia or black and white, which can create a cool, artistic effect. Just don’t go overboard.

We all know you (probably) don’t look like Kim Kardashian. Your photos shouldn’t undergo extensive Photoshop. And you don’t need to flatten every wrinkle or blemish. After all, those imperfections are all part of you, and that’s why your man loves you!

Your sexy selfies can be something you take on the fly before you go out to the club because you know you look good, or they may be something you put a little planning and effort into. No one expects you to take professional-quality photos, but you can take a really stunning photo with the right outfit, props and tools.

Still, even with planning, you might find that you need to take a half dozen or more photos until you’re satisfied. Perhaps the reflection you see in the mirror just look better than what the camera snaps. This can be frustrating, but even professionals take many more photos than they decide to keep, so don’t let it get you down!

If you avoid the camera because you think you’re not photogenic, you’ve got a much lower chance of taking a photo that rocks. Similarly, you’ll miss out if you hide because of sexual anxiety. 

When you follow this advice on how to take a sexy selfie, however, you’ll get better at taking selfies and may find yourself having to snap fewer photos to get that perfect shot! Beware that he might send a dick pic back.

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