Technology has made it possible to have a dynamic, satisfying relationship no matter what the distance, but that doesn’t mean you can completely ditch the creativity needed to keep your relationship interesting.
Texting games are great for maintaining the playful, engaging atmosphere that every relationship needs to thrive, but it can be difficult to think of good ideas for doing this over the limited medium of text messages. If you’re out of ideas and looking for ways you can spice up your relationship, try out these text games next time you send a message to your sweetie.
1. 20 Questions
This classic game involves only asking questions, and it can actually be even more interesting when you aren’t able to give anything away with a hasty response or a facial expression.
You can personalize the text version of these texting games by making the category into something like “my favorite book” or “the first musician/group I saw in concert,” so you can get to know each other better while playing. Or if you’re playing after dark, pick a steamier category like “sex position” or “fetish” for an extra exciting exchange.
2. Sexy Storytime
These flirty texting games might be better-suited for email or Facebook messaging, but it all depends on how in-depth you want to go.
Then again, if you’ve never done anything like this before, I’d recommend starting out over text to see where it goes. Since you can’t always see each other face-to-face in a long distance relationship, you and your man can write each other sexy stories about what you would do if you were together right then. You can start it out with a sexy message like, “If you were here right now, we would be sharing a bottle of champagne in a warm bubble bath.”
Maybe even include a picture of the bath and a little skin to help him visualize. Ask him what he would want to do next and exchange sexual fantasies from there. This not gives you new ideas to try in bed, but can also ensure better sexual compatibility the next time you see each other.
3. Guess What I’m Wearing
This text game could either be sexy or sweet—depending on your mood. In the sweet version, you can reveal the details of your cute work uniform or your comfy loungewear. You can also see how well you know him by deducing what he would wear to the gym or a party. In the naughtier version, you can see if he can guess the whole outfit—including what’s underneath.
Or better yet: text him when you’re wearing a sexy new nightie (tips on choosing the perfect lingerie) or even nothing at all. When one of you guesses the right answer, the other has to send a picture to prove it. Ideally, this would work on an item-to-item basis to get a little teasing action going on.
Since these games can be a little more difficult for fashion-oblivious men (i.e.: all men), make sure to give him a few hints. For example, “I wore it on our first date” or “It’s the same color as my eyes.” For tips on what to wear, make sure to check out this guide on how to dress sexy and also take a look at our tips on how to be hot.
4. Kill-Bang-Marry
Saucy texting games that can actually be pretty insightful, “Kill-Bang-Marry” is a game where one person names three celebrities and the other has to choose which one to kill, which to “bang,” and which to marry. Although it has the potential to stir up some jealousy, try to think of K-B-M as a good way to figure out what he’s into.
Learn: How to deal with jealousy.
For example, if he chooses “bang” for known bad girl celebrities, you can embrace your own bad girl side the next time you want to turn him on.
You can give these texting games an intellectual edge by going outside of the realm of pop culture with people like politicians, authors, artists, and scientists. Example: Einstein, Isaac Newton, or Charles Darwin?
5. Never Have I Ever
It seems unusual to think of Never Have I Ever as an easily-adaptable game by text, but it’s essentially just a question-and-answer game. If you’ve never played before, each player starts by holding up five fingers. Someone starts by saying “Never have I ever…” and whatever thing they haven’t done.
For example, say the first player says “Never have I ever given a blow job,” every player that has given a blow job has to put down one finger. The person who has all five fingers down first loses.
If you want to keep up the mysterious aspect of the game over text, a good way to play is by one person proposing “Never have I ever done xyz…” and the other writing back “Five fingers” or whatever number they have in response to the question. You can also respond with pictures via text or Snapchat, which would show how many fingers you still have up.
6. Lyric Loving
If you’re both into music, you can put each other’s skills to the test by playing Guess the Lyric games by text. This would be best for new relationships where you’re still feeling out each other’s tastes and interests. However, if you think you know your bae well enough in the music realm (or you do after a few rounds of Guess the Lyric), you can make this game a little more fun by seeing if you two can communicate using only song lyrics.
These texting games allow you both to get a little more creative with your conversations, and can also build mental associations that will make him think of you when he hears certain lyrics and songs. This sex songs playlist should give you a bunch of ideas.
7. Roleplay
These texting games don’t have to be dirty—though they certainly can be if you’re feeling feisty! Try sending some of the these filthy dirty text messages.
Roleplay can also mean just embodying a different personality and showing each other how clever and multi-faceted you can be. It doesn’t have to be an actual person, either.
For example, you can play a catty Beverly Hills housewife gold-digger and he can be your wealthy doting husband. Bonus: dress up like your character and send him some fun pictures to really get into the spirit.
Another cute way to play roleplaying texting games is to pretend to be yourselves, only as a couple in the future. You can talk about what about your fantasies or just how much you’re loving the great job you have—whatever gets him fantasizing about a future with you. This is also a good way to see if you two are on the same page as far as future plans go.
8. Guess the Body Part
The human body can be sexy, weird, and totally gross all at the same time, which is part of the reason why “Guess the Body Part” is one of the more varied games by text. Although it seems like the right answer would be obvious, you’d be surprised how easy it is to distort or just frame a body part in a way that makes it not so obvious.
Extreme close-ups are ideal for keeping some ambiguity, or you can try cutting part of it off in the picture so it’s not quite so clear. With Snapchat, you can set the time limit to between 1 and 3 seconds so he only has a quick glance to work with, making this game even harder—and potentially sexier.
Bonus points for making it one of these sensitive erogenous zones.
9. Scavenger Hunt
This is one of those text games that will involve mostly pictures, and is best played when one or both of you is on-the-go.
For example, if he’s going grocery shopping you can text him something like “find my favorite cereal” or “find the cheapest item in the entire store.” Since this game has the potential to be time-consuming and maybe a little difficult, you can get creative by making it more conceptual. For example, you could text him to “find something that reminds you of me” or “find an object that describes your mood.”
These text games allow you both to turn mundane tasks into something a little more exciting, and can ensure that he’s thinking about you often during the day.
Like in-person relationship & sex games along with sending sexual text messages, remember that balance is key. Being playful is a healthy and fun way to bond with your boo and make him miss you when you’re not around, but…
Make sure you don’t get into the habit of playing games nonstop just because regular texting feels too boring by comparison.
You need to be able to have regular serious conversations with each other if you want your relationship to be meaningful and substantial.
One of the problems with games and anything that involves playful language is that there’s a high chance of miscommunication. Unless you regularly communicate in a serious, straightforward way, this miscommunication could cause an argument at the worst, or at the least have you both feeling confused. All in all, you’ll just want to keep in mind that there is such a thing as too much fun.