To be fair, it’s usually the man in the relationship who needs reminding about saying sweet things every once in a while. However, it’s easy for anyone to fall into the habit of taking their partner for granted. More on that here. Saying “I love you” and complimenting your boyfriend more often are good starts, but sometimes sweet things to say require a little more thought.
Here are some ideas to get you started.
1. “OUT OF ALL THE FISH IN THE SEA, I’M SO GLAD YOU CHOSE ME.”
Inspired by an adorable Pinterest craft, this quote is an extra reminder that the love in a relationship must stay active. Even though he chose you, you recognize that he’s a great catch (no pun intended) and that it’s both of your jobs to make sure the spark that brought you together stays alive. This is one of the sweet things to say with something literally sweet–like a bag full of sour gummy worms—to be sure your man truly appreciates the sentiment.
Plus, it makes it a little more special than just your usual compliments.
2. “I CAN’T WAIT TO SPEND THE REST OF MY LIFE WITH YOU.”
We all need to feel secure when in a relationship, and talking about the future is one of the ways you can reassure your man that you’re in for the long haul. Not to mention, it’s exciting! So if you’re looking for personalized sweet things to say to your boyfriend, fantasize about what kind of house you’ll get together, where you’ll live, what kind of wedding you’ll have, and even what your future kids will be like.
Even if he seems like the eternal bachelor type, he most definitely has a soft spot for this kind of talk. Plus, seeing your future together it’s a sign of true love.
3. “I’M SO ATTRACTED TO YOU. ONLY YOU CAN TURN ME ON THIS MUCH.”
It’s important to regularly tell your guy how handsome and attractive he is, but it’s even better to tell him how attractive he is to you specifically. After all, you can’t have a happy relationship without attraction.
This quote can be an extra sweet thing to say to your boyfriend if you add in specific features about him that you find irresistable. For example, if you’re always captivated by his gorgeous blue eyes or his tight, athletic backside, be sure to tell him all the details that you just can’t get enough of. Explain to him your passion using your words or the words of someone else.
4. “I’VE NEVER FELT THIS WAY ABOUT ANYONE BEFORE.”
Once again, the most effective sweet things to say to your boyfriend have to make him feel special. There’s a wonderful quote from author F. Scott Fitzgerald that reads: “There are all kinds of love in this world but never the same love twice.” Even if you’ve been in love before, every relationship you have and love you share will be different with each person. Learn to cherish what’s unique about your love and to express the truly one-of-a-kind way your man makes you feel.
5. “___ HAPPENED AND IT MADE ME THINK OF YOU.”
Especially if you’ve been together a long time—but also in that early honeymoon phase—you’ll notice that little things remind you of him throughout the day. Like if you saw a dachshund puppy walking down the street and it reminded you of a story he told you about his childhood pet, let him know about those sweet little moments. These kinds of sweet things to say to your special someone have the added effect of showing him how much you really listen to him when he talks to you.
6. “THANKS FOR BEING SO PATIENT AND UNDERSTANDING, AND FOR PUTTING UP WITH ME.”
Whether you just got into a big fight or he’s just been extra patient dealing with your mood swings during “that time of the month,” this is prime time to try out some sweet things to say. Make sure he knows how much you appreciate whatever he did for you during these trying times of the relationship, and try to relate it back to something about his character that made you fall in love with him to begin with. For example, you can say that you’re grateful that he always remains calm and open-minded when a tough situation arises, or even that you appreciate his brutal honesty when you’re facing a problem that everyone else is too polite to tell you the truth about.
7. “[INSERT SWEET QUOTE/SONG LYRIC HERE].”
Let’s face it: some of us just don’t have a way with words. Luckily, for the verbally-challenged among us, there are poets, songwriters, and other quotable people who can explain your feelings perfectly by coming up with sweet things to say.
Try to avoid the cliche/obvious quotes that will literally show up on a “top 10 love quotes” list. Be creative! Listen to your own playlists and find a song lyric that genuinely reminds you of him. Or read a romantic book or watch a romantic movie to get inspired and find the perfect quote to describe the way you feel. These kinds of quotes can add a whole new layer of depth to the message you’re trying to get across.
8. “I’M EXCITED TO SEE YOU.”
According to psychiatrist and dating coach Ish Major, the phrase “I am excited” is one of the most powerful sweet things to say to your significant other. In fact, Major argues that it’s even better than “I love you.” He told Cosmo, “When we know you’re excited about spending time with us, it makes us excited about spending time with you.” Although criticism is important in a relationship to make sure both parties are happy and fulfilled, it’s important to incorporate positive, encouraging feedback into your conversations, like some of the sweet things to say listed here.
9. “YOU DESERVE ____.”
Whether he just got a raise at work or is feeling too stressed to lay back and relax, it’s always a good time to remind your boyfriend how special he is by reminding him what he deserves for being such a great guy. For example, if he’s been having an extra rough time at work recently, buy him tickets for an event he likes with the message “You deserve a day off”—just little sweet things to say to show him that you recognize everything he does and you’re there to lift him up when everything around him is bringing him down.
There is a fine line between sweet things to say and sappy, saccharine things to say. There is a time and a place for both, but you want to make sure you play it cool until you get a response from him. You definitely shouldn’t be the only one dishing out compliments and saying sweet things to your boyfriend. For a relationship to be healthy and happy, you both need to make each other feel loved and satisfied throughout.