According to Men, These 8 Things Separate Average Sex from Great Sex

People love to say, "Sex is like pizza. Even if it's done bad, it's still good."  According to womans day The point stands: consensual sex is pretty much always good, because you're having sex. But there are some things that just make it that much better. Here's what it takes to go from "eh" to "AH!"

1. Chemistry. Absolutely true. This is arguably the most important aspect of great sex. You've got to be into it. Sex without chemistry is like eating a bunch of pieces of white bread for lunch: you're just doing it to satiate a physiological response, but the act isn't exactly pleasurable.

2. Trying not to feel self-conscious. It's only awkward if you let it be awkward. And although the most intimate possible experience two people can have together is a potential awkward minefield, anyone who can roll with the punches and recover from A) strange bodily sounds, and B) strange bodily fluids, is the type of person you want to have sex with.

3. Really feeling like your partner cares about your pleasure. You can tell when your partner isn't into it. If they act like they aren't getting anything out of it, that's an immediate mood-killer. But if you're both enthusiastic and legitimately want to see the other person satisfied, that alone can make for great sex, regardless of your technique or experience.

4. Foreplay. For some people, it's more about the journey more than the destination. Plus, the longer you make out for, the more anticipation, and a slow build to sex is the best.

5. Discovering something new. This won't happen every time you have sex, but whenever you discover something new you're into, that's great sex. Whether you try it together, or your partner introduces you to scarves and blindfolds, learning "Hey, this turns me on" is awesome.

6. A partner who gets them hot. No, this is not the same as a "hot partner." This should go without saying, and yet... it's important to have a partner you're into physically, not just mentally. You need both! Sometimes it's nice just to grab someone who seriously turns you on and not really worry about whether or not you agree on parenting strategies.

7. Raw animal lust. It's the kind of sex that feels like it does in the movies, all photogenic and beautiful. The kind of sex where if someone walked in on you two having sex, it'd make that person question everything they knew about sex. They'd wonder if they'd been doing it all wrong.

8. Natural communication. Whether you just met or you've been having sex for years, having an immediate understanding of what the other person wants is huge. It's what keeps sexual partners from having to stop sex to explain, "here, move you leg like this... no, like this... this... just put it here." Of course, sometimes those explainers are necessary, and you should always be explicit about what you want, but the best sex feels spontaneous and natural.

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