Anilingus is one of those sex techniques that is very often misunderstood and disliked before it’s even tried. This is a real shame as it’s super fun and enjoyable when performed properly (just like anal sex is enjoyable for many men). Just follow this guide below to learn everything you need to know about giving your partner some super satisfying anilingus.
Often anilingus is referred to as analingus, rimming or tossing the salad. They all mean the same thing: Oral sex in and around the anus.
It’s not a sensation you can get from anal masturbation. Check out tips for that.
Plus, oral sex is a great way to avoid pregnancy. Don’t worry, though. It’s unlikely to get pregnant from anal sex.
PERFORMING ANILINGUS SAFELY & CLEANLY
Before you get to actually performing analingus on your man, it’s incredibly important to be very safe and very clean. This means making sure that your man is:
Disease Free: Make sure that both you and your man get tested regularly for sexually transmitted diseases and infections to ensure that neither of you accidentally pass anything on to each other.
Clean:. There is no greater turn off than giving your man anilingus only to discover that he is dirty back there. Make sure that he checks himself beforehand so that he is completely clean back there before even attempting to give him a rim job (not sure what that is? start here). A good idea is to make sure he is hairless back there so that nothing gets accidentally caught there when he is taking a number 2.
Find out more info about anal play safety.
You may want to talk to your doctor about rimming and its risks if you’re pregnant. Read this advice for anal sex if you’re pregnant.
So that’s the boring, yet very important stuff taken care of, now onto actually giving him anilingus.
If your partner wants to feel especially prepared, he can go over the steps in this guide to preparing for anal.
ANILINGUS TECHNIQUES
When giving your man anilingus, there are a number of different things you can do to give him a lot of pleasure (perhaps even to anal orgasm!):
Up, Down & All Around: This is by far the easiest technique you can use for giving your man a rim job. To perform the Up, Down & All Around you simply need to use a lot of saliva and keep your tongue loose and open. You simply need lick your man’s anus up and down using your tongue or make a circular motion with it around and over his anus.
The entire time that you are doing this, your tongue will outside his body and on his anus. Remember to focus on mostly his anus, but also around it.
Pokin’ In: After using the Up, Down & All Around for a few minutes, it’s time to start moving on to more advanced rimjob techniques like the Pokin’ In. The Pokin’ In simply requires you to make your tongue a little more pointed than usual and use it to try and penetrate his anus. You’ll find that you will only be able to get about half and inch inside at most (meaning that your tongue should stay clean the entire time).
If you want to penetrate him with something other than your tongue, try a butt plug or strap-on sex.
Kiss, Kiss: You’ll will find that after a few minutes of giving your man a rim job with your tongue, it will start to get tired. To give it a rest, start using your lips instead. Again try to use a lot of saliva as it feels more enjoyable than dry kisses.
Toothy Fruity: Using your teeth when giving your boyfriend anilingus is sometimes not a great idea. However, when it’s done right, it feels fantastic. Remember, you do not want to cause your man pain, so no biting! Instead, you need to slowly and gently drag your teeth over his anus. Again this is a great technique to use when your tongue gets tired. Just remember that you need to be very gentle.
Check out ways to avoid pain during anal sex.
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OTHER ANILINGUS TECHNIQUES
There are 2 other anilingus techniques that you can use on your man. They are not necessarily rim job techniques as they don’t involve the mouth directly, but they add to the overall experience for him.Use Your Finger: Using your finger to perform the same moves as your tongue is yet another great technique to use so you can rest your tongue (learn how to finger an anus). Luckily, it’s also stronger than your tongue, so you can insert it into his anus and use it to stimulate his prostate (tips for prostate massage here) or other areas inside his ass.
If you think you’re ready for more, you can try pegging (more about this) or go to extremes with anal training.
ANILINGUS POSITIONS
There are a few positions that you should use to make performing analingus on your man easy for yourself. These positions are designed so that he naturally spreads his bum so that you have easy access to his anus, without it feeling like you are being suffocated!
Psst, some anal sex positions work really well for riming!
Like A Doggy: This position most resembles doggystyle. You just need your man to get on his hands and knees on the bed. To make it even easier, get him to lie on his chest while still on his knees so he is pushing his ass into the air. This position is the most comfortable for your man.
Grab Them Ankles: Some guys will find this rim job position a bit uncomfortable, but it can be very enjoyable if done correctly. Get your man to simply stand up and then bend over so that he is grabbing his ankles. It’s fine for him to bend his knees to make it more comfortable.
Grab Them Ankles (Lying Down): This anilingus position is very similar to the regular Grab Them Ankles position. All you man needs to do is to lie down on his back while grabbing his ankles. This will make it very easy for you to give him a handjob while tossing his salad at the same time.
BEFORE YOU PERFORM ANILINGUS ON HIM (WARNING)
Now that you have read this guide on how to give anilingus to your man, there is one thing to keep in mind before you perform anilingus on your man….
Some guys just don’t like it…in fact, a few actually hate it. So you may find that it’s best to discuss it first with your man before you perform it on him, otherwise he may get a bit of a shock if you suddenly start performing it.