Knowing the best blow job techniques to bring your man into a state of orgasmic bliss is vital if you want to make him utterly addicted to you…or any man for that matter.
That’s what this chapter of the Blow Job Guide is all about, teaching you 55 of my most powerful blow job techniques.
Lick, Lick, Lick It
Licking his penis is a powerful blow job technique for beginning your blow job. It serves as a sort of oral sex foreplay that will build sexual tension and have him begging you to take him in your mouth…which is exactly what you want.
Licking his cock is super easy. At it’s simplest, you just need to hold his penis in your hands and use your tongue to lick it. You’ll find that licking him from the base to the tip works really well. But don’t stop here, there are a bunch of other licking techniques that you can use during your blow job:
Focus on the Tip – According to one study, the top part or glans of your man’s penis  is the most sensitive part, specifically the underside of his glans , but if your man is circumcised then it will be slightly less sensitive. The bottom side, where the head connects to his shaft, is known as the frenulum and is also incredibly sensitive. Although, some studies find that the whole glans is sensitive with no one part more sensitive than the other .
Try focusing on licking the tip of his penis (the glans) using the least amount of pressure possible. Many guys report this being their absolute favorite blow job technique. You can even try doing this for your entire blow job until he comes. More on oral pleasuring the tip of his penis.
The Topside of your Tongue – The top side of your tongue provides slightly more stimulation than the underside thanks to the rough surface your taste buds create. So focus on using the top side of your tongue when licking him.
His Balls – Don’t forget about his balls. His balls are as sensitive as his penis, and for some guys, even more sensitive. You can simply lick them, but I describe many other ways to stimulate his balls for maximum pleasure here.
Anilingus – There are two other excellent locations besides his penis and balls that can massively add to his pleasure and make him see you as an oral sex goddess even if they are not strictly part of a regular BJ.
His perineum or perineal raphe aka his taint, the rough patch of skin located just behind his balls as well as his anus contain a lot of nerve endings. The root of his penis lies beneath this skin, behind the perineum [4, 5 p 24], so you can stimulate it through his perineum. Some guys adore having these two areas licked and stimulated while others don’t like it at all. It’s a personal preference, and it all depends on your man.
Tonguing these areas, up and down, or in a circular motion is an awesome way to stimulate them. You can even press your tongue inwards on his anus to provide a different, but still pleasurable sensation. This technique is called anilingus.
Taint-To-Tip – A technique that works great if your man has a sensitive perineum (taint) or balls is to slowly lick him from his perineum all the way to the tip of his penis. Doing this in one slow, continuous lick is best.
You’ll also find that it’s easiest to do when you use your hand or just a finger to press his penis against his belly.
One vital blow job technique to keep in mind when licking his dick during a blow job is that:
Wetter Is Better
Ask any guy, and they will tell you the same thing: Super wet blow jobs feel best. Ideally, you will easily be able to produce lots of saliva on command, but that’s not always easy.
Two tricks to producing more saliva are:
- Chewing gum right before going down on him.
- Eating a piece of juicy fruit before you start blowing him (like a strawberry or pineapple or peach).
Of course, these two tricks aren’t always practical.
A much easier and more reliable way to make your blow jobs super-wet is to use edible lube. Just keep some handy in a drawer beside your bed or in your purse.
This also means that you will have lube handy in case you need some for sex.
Deep Throating Solution – One quick way to produce lots of saliva is to deep throat your man. Here’s why it works:
When his penis touches the back of your throat, it will stimulate your gag reflex. This triggers your body to quickly produce lots of saliva. So, if you both enjoy deep throat, this is the perfect technique to give your man a wet, sloppy blow job. More on deep throating in Chapter 7.
Just The Tip
As I mentioned earlier, the tip of your man’s penis (the glans) is by far the most sensitive spot on his penis, particularly the underside. The female equivalent of the penis is the clitoris [6, 7]. So focusing your attention on the tip of his penis is going to work well to push him over the edge in the most intense and pleasurable way possible.
There are a number of different techniques you can use to pleasure the tip of his penis.
Kissing – Kissing the tip of his penis is a fabulous technique to start off your blow job and draw out the length of it…perfect if you like seeing and hearing your man squirm in beautiful agony. Kissing his penis and balls is easy, just think back to how you kiss him normally (on the lips)…
- Purse your lips together and give him small “pecks.”
- Open your lips slightly so that you can gently squeeze the tip of his penis between them.
- With saliva on your lips, gently run them over his penis.
- Use your lips to gently suck on the top of his penis.
The Twister – Using your tongue and lots of saliva, you can perform an ultra-pleasurable and satisfying blow job technique I like to call the Twister. While holding his penis steady in one or both hands, start making a slow circular motion with your tongue around the top of his penis. You can alternate direction and speed to add some variety, but this blissful bj technique alone is enough to bring him to a thundering climax.
Deep Throat – Deep throating your man is a more advanced blow job technique, but when done right, it can deeply gratify and sexually satisfy your man. This extra pleasure is thanks to the back of your throat. As you take him deep into your mouth, eventually, your tonsils and the back of your throat will come into contact with the tip of his penis.
The slight spasming of your throat (thanks to your gag reflex) will make it more enjoyable and stimulating for your man, along with the fact that the rest of your mouth and tongue will be stimulating the shaft of his dick. You can learn more about deep throating your man here in Chapter 7 of the Blow Job Guide.
The Tip Of The Tip – Some guys have sensitive urethral openings. That’s the small slit at the very top of his penis where his cum comes out of. Try gently licking it when giving him a blow job and judge his reaction. If he enjoys it, then he’s one of those guys who enjoys it. If he doesn’t, then just move on to another technique.
Slip Inside – A less advanced fellatio technique that is almost as effective at providing him with intense delight and stimulation as deep throating him is using the inside of your mouth. By taking him into your mouth and pressing/rubbing the tip of his penis against the inside of your cheek and tongue, you have another tool for your blow job arsenal.
Use The Roof – Carrying on from the previous technique, there’s another option for stimulating him: the roof of your mouth. While you might not think it can help you when giving him a blow job, you’d be wrong.
The texture feels great when you angle his penis so that the top of his glans moves against the ridges on the roof of your mouth. If the size of his penis and your mouth don’t allow you to change angles or would mean he gets scraped with teeth, then you should probably avoid this technique.
Fingers & Hands – Using your fingers and hands is not strictly a blow job technique. However, using them is a great way to give your mouth and jaw a break. With plenty of saliva or lube, try gently running your fingers over and back the top of his penis and listen as he uncontrollably groans in pleasure. You can learn more handjob techniques to give your man from the in-depth Hand Job Guide here.
The Up & Down
Almost all guys fantasize about getting a blow job, 87.6% to exact , but if you’re not feeling particularly confident the first few times you try it, then my advice is to stick to the easy-to-perform blow job techniques like the Up & Down.
Mastering this first is a smart way to get comfortable giving your boyfriend a blow job before progressing to more advanced techniques and tactics for giving him oral pleasure like sucking him (tips on sucking him off like a pornstar here).
To perform the Up & Down, you simply need to take your man’s penis into your mouth and make a tight “O” shape with your mouth around his penis. This “O” shape means that you can apply pressure around his entire penis.
Next, you are simply going to bob your head up and down, taking his penis in and out of your mouth. Bobbing your head up and down is super simple to start with, especially if you just concentrate on the top inch or two of his penis. As you get comfortable with this, try taking him deeper and deeper with each stroke so that you can stimulate more and more of his penis.
Taking him deeper and deeper into your mouth runs the risk of triggering your gag reflex . Try not to worry about this. It’s entirely natural, and most men don’t really care if you gag a little.
Note: There is a ridge on his penis, where his head joins the shaft. This ridge is particularly sensitive for your man when stimulated. Try focusing on it with your lips when you make the “O” shape.
Focusing on this part of his penis also means that you are only taking the first 1-2 inches of his penis into your mouth, making gagging less likely. If you feel yourself getting close to gagging, it’s okay to pause, breathe, and relax your throat.
2 Tongue Tricks
I want to give you two other blow job techniques that involve your tongue. One is easy to perform, while the other is slightly more tricky but wildly satisfying for your man.
1. Soft Sandpaper – Don’t let the name fool you. This will NOT feel like sandpaper for your man; it will feel fantastic. The reason I call it “Soft Sandpaper” is because you will be using your tastebuds to “polish” your man’s penis in a similar motion that you would use with sandpaper. But the similarities end there.
To start, hold the shaft of your man’s penis firmly in your hand, then make your tongue as wet as possible and stick it out.
While holding your head and tongue in place, use your hand to move the head of his penis over your tongue. So, the only movement should be from your hand moving his penis over your tongue. Your tongue shouldn’t be moving much at all.
This way, the head of his penis will be running over your tongue.
You can move it in a circular motion, up & down, back and forth, or any movement you like.
In this way, your tongue is “polishing” the head of his penis.
2. Sliding Shaft – For this technique, take his penis as deep into your mouth as you find comfortable and hold it there. 2, 4, or 6 inches deep are all fine. The key is making sure you find it easy and comfortable to hold it there.
With your tongue at the underside of his penis, you need to slide it forwards along his shaft, as far as you can comfortably go and then slide it backward. Keep sliding it forwards and backward, massaging the same section of his shaft.
While you are doing this, keep his penis in place. Don’t take it deeper or shallower; just keep it in place.
Sliding Shaft is not a breakthrough blow job technique that is going to make your man immediately explode, but it’s a great little trick to use if you want to change your blow job routine and add some new sensations for your man.
BJ Techniques When He’s Uncut
Most of the blow job techniques listed above work best when your man is circumcised or “cut.” While some of the tips transfer without any adjustments if your man is uncircumcised or “uncut,” others need adjustments, and some BJ techniques won’t work at all.
There’s no need to worry, however! There are some special techniques that you can only use on guys that are uncircumcised. The difference is that uncut guys have extra foreskin, also known as the prepuce [10, 11], which partially or completely covers the glans. Uncut guys also have more frenulum along the underside of their glans .
Pull it back – The foreskin gets tighter when a man is erect, but the tightness varies, so you’ll need to get used to his foreskin when blowing him. Some foreskin is pretty tight when the guy is hard, so there’s not much wiggle room there.
But not too much – This might seem confusing, but pulling the foreskin all the way back can be quite uncomfortable for some guys. So you don’t need to push it as far back as it can go, just enough to expose at least part of the head. A guy won’t feel much if you’re stimulating him through his foreskin, so you need to pull it back to have direct access to the head of his penis.
Switch it up – Pulling back the foreskin means you can focus on just the tip of his penis using the techniques from above, but this can become overwhelming for a guy who is uncut. According to research, cut guys are less likely to ask their partner to be gentler on their penis , they want more stimulation; although, women may not always notice a difference in sensitivity . Remember that the foreskin causes an uncut guy’s glans to be extra sensitive, so you may want to let the foreskin move back into place from time to time.
Use the foreskin – You can actually stroke the foreskin across his glans, which feels great for many uncut guys. You can also use this time to give your mouth a break! It’s also a good way to give him less stimulation and make your blow job last longer.
Swirl your tongue – When you’re ready to take his penis back into your mouth, keep the foreskin down over his penis and insert your tongue between the head of his cock and foreskin. Give it a swirl or three. He’s sure to enjoy it! Roll your tongue around as you push the foreskin back off his glans.
Suck and squeeze, gently – If a guy is uncut, you can orally stimulate his foreskin as well as the glans and shaft. This is a technique for a good blow job that will set you apart from other women who may not be sure how to go down on an uncut cock. Suckle and squeeze your lips around his foreskin. Start gently and SLOWLY increase the intensity.
Remember that each guy has his own preference for how much pressure and foreskin attention he likes, which is why it’s essential for you to talk to him about what he likes. Learn more in our jam-packed guide to sexual communication.
Having sex with an uncut guy can be great. Learn about the differences between cut and uncut penises.
Your man’s ass contains a lot of nerve endings, thousands in fact, and it’s begging for some stimulation. This means that there is no better time to introduce anal play than during your blow job. It can literally triple the pleasure you give him.
Here are a few ways to add anal play to your oral sex.
Rubbing his perineum – I’ve already talked about stimulating your man’s perineum during your blow job. It’s pretty straightforward, you can run your fingers over it, teasing it, or you can press it gently/firmly depending on how much pressure he enjoys. Some prostate toys have an external arm to stimulate his taint easily.
Teasing his asshole – Try gently running your fingers over his asshole or even making small circles over it. This is a great way to gauge his reaction and see if he enjoys it. Just like you, he may adore anal play during oral sex, hate it, or be indifferent to it.
If he enjoys it, then you’ll want to continue. Remember, you can use a bit of lube/saliva to make it slicker.
Fingering him – Taking it to the next level, you can start penetrating him with your finger, pressing it in and out.
Prostate Pleasure – A further step during your blow job, is penetrating him about 2 inches deep with your finger and stimulating his prostate (aka the male G Spot). Keeping your fingertips and palm against his perineum, slide one finger into his ass and curl it back towards his penis when you are 2 inches deep.
You should feel a soft fleshy nub. This is his prostate, and you can stimulate it just like you stimulate your own G Spot by gently pressing it and rubbing it.
You can even use a toy to stimulate his prostate while you focus on his dick with your mouth.
Reading the in-depth Prostate Orgasm Guide will teach you everything you need to know about the pleasuring of your man’s prostate.
Pulling out during orgasm – When you keep your finger inside as he cums, you’ll notice that his ass rhythmically pulsates during his climax. This “clenching” sensation around your fingers with his ass during orgasm can be pleasurable for him, but other guys prefer something else….
When you slowly pull your finger out as he orgasms.
The best way to find out what he prefers: you keeping your finger in his ass during orgasm or slowly pulling it out is to ask him — however, the fun way is to try both and judge for yourself what he likes most.
Lube and nails – Lastly, make sure to use lube when penetrating him anally and also trim/file your nails so that you don’t accidentally cut or hurt him. Lube is also essential for anal penetration since the anus doesn’t self-lubricate like the vagina.
My most powerful blow job technique is called the Triple Trick technique.
It’s not particularly challenging to perform, but it does require a bit of coordination. Here’s how to do it:
Part 1 – Take the head of your man’s penis into your mouth and start performing the Twister on it (I cover this technique above).
Part 2 – At the same time, take one hand, wrap it around his shaft and start to jerk him off while performing the Twister.
Part 3 – Insert a lubed finger into his ass and start to massage his prostate.
You’ll be performing all three blow job techniques at the same time, which requires a good degree of coordination, as I mentioned before.
And that’s all there is to delivering triple the pleasure to your man 🙂
Enjoying Yourself & Putting On A Show
You know that fulfilling feeling of seeing your man in deep pleasure, close to orgasm, and unable to control himself?
It’s incredibly hot.
Well, here’s a secret about most men…
They feel the exact same way about you.
They get off to seeing you enjoy yourself.
Keep this in mind the next time you go down on your man. If you are already naturally enjoying yourself as you give him a blow job, awesome! Of course, there are other ways to further enjoy yourself during your blow job.
Try masturbating and bringing yourself to orgasm as you blow him.
This serves multiple purposes:
- It put’s on a show for your man (most men get visually turned on).
- You show your man how much you are enjoying yourself, giving him a blow job, which is a pretty great way to satisfy his ego.
- You get to orgasm too!
Suck On This
A powerful, but often tiring technique is sucking your man’s penis. Of course, you’re not doing this to “suck” the come out of him, that would be impossible! Instead, you’re going to wrap your lips around his penis and take the first few inches of it into your mouth.
Then you are going to suck on it gently. Sucking on it will cause your lips and the inside of your mouth to press softly against his shaft and the head of his cock, stimulating the length of it. While doing this, you can take his penis in and out of your mouth, allowing you to pleasure it entirely.
While sucking him, you can add some variation by using your tongue to massage his penis too. There isn’t anything more to this technique other than simply sucking and taking his penis in and out of your mouth.
I’m only going to talk briefly about 69ing your man, as I already have an entire guide about 69ing.
As you probably already know, using the 69 position is a great blow job technique to share the pleasure with your man and reach simultaneous orgasm.
But the most important thing you should know about 69ing your man is that…
The BEST 69 position is for him to lie on his back with you on top of him. This way, you control how deep you take him.
The problem when he’s on top, is that he’s the one in control…which isn’t great if you gag easily.
Anyway, check out the 69 blow job position guide for more on this very pleasurable position.
Using the same techniques over and over can eventually become boring for your man (and you!), so it’s best to have a few tricks up your sleeve to change things up at a moment’s notice.
Some women think that to vary things; they need an endless list of blow job techniques and different things they can do with their mouth or tongue or lips to provide different sensations to their man. The truth is, you don’t. There are much simpler ways to spice up your blow job routine.
One way is by adding what I like to call “Awesome Sauce” to your blow jobs. Awesome Sauce is just using something like maple syrup, chocolate syrup, cream, champagne, ice cream, or even ice cubes in your mouth while you go about your regular blow job routine. Here are a few tips on using each.
Maple Syrup/Chocolate Syrup/Cream – All of these tasty treats work super well because they taste great, AND they provide a different but very enjoyable sensation to your husband as you fellate him. Just make sure that if you are using warm chocolate syrup that it’s not so hot that it burns him!
Ice Cubes/Ice Cream – Cold sensations are not the most popular type of Awesome Sauce during oral sex, but they still work well for switching things up and keeping your man on his toes.
Champagne – There is something intensely sexy about champagne, especially when you use it during a BJ. The next time you and your man have some alone time, try slipping into some lingerie and popping open a bottle of champagne. Next, have a little sip and with the champagne in your mouth, take your man in your mouth and start performing fellatio on him.
The bubbles provide your man with new and different sensations, but it’s not just that. There is something about the entire act of giving your man a champagne blow job and making him cum that is super arousing and sexy. Don’t like champagne? A fizzy soda can do the trick.
Mints – Mint naturally creates a cooling sensation. If you suck one before going down, you don’t have to juggle the mint and his penis in your mouth at the same time.
The added benefit of having champagne or ice cream or anything tasty in your mouth is that it drowns out the taste of his sperm and semen when he does ejaculate. Perfect if you can’t stand how he tastes.
Pro tip: To prevent the champagne flowing out of your mouth, make sure you are below your man when giving him head, so being on your knees while he is standing works well here.
Give Him A Hand
Using your hands is a powerful blow job technique while giving your man oral sex. And in case you’re wondering, it’s NOT cheating! In fact, you can give your guy way more pleasure and enjoyment by using your hands on his penis and balls during your blow job. While the in-depth Hand Job Guide will teach you the most pleasurable hand job techniques you need to know, here’s three that you can start using tonight.
Jerk & Suck – Jerking your man off while giving him a handjob at the same time is a super way to maximize his pleasure. Simply take the first inch or two of his penis into your mouth and then wrap one hand around his shaft. While using a simple technique like the Suck On This technique I described earlier, you can also run your hand up and down his shaft at the same time, giving him a handjob.
Time To Rest – If you aren’t used to blowing your man, then you will naturally find that your jaw and mouth get tired quite quickly. Allowing your hands to take over while you give your mouth a rest means that your man gets to receive unbroken pleasure.
So when you feel your mouth becoming tired, grab hold of his penis and start jerking him off for a minute or two. Then when your mouth is rested, you can go back to giving him oral sex. You’ll find some great hand job techniques in the Hand Job Guide here.
Work His Balls – Another great hand job technique you can incorporate into your blow job is working his testicles or balls. There are so many different things that you can do to his testicles with your hands while giving him a blow job, from fondling to caressing to tickling to massaging them. Try experimenting to see what your man enjoys the most. The testicle massage guide will give you more ideas.
Speaking of working your man’s testicles…using your mouth to stimulate them is an excellent blow job technique that adds even more pleasure to his experience. Whatever you can do to his penis with your mouth, you can do to his balls. The only significant difference is that your man’s testicles are super sensitive to pain, so make sure you don’t apply too much pressure…or worse accidentally use your teeth on him!
Kiss His Balls – An easy way to see if your man enjoys you playing with his balls is to start by gently kissing them. Just purse your lips together and give them a few soft, wet kisses.
Lick His Balls – Once you can see how much he enjoys you kissing his balls, take it up a notch by gently licking and massaging them with your tongue. Keeping your tongue flat so that it covers as much of his testicles as possible is best.
Suck His Balls – A more intense way to massage his balls with your mouth is to gently take them into your mouth and softly massage them with your tongue. Remember, the keyword here is SOFTLY. You’ll also find that the more saliva you use, the silkier it feels for your man. Edible lubricant works great here too.
So you can kiss them, lick them and even suck them. A powerful technique is gently taking one of his balls into your mouth and then softly licking and sucking on it.
Remember what I mentioned in Chapter 1 of the Blow Job Guide, that different guys have different preferences. So while some guys adore having their balls stimulated, a small percentage of guys don’t enjoy it much at all. Don’t worry about this as it’s just your man’s personal preference. If your husband or boyfriend does enjoy it, then you’ll find that it’s much easier for you to pleasure his balls if he trims his hair down there.
Podcast: Foundation For Intense Blow Jobs
In addition to reading the guide below, I strongly encourage you to listen to this podcast I recorded that will teach you exactly how to give your man the perfect blow job. I also cover the horrendous mistakes women make BEFORE they even begin their blow job.
Listen to more Bad Girls Bible podcast episodes here.
Don’t be afraid to use sex toys during your blow job! There are so many things you can do with them.
- Rub your vibrator up and down his penis, balls or ass as you suck him off.
- Put a cock ring on your man. Find out how to use a cock ring.
- Get your man to wear a but plug or prostate massager during your blow job. More info on butt plugs.
- Use your vibrator on yourself during your blow job and put on a show for your man. Learn how to use a vibrator.
- Tie his hands behind his back with your handcuffs/bondage gear. Get tips for tying him up safely.
These ideas are just scratching the surface on how to use sex toys during your blow job. If you have any of your own ideas, please feel free to share them in the comments section below.
Eye To Eye: All About Eye Contact
Making eye contact with your man while giving him head can be super intimate and intense and even a bit submissive.
The key to doing it right is understanding two caveats…
Too Intense? – If you have just started dating your man and you proceed to give him a ten-minute blow job maintaining unbroken, unblinking eye contact throughout, then he is obviously going to feel a little uncomfortable. It’s going to feel too intense.
To prevent this, just tone down the amount of eye contact you are making or just look at him for 2-3 seconds at a time
Don’t Force It – Similar to ensuring you don’t make overly intense eye contact, is making sure that you don’t force it either. You can immediately break the sexual tension and kill the atmosphere if you are trying awkwardly to maintain eye contact with your man during a blow job.
So if you notice that your boyfriend always breaks eye contact with you or gets uncomfortable whenever you try to make eye contact with him during oral sex (or even during regular sex for that matter), then just forget about using this technique and try something else.
For Quick Comers/Cummers
If your man cums easily and quickly, then there are two simple techniques you can use to prolong his blowjob and pleasure.
1. Focus on the methods that don’t make him lose control and cum – This may seem obvious, but many women often forget about this. As I mentioned above, the tip of your man’s penis is the most sensitive, so avoid stimulating the tip if you want him to last longer. Instead, focus on his shaft, balls, perineum, and ass along with the techniques that don’t quickly bring him to the edge.
2. Light as a feather – Use a minimum amount of pressure when stimulating him if you don’t want him to cum quickly. So, when you take his penis into your mouth, he should barely feel it.
3. Take a break – Take a moment to caress his body with your hands, kiss up his tummy to suck on his nipples, or even kiss your man if he doesn’t want to come just yet.
Two Steps Forward & One Step Backward
You know that beautiful agony you feel as you build up to cumming at a snail’s pace, and then your man backs off a bit…then he again starts building you up even closer to orgasm? You wish it would come faster, but the entire slow, drawn-out process is still incredibly enjoyable. More importantly, all that build-up makes your orgasm feel far more intense when you do eventually climax.
Well…why not use this to your advantage.
The next time you are giving your man a blow job, try backing off a bit and spend a minute or two doing something else entirely like:
- Giving him a handjob (check our in-depth Hand Job Guide here).
- Fondling his balls (more tips on that here).
- Performing anilingus (read our detailed Anilingus Guide here).
- Just kissing him (here’s our kissing guide).
- Having sex (learn over 100 different sex positions from our illustrated Sex Position Guide here).
- Of course, you’ll find plenty more great sex techniques on the homepage.
Then after a few minutes, return to giving him a blow job. This variation is great for spicing up your regular routine…but it also has the effect of intensifying his orgasm when he eventually peaks and climaxes. Keep in mind that for some guys, if you keep him aroused for a long time without orgasm, he will get blue balls  where his balls actually start hurting.