Eating ass is one of the sexual activities that few people seem to try despite the fact that it can feel good and be super intimate. If you’ve avoided the subject, even if you’re interested, or your partner has expressed interest in receiving, it’s time to learn how to eat ass!
Eating booty might be incredibly intimate. If he expresses a desire to try this activity in the bedroom, he’s being vulnerable and trusting that you won’t judge him or rush off to tell all your friends. Obviously, you need to trust your partner if you’re going to dive between his cheeks.
But sharing something so vulnerable can be equally as intimate. You might not eat someone’s ass if they’re a one-night stand, but it’s something that may happen once you’re in an established relationship with someone. Knowing that your partner is willing to try new things with you or the lengths they’ll go to for your pleasure is powerful and erotic.
Plus, the asshole is full of all sorts of nerve endings that make something like eating ass feel fantastic. It’s also why anal fingering feels so good.
Read on if you want to know how to give a great rim job.
TALKING ABOUT EATING ASS
Communicating is always essential when it comes to sex – and most things, really. It’s none truer than when you’re eating ass. You might need to politely inform your partner that he needs to shave or cleanse. Or if you’re the one who is interested in the subject, you may need to bring it up rather than waiting for him.
Even with the best of intentions, these conversations can go awry. The wrong words, tone of voice, or timing can make someone less than receptive. For example, catching someone when they’re busy, tired or hungry might not be the most conducive to your discussion. And some concerns shouldn’t be discussed during sex specifically as they can ruin the mood.
If you don’t typically speak up about sex or other topics, it might be difficult for you to have conversations about eating ass (or even conversations about less tricky subjects). But you can learn skills such as how to speak to your partner without hurting feelings.
Communicating also helps you reassure your partner, which can keep you connected and help him relax so that he can enjoy you eating his ass.
PREPARING FOR AN ASS LICKING
There are three major concerns when it comes to someone who is to have their ass licked: potential fecal matter, the smell, and hair. The first issue is similar if you’re going to be engaging in anal sex. A little poop can be a big deal and could potentially scar you and prevent you from enjoying anal activities in the future.
Cleanup doesn’t have to be super involved, however. A bowel movement helps to clear the anal tract. But you can use a douche with lukewarm water over the toilet to make sure. Unless you’re into the idea of want to be squeaky clean, you don’t need to use an enema.
As for the smell, a shower does the trick – and can be worked into your sexy times. In a pinch, you can use wet wipes. The shower is also the perfect location to deal with hair in the area. All humans have hair on their bodies due to being mammals, but the anus and genitals often have darker, thicker hair.
If you want someone to eat your ass (or someone requests such a favor for you), taking care of the hair is expected. There are a few methods to consider:
- Shaving, which will result in stubble and you’ll need to repeat depending on how fast hair grows
- Trimming just to keep things neat but to avoid irritation from shaving
- Waxing at home for longer-lasting results
- Depilatory creams
- Professional waxing for its convenience and efficacy
All of the do-it-yourself methods can be a little tricky. You can’t see your ass; although, you can shave or trim in front of a mirror or even squat over one if it helps. Some people find it difficult to reach those places, too. It takes trial and error. But we have a few tips to help.
When you’re shaving, use a sharp razor. Shave in the direction of the hair growth, not against, in short strokes. A silky shaving cream softens hair to make it easier to shave, and it also conditions skin. Many people swear by hair condition as a stand-in for shaving cream. Whether you’re shaving or trimming, holding the cheeks open helps you access the hair.
Trimming might be the better option if you have sensitive skin and suffer from razor burn. You can also use an electric shaver, which removes hair but is less likely to cause nicks and cuts.
Waxing isn’t for everyone. If you haven’t mastered it on your legs, you might want to avoid the sensitive area around your anus. Burning yourself there would be pretty terrible! Hard wax that doesn’t require strips is probably your best option. You heat it in the microwave or on the stove, apply it, let it cool for a moment, then pull the wax – hair included – off.
If waxing sounds easier said than done, it typically is. There’s a lot of margin for error, and this is exactly why people pay others to wax their hair. Of course, not everyone can afford routine waxing or wants a stranger to see their genitals and asshole, but it’s one way to present a clean canvas if someone is going to be eating your ass.
The last hair removal option is a depilatory cream, which we advise using with great care. Those creams chemically burn off your hair and can be harsh on your skin. Sensitive formulas such as those made for the face are your best option, but you still don’t want to leave them on any longer than you have to. If your hair is especially coarse, a depilatory cream may not be effective.
Depending on your comfort level, you might want to help your partner remove hair or ask for help. It can be an intimate experience, but it’s not for everyone. It might cause you anxiety when your partner is wielding a razor near such a sensitive part of your body.
You might consider anal bleaching if your partner is going to eat your ass. It’s an option, but it’s not necessary. The anus is naturally darker than the surrounding skin, but this doesn’t mean it’s dirty. The same is actually true for most genitals.
HOW TO EAT ASS – TIPS AND TECHNIQUES
Once you’ve got hygiene taken care of, you might want to dive right in. But we recommend taking things slowly as you eat ass. Taking your time builds anticipation and sexual tension, which can make your experience more intense.
Before zeroing in on the asshole, you might massage, knead and kiss the butt cheeks. After biting the fleshy part of the cheeks, you might move toward the asshole but back again before making contact. Let your partner feel your breath on his skin, genitals, and anus. You can lick the cheeks before moving to the asshole.
Remember that the tongue can be used flat for a more soft and broad surface or pointed and tense. Tapping the broad side of your tongue against your partner’s anus might feel good while curling it for insertion may do the trick. Pay attention to your partner’s reactions or even ask which technique they prefer.
Techniques can include going up and down, side to side, around in a circle, kissing, sucking and even gentle use of your teeth.
Your fingers can be as useful as your tongue when it comes to licking ass, however. You can place them on either side of the anus and tap your tongue against your partner’s asshole. You might continue to massage or knead their buttcheeks, too.
Don’t forget about your partner’s genitals. You can reach around to fondle testicles or stroke a penis as you’re eating ass (and many men love that). while you’re eating ass. You can even suck his balls then move back to the anus.
You might realize that your partner’s cheeks need to be spread to properly eat ass. If your hands are free, you can spread your partner’s cheek yourself. But you might ask for assistance to keep your hands free.
POSITIONS FOR A RIM JOB
Knowing how to eat ass isn’t just about technique. Finding the proper position is also important for everyone’s comfort. The following positions can be used for eating ass:
- Kneeling on the floor or sitting on a piece of furniture while your partner stands
- Kneeling or sitting behind your partner on the bed while they are in doggie position
- Lying between your partner’s legs as they lie on the bed with their legs up (a pillow under their hips can give you greater access)
- 69 position – check out some of these 69 sex positionsto see what works
You can place a pillow under your knees for any position that might become strenuous or boost your partner with a pillow. Memory foam is ideal for this because it doesn’t compress.
TOOLS OF THE TRADE
A few tools can improve your experience eating ass. For starters, a dental dam helps to prevent spreading STIs, but it also acts as a barrier that can make you more comfortable during a rim job.
Flavored lube can also help by making a rim job more slippery but also mask any unpleasant tastes or odors. However, if someone has cleaned themselves first, the anus will have a generally neutral flavor like clean skin.
Depending on your comfort level, you might want to kiss your partner after eating ass. This is a personal decision that every couple has to make. Some people aren’t even comfortable with their partner kissing them after oral sex.
One thing you shouldn’t do is go directly from a rim job to oral sex, especially on a woman. This can introduce bacteria into the vagina that leads to an infection known as bacterial vaginosis. Using a dental dam is one option to prevent spreading bacteria.
Men are less susceptible to bacterial infections, but you can also rinse your mouth before performing oral sex. Water will remove some bacteria, but mouthwash is even better because it kills bacteria. It might be tingly when you kiss or go down on your man, which he may like (or not).
Like many sexual activities, eating ass is about confidence and communication. Once you’ve established the basics of how to eat ass, it’s all about communicating with your partner and paying attention to their cues to give them what they like!