While this guide is going to teach you how to find your G Spot, men will learn a lot from reading it too. I’m also going to explain the simple reason why some women have trouble finding it.
So, if you have trouble finding your G Spot, read the entire guide, and you’ll learn how to find it and why you were having trouble finding it in the first place.
WHERE IS THE G SPOT?
If you check out the diagram above, you can see that it’s located about 2-3 inches (5-7.5cm) inside the vagina on the anterior wall (the side of your vagina closest to your belly) .
When you touch your G Spot, it will feel slightly different to the rest of you vagina. It should feel like the top of your palate in your mouth but softer. So it should feel slightly dimpled, but very soft to touch.
To find your G Spot with your fingers, just slide your palm down your stomach, with your palm touching your stomach, all the way down to your vagina. Then enter your vagina with 1 or 2 fingers and curl those fingers backward once they are 2-3 inches deep inside you. You should now be able to feel your G Spot on your fingertips. This diagram below should help:
I STILL DON’T KNOW HOW TO FIND MY G SPOT….HELP ME!
The location of the G Spot is the same for all women…however some women have severe difficulty figuring out how to find the G Spot. They might even feel like they were born without one!
Don’t worry! First, I’m going to explain why you can’t find your G Spot and then I’ll cover what you can do to locate it.
WHY YOU CAN’T FIND YOUR G SPOT. HINT: IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT
The reason for many women believing that they can’t find their G Spot is because you need to be aroused to find it. If you are not thoroughly aroused, then you are going to have difficulty finding your G Spot or getting any pleasure from it. For example, if your gynecologist happens to press on or massage your G Spot area during an exam, you’re not going to feel much because you won’t be aroused. But if you are turned on and your partner touches your G Spot, then it will feel incredibly pleasurable.
This is even reported in scientific journals, here’s a quote from Elsevier’s dictionary:
The G-spot is not felt normally during a gynecological exam, because the area must be sexually stimulated in order for it to swell and be palpable; physicians, of course, do not sexually arouse their patients and, therefore, do not typically find the woman’s G-spot.
Why You Need To Be Aroused – There is an area just above your G Spot called the urethral sponge. Your urethral sponge contains a gland called your Skene’s gland which engorges and fills with fluid as you become aroused . As the Skene’s gland swells and expands more and more, it causes the G Spot to become sensitive and protrude, becoming more prominent in your vagina.
I have indicated the Skene’s gland in light purple below. As you get turned on the Skene’s gland swells with fluid, which causes the G Spot to become more sensitive and makes it more prominent in the vagina.
So if you are not turned on, then your G Spot will not be swollen or sensitive, and so it’s not going to be as easy to find. This means that if you are having trouble finding your G Spot, make sure to get thoroughly aroused beforehand if you are alone…and if you are with your man, then make sure to have lots of foreplay first. This way you’ll be aroused enough to easily able to find it.
WHY YOU STILL CAN’T FIND YOUR G SPOT. HINT: IT’S STILL NOT YOUR FAULT
Ok, so maybe you’ve followed my tips so far and even used some of these masturbation techniques to get super-crazy aroused yet still can’t find your G Spot. Here’s why:
The size of the Skene’s gland varies quite considerably from woman to woman. If you have a tiny Skene’s gland, then your G Spot will never get that sensitive or protrude much, even when you are highly aroused, making it next to impossible to have a G Spot orgasm. This is also backed up by science: When experiments were performed, some women were found to have no Skene’s gland at all , which means that their G Spot could never become sensitive or swollen.
Don’t worry, plenty of women who can’t figure out how to find the G Spot still have incredible sex live thanks to the multitude of other ways you can orgasm. These clitoral stimulation techniques, masturbation tips, even more masturbation techniques and these techniques for fingering yourself should be more than enough to stay sexually satisfied.
I FIGURED OUT HOW TO FIND MY G SPOT, NOW WHAT!?
If you have followed all my advice above and discovered how to find your G Spot, then it’s time to start enjoying all the pleasure that it can bring. First, I’m going to cover briefly the best techniques you can use to stimulate your G Spot on your own (you’ll find more here), then I’ll talk about the best sex positions to use for stimulating your G Spot.
G SPOT SELF PLEASURE
Once you’ve found your G Spot a great technique to use to stimulate it is a variation of this diagram at the start of the guide. While rubbing and massaging your G Spot with one hand, you can use your other hand to stimulate your clitoris like in the diagram below. Perfect for doubling your pleasure:
There are also three distinct G Spot massage techniques that I teach here in the article on making yourself squirt.
MAXIMIZING G SPOT STIMULATION – ANGLE & DEPTH
When having sex with your man (or using a dildo), one thing you will naturally want to do is maximize the level of stimulation your G Spot receives. This all comes down to the angle that your man enters your vagina at and how deep he is inside you. This first diagram will give you an idea of how deep and at what angle your man should penetrate you to ensure he hits your G Spot.
But if you find that this angle doesn’t provide enough pressure, then he should penetrate you at an even more extreme angle like the one below. The same goes when you are using a dildo on yourself. Tips on how to use a dildo for maximum pleasure here.
SEX POSITIONS TO STIMULATE YOUR G SPOT
Now that you’ve learned how to find your G Spot and how to rub and massage it, it’s time to learn some sex positions that you can use to provide maximum stimulation to it during sex. Rather than covering every single one of the 119 sex positions that you will find here, I’ve narrowed it down to the best 4.
A quick reminder: It’s important to remember that as your G Spot is only 2-3 inches deep, most guys will need to be quite shallow in your vagina. Some guys might even feel like they are about to ‘pop out’ of your vagina a lot of the time when trying to stimulate your G Spot.
The G Spot gets it’s name because it’s as if your man’s only mission is to target your G Spot precisely. The most important thing here to focus on is the angle of your body and how deep you take your man. So play around with how far you raise your hips off the ground. Check out the main G Spot position guide for more tips on this position.
The Crab is fantastic for hitting your G Spot, especially if you enjoy being on top during sex. You can learn more about the Crab position here.
The Rear Entry position is great if you like your man doing most of the work to hit your G Spot. However, to truly hit your G Spot and stimulate it correctly, he’s going to need to follow some specific instructions…
Instead of simply thrusting in and out of you, he’s going to need to use more of a grinding motion. When he grinds forward/up on you, his hips will move forward, and this will cause the head of his penis to ‘stroke’ your G Spot, provided he’s not too deep. If he grinds too far forward, his penis will ‘pop out’ of your vagina. As always make sure to talk to your man so you can let him know exactly where your G Spot is, so he can adjust his stroke accordingly.
For more help on the Rear Entry position, check out this article.
Teaspooning is so nice if you like your man being able to wrap his arms around you and hold you close during sex. It’s also a great position to hit your G Spot. You can find out more about the Teaspooning position here.
Some women don’t know that they have another super sensitive area deeper in their vagina. It’s your A Spot also known as the anterior fornix erogenous zone . Your A Spot is located on the anterior wall of your vagina like your G Spot (that’s the side of your vagina closest to your stomach), but it’s much deeper than your G Spot. Sometimes this can lead to confusion when you are figuring out how to find your G Spot. You can see it’s location in the diagram below.
Stimulating the A Spot also feels incredible, but slightly different to having your G Spot stimulated. Most guys will be able to reach it with their fingers and can use the same techniques as I described above to stimulate it. However, you may find that your fingers aren’t long enough, and you have to use a dildo or something similar to reach it. Tips on using a dildo for powerful orgasms here.
So if you discover that you don’t enjoy shallow stimulation (2-3 inches deep) where you G Spot is located but instead prefer it much deeper, then most likely your A Spot is more sensitive than your G Spot. Wikipedia has more great info on the A Spot .
I NEED TO PEE EVERY TIME I STIMULATE MY G SPOT….HELP!?!?
Once you discover how to find your G Spot, you may notice a “need to pee” feeling every time you stimulate it . Feeling like you need to pee is perfectly fine and should even be expected. Women get this feeling because your bladder is located right beside your G Spot. Take a look at the illustration above to get an idea of what I’m talking about. So when you are pressing on your G Spot with your fingers or a dildo or even his penis, you are also going to put some pressure on your bladder too. Hence, the “need to pee” feeling. The most helpful thing you can do to prevent this “need to pee” feeling is to pee before sex or masturbation.
Additionally, as I explain in the guide on making yourself squirt, the fluid that you ejaculate when you squirt travels through the same that tube you pee from . This fluid comes from your Skene’s gland. But because it goes through the same tube as your pee, you may feel like you are peeing if you happen to squirt while rubbing your G Spot.
So now that you know how to find your G Spot, you’re probably going to be interested in getting the most pleasure possible from it. This guide on how to finger yourself will help, as will this one and this one on using a dildo will help a lot as well. The squirting guide will also show you and your man everything you need to know about female ejaculation during sex, and he can learn how to make you orgasm here.