Your favorite movie might portray them, the ages-old fairy tale features them, and even your parents might represent them. We are talking about the perfect couple. These are the people who have found their soulmates. Having done so has made them happier and has encouraged them to grow into better people. If you’re still single, you might wonder why you haven’t found your soulmate. Read the following to learn how.
WHAT YOU NEED TO DO TO FIND YOUR SOULMATE
1. KNOW WHAT YOU WANT
It’s important to know and understand yourself first before you learn how to find your soulmate. Otherwise, you won’t recognize your soulmate when you do meet him. Once you’ve accomplished knowing and understanding yourself, you can make a list of qualities you desire in your life partner. That way, you can be prepared when you see him.
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You could meet your soulmate anywhere — a chance meeting on an airplane, an arranged blind date, or even later in life at your high school reunion.
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2. YOU NEED TO RESPECT AND ADMIRE HIM
You might meet your soulmate but then drive him away by the way you treat him. If you try to change someone to be more like what you want them to be instead of accepting who they are, you risk losing the relationship. It’s important that you respect and admire your man for who he is. That also means respecting his boundaries, finding a better way of communicating with him than nagging and arguing, and letting him know what you love about him.
You should expect the same behavior in return. He needs to treat you with respect and admiration. You need to feel important to him and loved by him, and you need to be able to count on the man you will spend your life with.
3. DON’T LOOK FOR YOUR TWIN
Similarities are good to look for when finding your soulmate. People are often attracted to each other when they share some of the same attributes, such as being the same age, religion, and intelligence level. But the way you treat one another is more important than being exactly alike. The key is understanding each other.
It’s unnecessary, for example, to find someone with the same personality as you. What’s important is being able to understand and connect with your partner. Being different adds interest, spice, and passion to a relationship, so you might be doing yourself a disservice in looking for someone who is exactly like you.
4. KNOW AND LOVE WHO YOU ARE
You need to know and love who you are before you can love someone else and find your soulmate. Once you have learned to love yourself, be aware of when you’re putting on a social mask around people so that you can stop doing that and be yourself with soulmate.
At some point in a relationship, you need to let down your guard and be your authentic self. That is the only way to be intimate with someone. And intimacy is a key ingredient that soulmates share with each other. More on that here. So know and love yourself first so that you can display your true self to your soulmate and have love to give to him.
5. BE PERSISTENT
Although you might just run into your soulmate when and where you least expect to and know him immediately when you do, you shouldn’t count on that to happen. Keep meeting new people and dating until you find him.
While you’re waiting to meet your soulmate, be active. Have fun, and enjoy your life. Go on dates, even if you suspect the person might not be your soulmate. You could be wrong.
6. BE POSITIVE
Even if you’re feeling frustrated or depressed that you aren’t yet with your soulmate, it’s important to stay positive and to believe that your soulmate is out there for you. Don’t waste your time or energy being envious of others, and don’t put out the desperate vibe when looking for your soulmate.
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It’s important to live your life to the fullest, even without having a soulmate yet. You’ll be a happier person, making it more likely to develop a relationship with someone who turns out to be your soulmate. Don’t put off having fun because you’re waiting for your soulmate to join in the fun with you. You might actually meet your soulmate while you’re having fun by yourself or with friends.
7. BE OPEN TO MEETING SOMEONE
You might not be open to meeting someone, especially if you’ve just come out of a bad relationship. Maybe you let your guard down, were open, and were hurt as a result. That is certainly difficult. But you can’t let a bad experience shape the rest of your life.
A good course of action is to meet new people, but understand that not everyone is worthy of your trust and openness. Once you have developed a relationship, you can gradually open up over time.
8. BE PATIENT
It can be tough waiting to find your soulmate. But you can’t control exactly when this will happen. If you start living your life, however, by doing activities you love or have always wanted to do, you might find your soulmate while doing them. By doing what you like and not just settling for the first guy who comes along, you’ll be happier and in the right place to meet your soulmate.
9. WORK ON YOURSELF
You might not love yourself too much if you have no one in your life who loves you back, so it can be difficult to work on yourself. You might believe that something must be wrong with you, and you may have even resigned yourself to being single forever. But you need to stop thinking that way. Tell yourself that, even though it hasn’t happened to you yet, that you can find love.
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Get the negativity out of your life. Don’t look at all the happy couples you see and be jealous or envious of them. If you are in a negative place, you won’t be as attractive to others. Focus on your own life instead. What do you like doing? What makes you happy? Also, think of the type of man you want in your life. What sort of person would a man like that want in his life? You can work to become that person.
If you find this beyond what you can do on your own, seek counseling. Maybe your inner beliefs are preventing you from finding love and your soulmate. Once you shed whatever is holding you back, you’ll be in a better place and more likely to find your soulmate, your partner.
YOUR SOULMATE MIGHT NOT BE ROMANTIC
Some people define soulmate as a kindred soul. The relationship doesn’t necessarily have to be a romantic one. It could be a friend or sister, for example. In this respect, a soulmate would be someone who is aligned with your soul and will serve to challenge you spiritually.
This type of soulmate will help you to ascend to a higher level of spiritual awareness. You’ll feel a strong connection to your soulmate, but it doesn’t have to be a romantic connection.
THIS COULD BE YOUR TWIN FLAME
What some people consider a soulmate is what others call a twin flame or your other half. Some spiritual leaders believe that once you reach a high level of spiritual awareness, your soul will split into two. The other half of your soul would be your twin flame.
When twin flames meet on Earth, they feel whole and complete. Twin flames see themselves in the other, flaws as well as strengths. Not everyone has a twin flame; this happens only if you reach a certain level of consciousness.
NOT EVERYONE BELIEVES IN SOULMATES
Most people believe in soulmates. A Marist poll showed that, in 2011, 73 percent of Americans did, anyway. But what about the rest of the population? People who don’t believe in soulmates typically believe that relationships grow over time.
People who believe in soulmates look for that initial spark and attraction. If they are soulmates, they will know it right away (some call this love at first sight – read more). But when problems arise in the relationship, these people might give up on the relationship sooner, believing that true soulmates shouldn’t be having problems.
People who don’t believe in soulmates tend to be more willing to work on the relationship, believing that they will grow over time. They believe the relationship could evolve to the point of having a committed relationship with a life partner.
Finding your soulmate is a goal that many people have. If you want to succeed, you can’t just rely on luck. You need to learn how to find your soulmate. Luck can play a role, such as being in the right place at the right time. But persistence, patience, and proactivity will help find your soulmate rather than waiting for him to find you.
And when you do find your soulmate, remember that the relationship will not always be perfect. You and your soulmate will still need to do your parts to ensure a long-lasting union.