Having a one night stand is a great way to have fun…just remember to do it right. Here’s how.
When you know how to have a one night stand THE RIGHT WAY, you can be sure that you are in for a good time…but if you are not so sure about what you are doing, then it can potentially lead to some crappy, boring sex filled with regret and hurt feelings. This one night stand guide will help to steer you in the right direction so that you have a one night stand the right way and have some incredible sex.
WHY HAVE A ONE NIGHT STAND IN THE FIRST PLACE?
The is literally a never-ending list of reasons why you should have a one night stand with someone. Here are the biggest ones…
Without a doubt, the best part of having a one night stand with someone is the simple fact that it’s fun! That feeling of adventure and excitement when you meet a hot guy for the first time, the flirting, that first kiss and of course getting to see if his body looks just as good with his clothes off as it does with them on.
SEX IS GOOD FOR YOU
Plain and simple, SAFE sex really is good for you. It can help boost your immune system, burn calories (the more vigorous the sex the better) and lower blood pressure. It can also lead to better sleep, thanks to the oxytocin released during orgasm.
IT’S A GREAT WAY TO EXPLORE
Have you ever felt inhibited sexually around a guy you have been dating for a long time? It’s almost as if you like him and respect him so much that you may not want to explore your hidden sexual fetishes & fantasies with him for fear of him judging you. Thankfully with a complete stranger, you don’t have to worry so much about being judged…who cares what you tell him if you are never going to see him again?
Now while there is a long list of reasons why you should think about having a one night stand with a guy, there is also quite a few reasons why you shouldn’t have a one night stand…
DON’T DO IT FOR REVENGE
Just found out about your man cheating on you? Getting him back by having a one night stand is not going to fix things in your relationship. In fact, it’s most likely going to lead to you feeling guilty and being just as upset as before. There are a lot of much better options for you to deal with a cheating man instead of sinking to his level and sleeping with someone else.
DON’T DO IT TO MEET MR. RIGHT
Having a one night stand is almost always a terrible idea if you want to meet Mr. Right. It’s going to set your relationship up on completely the wrong foot. But if you are just looking for a guy to date for a little while or a ‘friends-with-benefits’/’f**k buddy’/booty call situation, then a one night stand is a great place to meet him.
Now that we have covered some of the more important reasons why you should and shouldn’t have a one night stand, it’s time to learn how to have a one night stand SAFELY.
YOUR PLACE OR HIS?
When planning on having a one night stand, the first thing you need to decide is where you have it. Do you want to have it at your place or at his place? You need to know this for 2 main reasons:
- It’s going to be a little bit safer to have a one night stand at your place instead of traveling to his, especially if you don’t know him very well.
- Whose apartment/house is easier to get to?
If you do decide to go to his place, then make sure that you tell at least one person you trust, so that they know where you are going in case they don’t hear from you. You may even want them to ring you 30 minutes or an hour after you leave together to make sure you are okay.
Staying safe is actually pretty easy. All you need to do is to make sure to use condoms and get tested for STDs regularly. But if you want, there are also a number of other extra methods you can use to say extra safe like using a spermicide which will kill most of his sperm to help prevent you from getting pregnant. Using a spermicide as well as a diaphragm is going to help to provide another layer of protection.
THE ALCOHOL PROBLEM…
Having a one night stand is something that most women want to try at least once in their lives. But often you may find letting go, realxing and actually having a one night stand to be a little difficult…thankfully we have alcohol to thank for helping us to let go and help to loosen our inhibitions.
In other words, 1 or 2 drinks is perfectly fine when you need to loosen up and get comfortable with the idea of sleeping with someone on a one night stand. While 1 or 2 drinks is usually perfectly fine, you need to be careful that you don’t go overboard and get uncontrollably drunk. This is when you end up doing things that you regret.
CHOOSING THE RIGHT GUY
Obviously you need some guy to sleep with if you are going to have a one night stand…but there are a few other factors that you should consider too when choosing a guy to sleep with…
Is He Hot? – Why have a one night stand of no-strings sex with someone you are not attracted to. This one should hopefully be very obvious!
Can He Keep His Mouth Shut? – There is nothing worse than having a one night stand with a guy in your social circle only for him to tell all his and your buddies about it. So think about this before sleeping with someone you have mutual friends with. This rule doesn’t apply so much if you don’t have friends in common.
Does He Respect Your Wishes – Before getting alone with a guy, you need to check to make sure that he is a guy who respects you and your wishes. The last thing you want to be doing is going home with a rapist. I’m serious here. So make sure to test him a little bit to make sure that he understands that No means No and that Stop means Stop.
THE ACTUAL SEX PART…
So the most important things to consider when figuring out how to have a one night stand with a guy are:
- Are you doing this for the right reasons?
- Where are you going to have your one night stand?
- Are you taking safe sex into consideration?
- Are you aware of how much you are drinking?
- Have you found the right guy for your one night stand?