If you want to improve your sex life by having better sex, you need to experiment to discover what you really enjoy. The excitement of new sex, where anything you do is hot, wears off eventually.
It’s no fun to be stuck in a rut where you still have sex, but sex can become predictable and even boring. Don’t worry. It happens to the best of us. But you can spice up your love life and learn how to have better sex in no time. You just need to put some effort into it, which is the key, by the way, to having better sex. Thankfully, the PrincessFantasy is here to help with lots of tips and techniques
- GET USED TO YOUR NAKED BODY
If you don’t like your body, chances are you don’t feel comfortable having sex. Many women have a negative body image, so if that’s you, you have company.
It’s not good to focus only on your areas where you think there is a problem when you look at yourself naked in the mirror. It’s even worse to avoid ever looking at yourself naked in the mirror. So instead, look in the mirror and concentrate on your good features and what you like about yourself. That’s what he’s focusing on.
- MAKE A DATE
Plan an outing for the two of you, and make it an exhilarating one.
You want to get your heartbeat up so that your body will produce endorphins, the chemicals in the body responsible for a “runner’s high” and can bring you closer to euphoria. You can release endorphins from any form of exercise, not just running.
You can exercise together or go on an exhilarating adventure, such as white-water rafting, going to a theme park or even something crazy like bungee jumping. Experiencing something exhilarating together not only helps to get the endorphins flowing and can lead you to have better sex, it will also help you to bond.
- GIVE HIM ORAL SEX
If you don’t really like to give him oral sex —maybe you gag — you probably are a little anxious at the thought of initiating it, but go ahead and try again because men really do love it, and it will help you both in your mission of having better sex.
Make sure to use your hand for stimulation in addition to your mouth. That way, you control how much goes in. Start by licking his testicles and penis shaft. Then put his penis in your mouth, suck gently, and remember — no teeth. Alternate the way you suck to see what he likes. Also alternate between sucking, licking and kissing.
Look at him from time to time, and he is not likely to remain bored. You can learn more powerful tips and tricks for giving your man intense oral sex from this powerful tutorial video.
- HAVE HIM GIVE YOU ORAL SEX
Put a pillow under your butt to lift up your pelvis, and keep your legs open wide. Have your man start slowly by just licking and teasing your clit. More clit techniques here.
As you start to become more excited, have him increase the pressure and speed. Let him know whether you prefer up and down or side to side. He can start licking you as he would an ice cream cone, but he needs to move on from there to more intense action. Then, when you get near orgasm, let him know not to stop. Or tell him to stop if you are using this as foreplay.
- COACH HIM TO BE A BETTER LOVER
OK, so you might not want to have to coach your guy, but if you really want something that you’re not getting, well, just bite the bullet and do it. After all, great relationships are built on great communication.
Tell him what really turns you on. This approach works better than instructing him like a schoolteacher. If you like the way he pins your arms over your head while he kisses your neck, let him know. When you are having sex, let him know what you like by saying, “Yes,” “That feels so good,” or “A little slower.” You can also moan when he’s doing something you really like.
Afterward, tell him what specifically you enjoyed. He’ll welcome your ‘lessons’ from now on 😉
- TALK DIRTY
When you or your guy hear erotic or “dirty” words, you’re both likely to become aroused.
OK, great.
But many people wonder exactly what they are supposed to say short of sounding like a porn star. There probably isn’t a man alive who doesn’t get excited to hear two magic words when uttered at a certain moment of lovemaking: “I’m coming.”
If you want to say something he’ll like that should also benefit you, tell him what you like: “I love it when you kiss my neck.” Guys can do this too, but don’t say what Jerry Seinfeld once tried on ‘Seinfeld,’ by talking about laying out her panties like her mother did. Ooh. Instead, if you’re a guy reading this, tell her what you’re about to do to her.
- SEND EACH OTHER PORN
Porn can help the two of you become more intimate, and it provides ideas the two of you can try together.
Seriously.
It gives you the excuse you need to be more experimental and can show you how to have better sex. Another option is to take pictures of each other.
That can be super exciting for both of you. But if you have kids who might have access to your smartphone or tablet where the pictures are, you had better erase the photos right away. Additionally taking and storing naked pictures of each other requires massive amounts of trust…because relationships do end and there is nothing worse than having nude photos leaked onto the internet.
This is why SnapChat (which quickly deletes photos after you receive them) is a perfect app for this.
- TRY NEW POSITIONS
The more sex positions you try, the better the chemistry you’re likely to have and the more likely it is for you to orgasm because you’ll discover some truly pleasurable positions, even though most won’t actually be that satisfying. And adding variation can only lead to having better sex. Here’s some positions from the sex positions section to try when you want to know how to have better sex:
Coital alignment technique or CAT – This missionary position variant stimulates the clitoris better than standard missionary position. The man moves up higher, toward your head, so that your jaw is near his shoulder. His penis will face down, and the base rubs against your clitoris. You’ll find more info and a demonstration of the CAT here.
Reverse Cowgirl – You are on top (riding him) but you’re turned around. This should stimulate your G-spot, especially when you lean backwards. It’s also nice because it doesn’t require romance and eye contact, but if you do turn around to look back, it should really excite him. You’ll find more info on Reverse Cowgirl here.
Bodyguard – Using a chair for support, let him enter you from behind. His hands are now free to touch you in many places, and he gets to call the shots and go with a speed that pleases him. Plus, he gets deeper penetration than with some other positions. More on the Bodyguard position here.
- TRY SEXTING
Sexting is simply having text sex — writing sexy text messages, and it works to get you and your honey set up for having better sex by building anticipation and sexual tension.
After reading sexy text messages, you both should get horny just from the anticipation. Start by sending your guy a message that reads something like, “I just bought a new pair of panties.” If you get any kind of response at all, it means he’s game for some sexting. Ask him a question next, such as, “I hope you like them. What sort of panties do you like?”
Now he’s thinking about you and your panties, so don’t disappoint him when he gets home 😉 You’ll some great sexting examples here.
- USE LUBE
Lube helps your body get ready for sex right away and is super helpful for many who want to have better sex. And some lubes add a little somethin’ somethin’.
Some lubes, in addition to mimicking your natural wetness, add in some heat for a warm, tingly sensation. You’ll find that you can use it sparingly; a dime-size amount is enough of the warming variety. There are even flavored lubricants that might make you feel more confident before your man gives you oral sex.
And lubricants just make it easier for any type of penetrative sex. If using on a condom, avoid the oil-based kind and stick with water- or silicone-based lube.
- USE SEX TOYS
Sex toys can add a new, exciting experience for couple’s sex. Your vibrator isn’t just for you to use alone. Why not have him use it on you during foreplay? There are also vibrators made specifically for couples that allow you both to feel the same sensations. Shopping together for a sex toy or two (or three) can get you both excited from the anticipation alone.
You can learn more on how to use vibrators on yourself for solo sex and couples sex here.
Having better sex takes work, some good old-fashioned trial and error, and effort. But it’s totally worth it. Great sex is what keeps your relationship strong. Anything that you can use to increase the passion is a good thing. Learning how to have better sex is a terrific way for couples to grow together.
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