Nothing feels more wonderful than having an orgasm. That’s why I created this Orgasm Guide because I believe that every girl should learn how to have intense orgasms, whether they are clitoral and vaginal orgasms, two types of orgasm that women commonly report having [1]. And whether you are alone or with your man. Let’s jump in…


This page you are reading right now is just the first chapter of the detailed Orgasm Guide. It will give you the basic overview on how to make yourself cum powerfully, so if you are currently struggling to orgasm alone or with your man, then it’s going to show you how to climax and start enjoying your body much more.

Before teaching you the simple solutions to make it far easier to orgasm, I just want to give you a quick overview of each chapter in case you want to skip straight to a particular topic that you need help with:

Masturbation Techniques That Focus On Your Clit – Learning how to orgasm through masturbation is the first step to a life of sexual bliss. The illustrations demonstrating these clitoral masturbation techniques will show you exactly how to rub, press, flick and stimulate your clitoris to put your body into a state of complete ecstasy. Read the masturbation techniques chapter here.

Masturbation Techniques That Focus On Penetration – Once you are proficient at pleasuring yourself through your clit, it’s time to focus on penetration. The illustrations and step-by-step guidelines in this chapter will show you exactly what to do to climax from fingering yourself.

Finding & Pleasuring Your G Spot – For some, the G Spot is elusive. For others, they can find it, but they have no idea what to do to have G Spot orgasms. This guide will show you how. Discover how to find your G Spot here.

How To Make Yourself Squirt – Almost all women can squirt. However, very few have experienced it. If you want to achieve the orgasmic thrill of female ejaculation, then you may want to check out this detailed, illustrated guide.

How To Use A Vibrator For Eye-Popping Orgasms – Using a vibrator is a highly satisfying way to add another enjoyable dimension to both masturbation and sex. If you want to learn how to get the most out of your vibrator, then you need to read the vibrator guide.

Using A Dildo The Right Way – If your man is not available, then using a dildo can be an ample alternative to him. But don’t think for a minute that using a dildo is simply about in and out movement. There is a whole lot more you can do with yours. Find out here.

How You Can Increase Clitoral Stimulation During Sex For More Orgasms – If you usually orgasm from clitoral stimulation during sex, then you need to read this chapter. It’s going to teach you every possible variation of rubbing, grinding, pressing and stroking so that your man gives you the perfect amount of clitoral stimulation for fist-clenching, neck-straining, screaming orgasms. Check out the clitoral stimulation guide here.

How To Experience Vaginal Orgasms Every Time –Many women struggle when it comes to vaginal orgasms. That’s why I put together this guide to show you exactly how to experience intense vaginal orgasms.

If you already find it easy to orgasm during sex and masturbation and just want to learn some new techniques, then my advice is to check out the chapters above that sound most exciting and fun. However if you currently struggle to orgasm, or you want to learn how to make yourself orgasm easily and reliably both alone and with your man, then keep reading.


The illustrations below indicate all the major parts of your anatomy that you need to pay attention to during sex and when masturbating. Pay particular attention to the most sensitive areas; this includes the clitoris, G Spot, and A Spot. These three areas are where you will get the most sure to explore yourself thoroughly when masturbating as some women adore stimulating other areas like your labia or even around your anus.

how-to-masturbate-vagina-labeledIf you want a more thorough and in-depth breakdown of your anatomy, then you will find it here where I go into much more detail about each area in these diagrams.


Having an orgasm is all about being comfortable with yourself and letting go. Doing this alone first is going to be much easier than doing it with your man. So I suggest that you forget about him until you can reliably masturbate to orgasm by yourself. Once you can orgasm easily by yourself, then get your man involved.

Slow Build Up – You can’t rush orgasms. One thing I strongly recommend when learning how to orgasm is that you slowly (very slowly) build up to it. Think of it as foreplay. Start by having a long shower or bubble bath. Make sure to wash everywhere so that you feel fresh and clean. Dry yourself off and then when you are ready, slip into bed and then turn off the light.

The key, before you get started is to make sure that you feel hot, sexy & comfortable. So if you would feel sexier wearing lingerie, then wear it. If baggy pajamas are your thing, then put them on. But if you feel much sexier and free when you are completely naked then don’t wear anything at all. Remember having an orgasm is all about you, so do what makes you feel best.

The Actual Orgasm – First spend some time caressing your body with your hands. Try to concentrate on the areas that feel best to have stimulated. Then when you are ready to bring your pleasure to the next level, lower your hand(s) towards your vagina. Just above your vagina, is the clitoris, which is the most sensitive spot on the outside of your vagina, is closely linked to arousal [2] and is a pivotal part of your pleasure [3]. This feels like a little, sensitive ‘nub’ of skin and is easier to find when you are aroused.

Sex doesn’t always stimulate the clitoris,  especially if your clitoris is smaller or further from your vagina [4], so you may think that you’ve been unable to orgasm. But at least one study suggests that learning more about the clitoris can help a woman orgasm for the more easily during masturbation [5] and once you know how to easily orgasm during masturbation, we believe it can become easier during sex.

I advise most women to concentrate on this area when they first start figuring out how to orgasm, while also paying some attention to the labia, which are the folds of skin on either side of your vagina on the outside. When you are stimulating your clit, you’ll find that you can get most pleasure by rubbing it from the ‘1 o’clock position’ if you imagined it to be a clock. The ‘one o’clock’ position is the upper left area of your clitoris, so it’s easiest to stimulate with your left hand. Experiment with applying different amounts of pressure to it to see what you enjoy the most.

Then it’s just a case of continuously stimulating your clit while focusing solely on the types of rubbing, pressing and caressing that are most enjoyable. As you do, the pressure and intensity will build and build to a peak until you orgasm.

If you have never made yourself orgasm before, then you’ll need to do a lot of experimentation to see what feels best for you, which is always fun. 


help-watercolor-illustrationI made having an orgasm seem very simple in the paragraphs above. But, for some women, climaxing and reaching orgasm isn’t so easy. You see, there’s a significant mental component to making yourself orgasm.

For many women, there can be mental obstacles or blocks that can prevent you from fully relaxing and letting go, which makes climaxing and having an orgasm tough, and sometimes impossible. Overcoming these problems will make reaching orgasm much, much easier. These are the mental obstacles I’m talking about:

Stress – Stress is an obvious one. Of course, it’s going to be difficult to get aroused and feel sexual when feeling stressed about work, your kids or any other major problem [6]. But a lack of physical and emotional intimacy can lead you to feel stressed the next day , a terrible Catch-22!

Solution – Stress is a natural part of life, which we often can’t avoid. However, if every day of your life is incredibly stressful, then perhaps you need to take a step back, reassess and find some time to meditate or exercise or to simply have some “me time” so you can destress.

Also, studies have shown that having sex lowers stress the following day…and if you’re less stressed the following day you’re more likely to have sex [7]…it’s a virtuous cycle! So, sex can actually act as a de-stressing exercise for you and your man, in turn making it easier to orgasm.

Stressing About The Outcome – A funny thing happens when you stress out about trying to have an orgasm…studies have shown that getting stressed out about reaching orgasm correlates with difficulty achieving orgasm and makes it take longer too [8]. In other words, you can end up becoming so anxious and worried about whether you are using the right technique to orgasm that you stop focusing on what feels pleasurable and enjoyable.

Solution – Although this sounds counter-intuitive, you need to stop focusing on having an orgasm every time you masturbate or have sex. Instead, you need to focus on what feels most pleasurable. So experiment with different techniques and positions to see what you enjoy the most. As you do, you’ll notice that you naturally get closer and closer to orgasming.

Feeling pressure to perform – Feeling that you have to “perform” for your man or that he is watching you and judging you during sex, can make you clam up. This ultimately makes it much harder to let go and orgasm.

Solution – Talk to your man. Let him know what you need to feel comfortable and relaxed during sex. Once you talk to him, you may even find that he feels the same amount of pressure to perform for you.

It’s funny, guys often feel as much, if not more pressure to perform during sex. They worry about the size of their penis, maintaining their erection, preventing premature ejaculation, making sure you have a good time, whether or not you like their body and more.

Often, you’ll find that your guy is so worried about himself, that he isn’t even that focused on how you’re “performing”.

Body Confidence – If you don’t feel comfortable with your body, then you may feel self-conscious and out of the moment, which is obviously going to make it hard to feel sexy.

Solution – Giving you advice on how to become more comfortable with your body is difficult, but I can say that once you begin to accept your yourself for who are, you will find yourself becoming less self-conscious and notice that it becomes easier to reach orgasm.

Sexual Shame – If you’ve had a negative sexual experience in the past or were raised to believe that having sexual feelings and desires was wrong, then you may be dealing with some sexual shame. This sexual shame can act like a weight on your mind preventing you from fully letting go and orgasming [9].

Solution – Dealing with sexual shame can be as easy as noticing it when it arises and then consciously telling yourself that the feeling you are having (the sexual shame) is something that should be ignored. However, sometimes sexual shame runs a lot deeper, and you’ll need to talk to a licensed counselor or therapist to help you get rid of it.

Not Knowing Your Body – Knowing your body, what it responds to and what feels good is vital to learning how to make yourself orgasm. Once you know the right buttons to press to get yourself aroused and turned on, you’ll find that having an orgasm is super easy.

Solution – Experiment. To learn what your body likes best, you need to experiment and try out new things to see what your body responds to. You may find that nipple stimulation, anal masturbation, being submissive or softly brushing your clit in a certain way quickly brings you to the edge.

If you can overcome the above mental blocks, you will find reaching orgasm to be far, far easier.


fifty-shades-of-grey-watercolor-illustrationYou don’t just have your use your hands to have an orgasm. And there is a bunch of things you can do to enhance your experience.


There is a massive range of different vibrators that you can use to help bring yourself to orgasm. If you are currently having a lot of trouble reaching orgasm using only your fingers, then you should think about using a vibrator. Vibrator users have also been shown to have better sexual function than non-users [10] so keep that in mind if you are on the fence about purchasing one.


If you adore penetration, and it helps you get closer to orgasm, then you should definitely consider using a dildo when trying to make yourself orgasm. Just like with vibrators, they come in all shapes and sizes, so you can find one that hits all the right spots.


Fantasy sounds like quite a general topic as there is a massive range of fantasies that you might have. Whatever they are, you will find it much easier to orgasm if you indulge in them. So if there is an actor or famous person that you adore, try watching a video of him while you masturbate yourself. You can also listen to a recording of him or even a song. If there is a good piece of erotica that gets you going, then have a read of it.

Different people have different fantasies which is totally normal. Try indulging yours while masturbating. You’ll find that when you do, it’s a lot easier to bring yourself to orgasm.

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