If you ask many men about their secret fantasy, it may just be face sitting (which is also a very popular genre of porn!). They want their partner’s to sit in their faces and use them for their pleasure in a carnal and selfish way. We’re taught that we should be giving and selfless during sex, and there are plenty of reasons why women are hesitant to do this.
But sitting on your man’s face can be immensely pleasurable – both physically and mentally. Once you work out the mechanics, it might become one of your favorite sexual activities. Read on if you want to know how to sit on a guy’s face perfectly!
WHAT’S SO GREAT ABOUT FACE SITTING?
Just in case you’re not sure why you might like this, here are a few reasons. He eats you out, which feels good. And the position means the focus is all on you, not like 69 where you can’t focus on the pleasure you’re receiving because you’re also going down on your man.
It can feel incredibly powerful and empowering, which works well during roleplay. If you’re normally being of service to your man, why not switch things up by sitting on his face?
Some men particularly find having their faces sat on and being “used” to be appealing to the point of a fetish (more on fetishes here), and why shouldn’t you take advantage of that? A healthy sex life allows you both to realize your fantasies. More on fantasies in this post.
Of course, you might have your own reasons for loving sitting on someone’s face. We won’t judge!
BUT WON’T I SQUISH HIM?
One the main reasons women prevent themselves from having fun by sitting on their man’s face is the worry that they’ll somehow squish him or suffocate him to death. They’re not even worried about how to sit on a guy’s face. Listen up, ladies: this just doesn’t happen! Even if you’re a hot, bigger lady and your guy is tiny, you’re not going to squash him.
Find a position that’s comfortable for you both. He can always let you know if he needs a break or can’t breathe. Some guys even like not being able to breathe a bit.
While we’re on the subject, the same rationale applies to riding your man. You will most definitely not break him. He’ll love when you take the reigns. Learn more about riding him with confidence.
HOW TO GET HIM TO AGREE
So you want to try sitting on your guy’s face, but you’re not sure to bring it up. Before you learn how to sit on a guy’s face, you need to make sure it’s okay. There are a few ways to go about it.
- If he already goes down on you, you can simply suggest a position change.
- If he’s mentioned that he wants you to sit on his face, you can simply push him down on the bed (or instruct him to get in position) and sit on top of his face.
- He may want to go down on you or simply be willing to, even if you’ve never done it before. Discover how simple it is to get him to go down on you in this post. Encourage him with personal hygiene or even trade a few sexual favors to get what you want.
For some people, talking about sex in any way is difficult. It’s totally normal if you’re one of those people, but you deserve a sex life where you’re treated to. You can get what you want or need in bed and become closer to your man with sexual communication. Learn more.
If sexual anxiety about performance or how you look is what plagues you, check out our helpful post about getting rid of sexual anxiety.
HOW TO SIT ON A GUY’S FACE COMFORTABLY
You’re on the same page, and now it’s time to you to get down so he can go down. How exactly do you sit on a guy’s face?
- Start by straddling his chest in a kneeling position.
- Scoot forward until your thighs are on either side of his head. He can rest his arms on or beside your thighs. You can grasp the headboard or wall behind the bed.
- Lower your body so your vulva makes contact with his face and mouth.
He licks. You grind. Everyone wins!
Sitting on his face isn’t really a crazy sex position (Read: 31 Crazy Sex Positions You Won’t Believe), but it does take a bit to find the style that works best for you and your man.
ALTERNATIVE FACE SITTING POSITIONS
Some people prefer to squat instead of kneeling, but this is more strain on your leg muscles.
Alternatively, you can kneel over his head, and your man can rest his arms between your thighs and calves, but this might become uncomfortable for him after some time.
Some people also like to face the other way, so you’re looking down at his body. This gives you access to his cock if you want to stroke him. Find out how to give your man an amazing hand job
If you’re agile enough, you may be able to wrap your legs around your man’s head. This is especially dominant.
Related: 10 Ways to Dominate Your Man
LET HIM TAP OUT WHEN YOU’RE FACE SITTING
So you’re on his face, but he obviously can’t keep this up forever, especially if it takes you a while to orgasm. There’s nothing wrong with that, of course, but you can give him a break. He can simply tap you on the leg to know if he needs a breather.
At this point, you can scoot back to his chest or simply pause for a rest. It’s up to you.
DO YOU NEED TO CUM?
If your man needs a rest, your legs are feeling tired, or you’ve simply had enough, feel free to switch to any other activity. You don’t need to have an orgasm for face sitting to be successful. Ask any man: he enjoys a blow job, but he doesn’t necessarily need to finish. If you really want to make him cum during oral, use these 19 tips.
You can add a small clitoral vibrator to play if your man is focusing on your vagina and not your clitoris. Check out the anatomy lesson here so you know what we’re talking about. Learn how to use a vibrator in this post.
If your bodies allow, he can add fingers to the mix to get you off. But, again, orgasm isn’t necessary to have a good time. Along the same vein, there’s no hard and fast rule about how often you should have sex. Discover why.
HOW TO SIT ON A GUY’S FACE: ADVANCED TIPS
You’ve mastered the art of face sitting. You both like it but want to add something a little more to the mix. What can you do?
The answer is all about taking power. We’ve already alluded to the fact that you can be quite dominant when you’re sitting on your man’s face. That’s why so many people like it! However, you can take it one step further.
If you add restraints, your man will have no choice but to eat you out. Under-the-bed restraints work especially well because your man will be spread eagle position. A blindfold could work during this activity, too.
You don’t need to add restraint, of course. Some people love sitting on their guy’s face by itself, and some people don’t.
But you’ve got to learn how to sit on a guy’s face to see if it’s for you, and you may realize you’ve been missing out if you didn’t try it before!