“Rub it like this.”
“You need to stretch first.”
“It’s because you don’t drink enough orange juice!”
You can find a lot of weird, funky advice on the internet when searching for ways to have stronger, more powerful orgasms. Some is good, most is terrible.
We don’t write about old wives tales here at The Bad Girls Bible. Just simple and powerful sex tips. Below are 8 ways for you to have more powerful orgasms, more often:
1. Learn To Relax
Learning to relax is by far the most important sex tip I can give you if you are serious about reaching your sexual potential.
But it’s not as easy as telling you to ‘just relax’.
Often you’ll find that the more you try to relax, the harder it is to actually relax!
When you are with your guy, you may be feeling that you have to have an orgasm with him. Instead of trying to just enjoy yourself and just going-with-the-flow, you might be focusing all your energy on trying to climax.
This isn’t necessarily a bad thing.
But what if you could just feel it slowly coming on, where almost nothing you could do could stop it? And then you just erupt in orgasmic bliss?
Many students that I have spoken to find these types of orgasms to be a lot more satisfying.
So how can you ‘learn to relax’?
Experience is the best teacher for learning to relax.
A great way to learn to relax and get comfortable with yourself is through masturbation.
Start by masturbating alone in a private place where you feel comfortable. Your bedroom is usually a good start. From here you want to graduate to relaxing with your man either while masturbating yourself in front of him or during sex/foreplay.
For more help and information on getting comfortable with your body and relaxing, make sure to check out these articles:
2. Use Quality Sex Toys
Sex toys are like steroids….but for sex.
They take good sex and make it great.
But unlike steroids, using sex toys is not cheating!
So what types of sex toys should I use to have more and stronger orgasms?
Vibrators are the obvious choice. But before rushing out to buy a vibrator, some words of warning.
Cheap vibrators only run on one setting: Super-High-Power!
These vibrators are often too strong to have enjoyable orgasms. Many people even report that they end up making them feel sort of numb after using them for only a minute or 2.
It’s a much better idea to invest in a slighty more expensive vibrator that offers multiple speeds and settings.
However, you’ll find that it’s worth your time investigating other sex toys too. Many report that using a butt plug during intercourse heightens the entire experience for them. While other report that using other toys during sex like restraints, nipple clamps or even wearing a mouth gag give them similar experiences.
And don’t forget about using some lube!
Check out the how to use a vibrator article for more tips on using a vibrator properly.
But like with all the sex tips in The Princess Fantasy, the key is to do some experimentation to find out what YOU like and what works for you.
Please feel free to share what works for you with the rest of the Bad Girls Bible community in the comments section at the end of this article.
3. The Longer The Build Up, The Better!
Quickies are great.
They can be hot and oh-so-naughty!
But if you want to have strong orgasms, a long slow build up is much, much better.
So how slow should I be?
It can literally be all day long!
It could start in the morning, with some flirty texts between you and your man. Then in the evening you could go for a nice romantic meal together.
After the meal, when you return home, you should draw out foreplay for at least an hour, then slowly graduate to having sex. Not one-minute-rabbit-sex, but nice and slow sex.
The purpose is to slowly build you up towards orgasm.
You’ll find that this slow build up will make it far easier for you to orgasm. As well as finding it easier to orgasm, you’ll also find it easier to have multiple orgasms using a slow build up.
If you want to learn some great ways to build sexual tension, especially through talking dirty to your man, then you should check out the advice I give in this dirty talking tutorial video.
4. Teasing Foreplay
This sex tip is actually something your man should read.
Or at least try to relay this information to him.
Sometimes it’s nice when your man is aggressive and wants to turn you on as fast as possible….The problem is that most men seem to think that this is the only type of foreplay.
The other type of foreplay that he should try using is what I like to call ‘Teasing Foreplay’.
The goal of Teasing Foreplay is to turn you on slowly and to tease you with sexual gratification.
The premise of teasing foreplay is this:
When he can tell that you are really enjoying something and getting closer to orgasm, he needs to start doing something else.
Some people call this the ‘2 Steps Forward, 1 Step Back Approach’.
Here are some examples:
- When he can tell that you are getting closer to a climax as he is eating you out, he should stop and instead start to slowly caress your thighs with his hands and mouth.
- Then as you start to really get off to it, he should switch things up again to something like focusing on your breasts and neck.
- As he can see you getting heated up from that, he can then finally return to your vagina for some attention from his hands.
- And then right before he brings you to climax, you can both start having sex.
The key for your man is to constantly bring you the edge, before backing off. 2 Steps Forward, 1 Step Backwards. And then afterwards, doing it all over again.
When he does eventually bring you over the edge, you are going to have a super powerful orgasm!
5. Discover Your Fantasies, Kinks & Festishes
So many girls and guys go through life feeling ashamed of the very things that turn them on!
This makes me sad 🙁
You might feel that your kinks, desires and fetishes are not normal and that you’re the only one who has them.
Everybody has them.
The sooner that you realise they are normal and nothing to be ashamed about, the sooner you will be relaxed about having them.
More Relaxed = Stronger Orgasms
You may not want to share them with anyone else (which is perfectly normal), but coming to terms with the fact that they are normal is important if you want enjoyable, guilt-free orgasms.
6. Find What Positions Work For You
So, a lot of the advice I have given you so far may seem kind of ‘theorethical’. And I’ve talked a lot about what to do before sex to have stronger orgasms.
What about something more during sex for stronger, more powerful orgasms?
It’s why I created the Sex Positions Guide.
Inside, you’ll find every major sex position you could think of and more!
7. Find Your Rhythm
Finding great sex positions that ‘hit the spot’ is great.
Just as important is finding a rhythm that you enjoy and letting your man know about it.
- You might like it when he takes it nice and slow.
- You might like it when he fast like rabbit!
- Or maybe you enjoy a combination of both.
What’s important is communicating this to your man.
Rather than sitting him down with a pen and paper or showing him a spreadsheet & pie charts (joke!) of what you like, there’s a much easier way of letting him know what you enjoy and what gets you off.
Just say it during sex.
Just like that.
It’s that easy.
And 99.9% of men will happily comply!
Then when he is in a good rhythm, make sure to praise him!
Just like that.
8. Sensory Deprivation
Have you ever had sex in a really bright room, with the lights on, with a guy you like, but it was your first time together?
Many people find that sex with the light on doesn’t allow them to fully relax and enjoy themselves. But with the light off, they feel more comfortable and relaxed.
An interesting way to take this concept a little further is to try having sex with a blindfold on. When everything is pitch black and you are unable to see, you need to rely on your other senses to orientate you. Many find this both highly arousing and relaxing at the same time.
An interesting way to take this concept further is to try using ear plugs as well.
So there you have it, 8 easy-to-use tips on how to have stronger and more enjoyable orgasms. If you have any tips of your own that haven’t been mentioned here, please leave them in a comments section below.