When you’re sick of Missionary position, what’s next? Sex doesn’t have to involve staring straight ahead into your partner’s eyes; although, this can definitely be enjoyable. Any position where your man takes you from behind can help you explore the slightly more animalistic side of sex. Sex from behind also keeps your man’s hands free during sex, which is awesome if you like to be dominated!
WHY SEX FROM BEHIND?
One of the highest forms of praise sung about doggie style is that it enables better G-spot stimulation than missionary due to the angle. If your partner’s penis lacks the length or girth to fully fill you in other positions, sex from behind might be the solution!
Additionally, if you can support yourself with just one hand, you can reach between your legs to stimulate your clitoris (some great clit stimulation techniques here) with your hands or even a vibrator (tips for using it here).
POPULAR SEX POSITIONS FROM BEHIND
1. LEAPFROG SEX POSITION
One variation of sex from the back variation is the Leapfrog, where your shoulders and breasts dip down to the bed. This helps to take the strain off your arms and shoulders. Your partner can then move into Jockey position by leaning forward with his arms outstretched to on either side of your body.
This enables him to thrust long and slow so you can feel every inch! If your partner moves his knees forward toward your rib cage and grasps your hips, he’ll have plenty of leverage when riding you from behind. You can see demonstrations of the Leapfrog position above and Jockey position below.
2. JOCKEY SEX POSITION
Want to try something else? Reach back to grasp your knees with your hands. You’ll curl up your body in a position that will allow you to feel your partner deeper than ever before. You can also move into a kneeling position where you’re sitting in your partner’s lap if your bodies allow this pose to work.
Reach up and behind to wrap your arms around his head to feel closer to him. This is called Teaspooning, as demonstrated below.
3. TEASPOONING POSITION
4. BURNING MAN POSITION
Of course, not every position involves you being on the bed. You can just as easily lean over the bed, back of the sofa, dresser or even table to mix things up like in the Burning Man position. In a pinch, your partner can take you from behind over the hood of a vehicle, and you don’t even need to take off your top! This adds excitement thanks to the potential of being caught or watched by someone if you’re in public to the already-amazing feeling of sex in this position…just make sure you aren’t breaking any laws!
Burning Man is a bit difficult if you don’t have something of the right height to lean on or if you and your partner have a big height difference. If this position does work, it can be uncomfortable against your hips and stomach. Try placing a pillow between you and the counter/furniture.
5. BODYGUARD SEX POSITION
The Bodyguard sex position is the classic standing position where your guy is fucking from behind. Although it might seem easy, you need the right factors for it to work. For starters, you cannot have too much of a height difference. You may be able to kneel on something to compensate for a height difference. That’s the case for the next two from behind positions too.
6. PUMP SEX POSITION
In this sex position from behind, you squat over a sofa or chair — make sure it’s secure! — while your man stands and enters you from behind. You’ll brace your butt against him, and he’ll hold your hips to keep you secure. You can also lean forward to support yourself.
It can be used for anal or vaginal sex. Unfortunately, you’ll need to keep all hands on deck to stay stable, so there aren’t a lot of options to stimulate yourself.
Learn more about Pump sex position.
7. STAIRWAY TO HEAVEN
Got a stairway you can use to have sex? Then you have another option when it comes to rear penetration! Start by kneeling on the stairs: your hands will be a few stairs above your knees. Then, your man kneels with his knees outside of yours. Both of you can lean forward if you like, and you can grasp the bannister for extra security.
8. SPOONING SEX POSITION
In this classic sex position, you lie on your side and your man lies behind you to penetrate you either vaginally or anally. Because you’re both fully supported, it’s safer and less risky. Spooning is a pretty comfortable sex position.
Another benefit of this sex position from the back? Either of you can stimulate your breasts or clitoris.
9. PRETZEL SEX POSITION
This position puts a unique twist on spooning, literally! While you’re on your side, your partner kneels behind your thighs, sliding one of his knees between your legs. Your top leg can bend to create space while you push the bottom leg further back between his. You can twist your upper body so it faces upward, and your partner leans over you.
Few sex from behind positions are as intimate as the Pretzel is.
10. BRUTE SEX POSITION
The way a man is mounting a woman from behind in the Brute position seems a little odd, but hear us out! To get into this position, you lie down with your legs spread and knees bent toward your chest. Your man kneels facing away from you between your legs. He’ll hold your calves with his hands, and your hands are free to stimulate wherever you’d like.
Your man will need to scoot close to you to be able to penetrate you from above and facing away. His butt will wind up resting on yours or the back of your thighs when you try this sex position from the back. This position won’t work out well if he has a shorter penis, unfortunately.
11. HIGH CHAIR SEX POSITION
For couples who have a big height difference, the High Chair position might be the answer! All you need is a stool without a back (you might be able to make it work by sitting backward on a chair) that’s about the height of your man’s hips. Make sure to arch your back and hips, so your butt is pointed back toward him. In fact, this position works best for vaginal sex when your butt hangs off the back!
You can either place your hands between your thighs for support or on a surface in front of you.
WHAT THE WOMAN DOES WHEN TAKING IT FROM BEHIND
We’ve tried to provide suggestions for what you can do in sex from behind positions. Since you’re not facing your man, you can focus on pleasuring yourself, either with your hands or your favorite sex toy, if your breasts and clitoris are free. Consider placing a pillow or other object in front of you that you can grind your clitoris against for additional stimulation.
Remember to keep your back arched downward, not upward when your man enters you from behind! Try to push your tummy down!
You may be able to move your hips to aid thrusting as well. Of course, this is a perfect time to talk dirty.
Read More: How To Talk Dirty To A Guy- With 19 Examples
Many women enjoy sex positions from the back because they allow them to be submissive. Check out this guide to being submissive to get a few ideas.
Some positions from behind don’t feel that great for some women . If you’re one of them, speak up! Talking about sex helps you have better sex!
This is less a from behind sex position as it is a situation where those positions work best. When you have shower sex, you typically stand with your man penetrating you from behind.
If your shower is in the bathtub, you might rest your foot on the edge of the tub (but not the faucet or fixtures, which can break off). Depending on the size of your tub, you might be able to kneel similar to Teaspooning.
Safety is of the utmost importance when you’re in the shower. Make sure you have something on the floor to prevent slipping. You can lean on handlebars or even use a shower seat to make things safer and more comfortable. If you need lube, choose a silicone-based lube because water-based formulas will wash off with water [2, 3]. Also, keep in mind that spilling lube on the shower floor can be dangerous and slippery , so be careful!
Be careful that any furniture you lean on can fully support your body weight though, and don’t attempt any positions from behind in the shower that might cause you to slip. You cannot rely on a faucet to safely support your bodyweight, let alone the combined weight of you and your partner.
You can try getting suction cup handles and footrests you can install in your shower to make sex safer when you’re standing up.
TAKE IT UP A NOTCH
Sex from behind works for pretty much any couple, straight or gay. In fact, there are not many people who don’t love it! Aside from providing your lover with a great view of your ass, this position can also leave his hands free to perform a variety of sexy activities. If the two of you are fans of impact play, for example, your lover can spank you or swing a paddle flogger at your behind to leave delicious red marks.
No implements are needed, however, as he can bite your shoulder or drag his fingernails down your back. It’s the perfect position for him to grab your hair or wrap his hand around your neck for a more intense sense of domination, just make sure to discuss a safe word if you are both going to get particularly intense.
In some ways, being taken from behind is like wearing a blindfold because you don’t exactly know what’s coming. If he starts out slow, then the anticipation can increase your arousal or even make your orgasms more intense.
You can use a free hand between your legs to rub your clit until orgasm. You’ll find more masturbation techniques here. Plus, doggy style and similar positions enable him to massage your back or even do something more intense like pouring hot wax onto your skin. If you’re agile enough to do so, he can even bind your hands above your head on the headboard in this position, but this is something you should both discuss beforehand.
GETTING SEX FROM BEHIND RIGHT
Any of these sexual positions might require some tweaks to work best for you and your partner. Adapting it to your personal tast is actually the key to figuring out how to have good sex from behind.
For example, it can be difficult to achieve deep penetration if you have a well-endowed backside, and your partner has a smaller penis or a rounder tummy. A large height difference can also make it more difficult for your bodies to sync up.
If you have trouble raising your hips off the bed, then you can raise your hips by lowering your shoulders or by placing a pillow or two under your hips. In fact, some companies create memory foam pillows specifically to aid in sexual positions! There are also companies that sell doggie style slings/straps to help keep your body in position and ensure your partner has enough purchase to thrust effectively.
Some people think that doggy style is less intimate because you can’t face your partner or do things that come with facing each other, including kissing while facing each other. So there are limitations to sex from behind, but this doesn’t mean that sex from behind has to feel less intimate, and you can increase intimacy in a couple of ways.
If you’re on hands and knees, for example, you can turn your head to face your partner. Alternatively, you can position yourself so that you’re facing a mirror to see each other’s faces.
Finally, your partner can lower his body, so he rests more fully on yours. From this position, he’ll be able to wrap his arms around you, kiss your neck and whisper into your ears, all of which are plenty intimate!
For many men, these positions feel so good that that reach orgasm more quickly. If you want to prolong sex, suggest that your partner use slower, more shallow thrusts. This can also help to ease any discomfort on your cervix if these positions cause it to be more easily bruised by your partner’s penis.
ORAL FROM BEHIND
While we’ve focused on positions that are mostly good for vaginal sex, you can easily try a few positions from behind that aren’t about vaginal sex.
Let’s start with oral sex.
It’s pretty difficult to perform oral on a guy from behind; our bodies just don’t work that way! But as a woman, you can receive from behind. You can either be kneeling or standing and bent over. It might help to spread your legs a little. Then, your partner stands, kneels, or sits behind you so he’s at the right height to eat you out.
But oral doesn’t have to be reserved for your clitoris and vagina. We’ve discussed rimming/rim jobs before. Also known as analingus , this is when you’re getting it from behind from your partner’s tongue. Because everyone has an anus, you can perform it as well!
Not everyone is comfortable with giving a rim job, but if you are, you can learn more about rimming.
Remember that you can use dental dams, small plastic squares, to prevent the spread of STIs during cunnilingus and analingus [6, 7, 8]. Try adding a bit of lube between the dam and your partner’s anus to keep it in place and increase sensation . These devices can make cleanup much easier and may make you feel more comfortable giving or receiving a rim job! In a pinch, you can even use plastic wrap  or even cut a condom to create a DIY dental dam [11, 12, 13].
An oral lashing in either location can be quite enjoyable and get you ready for your partner to enter you from behind.
MAKING THE MOVE TO ANAL SEX
When your partner is already behind you, the transition to anal sex is natural. Any position that works well for vaginal sex from behind works just as well for anal (you’ll find 19 anal sex positions here). You can work your way from vaginal to anal sex by allowing your partner to stimulate your anus with his fingers, tongue or a toy. You can even experience double penetration if your partner inserts a toy into one hole while his penis fills the other one.
The same advice applies to all anal sex. Because the anus doesn’t self-lubricate like the vagina, you’ll want plenty of slippery stuff on hand. A thicker gel lasts longer, while silicone-based lubes tend to be thinner and resist washing away with water. You and your lover might even consider an oil-based lube, which can also double as a great massage product before you get down and dirty. More on how to have great anal sex here.
So far, we’ve talked about a man entering from behind, but a woman can enter from behind, too! When a woman penetrates her male partner anally while wearing a strap-on, it’s called pegging . You can learn more in this article about pegging.
There are three main things to know about pegging:
- It doesn’t make him gay. A guy might be taking it from behind, but his partner is still a woman. However, it’s not uncommon for people to feel confused or anxious about the subject .
- It stimulates his prostate, an organ located within his anus , which can feel great! Bonus: prostate massage may be good for his prostate health down the line .
- The anus doesn’t create any lubrication on its own, so you’ll want to add your own.
For men, prostate play can cause a different type of orgasm that doesn’t involve ejaculation .
Many women feel especially powerful when they get the chance to enter from behind with a strap-on. While this activity may not be for everyone, we encourage you and your man to talk about it and give it a go!
Psst, you can also use your hands and toys to give a prostate massage.
Of course, sex from behind doesn’t have to include anal. It’s plenty of fun if you stick to vaginal penetration in doggy style or leap frog position. The two of you are sure to find enough variation that you won’t even miss Missionary style!