Today you’ll learn how to squirt when alone as well as how to make yourself squirt when you’re with your man.
Additionally, your man may find this guide useful to read too, so that he understands how to help you achieve that beautiful feeling of female ejaculation.
Here’s How The Tutorial Is Structured:
1. Your anatomy – The important parts of your body when making yourself squirt.
2. The process & techniques to squirt – With detailed instructional diagrams!
1. IMPORTANT ANATOMY
Before learning the techniques to use for squirting, it’s important that you understand your own anatomy and ‘where everything is down there.’
In the cross section of the vagina at the top of the page, you can see where the important anatomical features are.
THE G SPOT
While the diagram is quite detailed, it’s important to note the location of G Spot. Full disclosure: While some medical professionals still dispute it’s existence [1], we firmly believe it exists, but that its sensitivity varies from person to person and from situation to situation.
The G Spot is the most important area to focus on when learning how to squirt. It’s located on the upper wall of your vagina, between 1 and 3 inches from the entrance.
Please understand that your G Spot is hard to find when you are not aroused. However, when you are aroused it becomes engorged (i.e. it becomes bigger) [2]. When it gets bigger, it feels soft, spongy and slightly ribbed to touch. It’s texture feels similar to the roof of your mouth, yet much softer.
SKENE’S GLAND
When you stimulate the G Spot, you are also going to be stimulating a gland just above it called the Skene’s gland (sometimes called the Female prostate). The Skene’s gland is located around the walls of the urethra and drains into the urethra. The Skene’s gland is where you squirt or ejaculate from.
You can’t stimulate the Skene’s gland directly, as it’s not actually on the inside wall of your vagina. Rather, it’s just above your G Spot. So you can only stimulate it indirectly when you stimulate your G Spot. As a result, this entire tutorial will focus on stimulating your G Spot.
Just one last thing on the Skene’s gland before we move on: When a scientific study was performed on multiple women by Emanuele Jannini of L’Aquila University in Italy in 2002, it found that the size and anatomy of the Skene’s gland varies dramatically for each woman examined. He also discovered a few edge cases where they couldn’t even find a Skene’s gland in some women[3].
It’s been postulated that the varying size and even lack of a Skene’s gland altogether is the reason why some women can easily squirt while others have extreme difficulty with female ejaculation.
THE CLITORIS
When learning how to squirt, the clitoris is not as important as the G Spot. This is because the vast majority of people squirt as a result of G Spot stimulation, although it’s not impossible[4].
So for most people, the rest of your anatomy is going to be secondary to your G Spot when learning how to make yourself gush & squirt. So to keep things simple, we won’t be covering the clitoris for the rest of this article. If you want to learn some great clitoral stimulation techniques, then you may be interested in this article here. The final thing to say about the clitoris is that I have used the color purple to make it stand out in the illustration above, in real life it doesn’t have a distinct color
2. THE PROCESS & SQUIRTING TECHNIQUES
One of the key parts to learning how to make yourself squirt is understanding that you need to build up to it. Making yourself squirt doesn’t just happen by mechanically following my techniques. You need to slowly put yourself in the right mood first where you are very aroused and very comfortable. I’ll explain why in just a minute.
GETTING COMFORTABLE & RELAXED
Getting yourself both comfortable and relaxed is the priority. Everybody has different routines to relax and loosen up. For you it could be lying in bed in pair of sweatpants while for someone else it could be while taking a shower and washing yourself. You may find that you need to do a little bit of experimentation to find out what works best for you.
GETTING AROUSED
Next, you need to start getting yourself aroused. Some suggestions for getting yourself aroused:
- Reading erotica
- Watching porn
- Fantasising about something or someone
- Massaging yourself
- Using a vibrator or dildo
While getting yourself aroused, don’t worry too much about your G Spot. Focus on the other areas of your body. Ideally, you should try to spend about 20-30 minutes getting yourself worked up to the point where you are eagerly awaiting an orgasm.
As you get yourself aroused, it will start to make your Skene’s gland swell[5] and get bigger, which in turn will make your G Spot get bigger and more sensitive. Sometimes, this swelling of the Skene’s gland can make it feel like you need to pee. This is simply because the Skene’s gland is located right beside the bladder and will start to put extra pressure on the bladder as it’s swells.
At this point, your G Spot should also be sufficiently enlarged and sensitive enough to find easily with your fingers. Remember, it’s located on the upper wall of the vagina as indicated in the diagram below:
All of this ‘foreplay’ is important to build yourself up to squirting. Without it, your Skene’s gland will not have swelled and your G Spot won’t be as sensitive. In other words, if you don’t get yourself worked up beforehand, it’s going to a lot harder to actually squirt. Now, the good stuff…
Quick Note: Everybody responds differently to these techniques below. So make sure to do some experimentation to find what works best for you.
THE HOOK
The hook is the best technique using only your hands. To perform it, lie down on your back and slide your hand down your stomach, with your palm facing your belly. When you reach your vagina, insert your middle and ring finger, leaving your index and pinky finger outside and pointing down towards the bed like in the diagram below.
Now, you need to find your G Spot with the tip of your fingers and start to gently massage it while your hand is in the Hook position. There are a number of different ways to massage and stimulate your G Spot using the Hook.
PUSH THE BUTTON
You can press your G Spot repeatedly with your finger like you would press a button. Make sure to experiment with how much pressure you apply. Lightly pressing can be enough for some women, while others need intense pressure. This pressing can be pleasurable, but the next techniques are much more likely to make you have a squirting orgasm.
COME HITHER
Making a ‘come hither’ or ‘beckoning’ motion with your middle and ring fingers will allow the tips of your fingers to run over and back your G Spot, providing yourself with a lot more stimulation. Again, make sure to experiment with the amount of pressure applied and with the exact location of where you apply the pressure. You may notice this technique and Push The Button can tire your fingers and wrist out quite quickly.
THE ARM SHAKER
The Arm Shaker is like a combination of Push The Button & Come Hither…on steroids. Instead of using your fingers and hand to provide stimulation, you are going to use your entire arm. First, you need to keep your fingers firmly in place, with the tips pressed against your G Spot. Then you need to start using your entire arm to provide pressure, a lot more pressure than previously.
Do this by keeping your arm quite stiff while trying to raise and lower it rapidly. As your fingers are pressed against your G Spot, you will be able to provide massive amounts of pressure to it. This is almost guaranteed to make you squirt.
SEX TOYS
Optionally you can use a sex toy like dildos (tips here) or penis shaped vibrators (tips for using your vibrator here). There are even specialized G Spot vibrators you can use to stimulate your G Spot.
There is no ‘one true method’ to make yourself squirt. Everyone is different, so make sure to experiment with lots of different techniques to see what works best for you.
SQUIRTING DURING SEX
As well as squirting while masturbating alone, you may want to squirt with your partner. The key is using the correct angle and depth of penetration. Your man only needs to penetrate about 2-3 inches to make you ejaculate. The illustration below shows the depth and angle that he should be penetrating you to stimulate your G Spot
But if you find that this angle is not providing enough pressure to your G Spot, then get your man to make the angle slightly more drastic like in the illustration below:
4 SEX POSITIONS TO HELP YOU SQUIRT
While you will find over 100 different sex positions with professional photographs in the sex positions section here, the following four positions are the ones that I would most recommend you try with your man to help make yourself squirt during sex:
G Spot Position – As the name suggests, the G Spot position is all about your man stimulating your G Spot with each thrust. For more information on the G Spot position, click here.Launch Pad Position – This position is great as it gives you a lot of control… You can use your feet on your man’s chest to control how deep he penetrates you. If you are having trouble getting enough G Spot stimulation, it’s usually because your man is leaning too far forward.
Getting him to lean backwards and only use shallow strokes should do the trick.
Down Stroke Position – Think of the Down Stroke position as a more extreme version of the G Spot position. It’s also a bit more dangerous, so don’t do it if you aren’t physically very fit. If you’d like to learn more about how to perform the Down Stroke and get the most out of it, click here.
Jockey Position – The Jockey position is more easy going for you as you’ll be lying on your stomach as demonstrated below. While it’s easy to perform, it takes a very specific movement from your man to provide pressure to your G Spot.
Instead of thrusting in and out, he just needs to grind on you. As he moves his hips forward, it will cause the tip of his penis to rub off your G Spot. Click here to find out more about the Jockey position:
PRESSURE & RELEASE
As your G Spot is stimulated during masturbating or sex, you will start to feel a build up in pressure. Many women report that this feels like they need to pee [6][7]. This feeling is completely natural for a two reasons:
1. Your Skene’s gland is very close to your bladder and as it expands it puts pressure on the bladder, increasing the feeling of needing to pee.
2. As your Skene’s gland enlarges, you will naturally feel like releasing the pressure. Like I said previously, the Skene’s gland is emptied through the urethra so it will feel a bit like peeing as you squirt. So there is simply no way to avoid this ‘peeing’ feeling.
So try not to worry about this feeling and understand that some women feel it more than others. All you need to do is keep doing what you are doing and allow that pleasurable feeling to keep building until you do eventually ejaculate. This point is often the final hurdle that some women fail to cross when it comes to squirting.
As the pressure builds and you can feel yourself about to squirt, it’s important to be able to let go and be ok with what’s about to happen. For some, this involves trying to completely relax themselves, while others find that to let go, they need to ‘push’ the orgasm out. Again, experiment and see what works to give you maximum pleasure.