According to refinery29 ,tearing is very possible when having sex with large penises, says Timaree Schmit, PhD, a sex educator. And apparently, having rough, doggy-style sex was not the best way to avoid this. "Doggy allows for greater depth of penetration, which can be great at times but also potentially painful," Dr. Schmit says. "It's also a position in which the receptive partner has less control of the motion than, for instance, being on top."
Clearly, positions matter when it comes to penetrative sex with penises (and not to mention, bigger isn't alwaysbetter). The vagina can expand comfortably to fit all sorts of objects, Dr. Schmit says. You just have to learn the most comfortable positions to accommodate a larger-than-average penis or dildo. So here are a few sex positions that work exceptionally well and won't break your vagina (or butthole, for that matter).
Oh, and these positions are wonderful, but don't forget to communicate with your partner about how you're feeling throughout, use lots of lube and have fun with foreplay.
Side By Side
When making love to a penis or giant dildo, Dr. Schmit says that side-by-side sex can prevent penetration from getting a little too deep. Since you're facing one another, it's also incredibly intimate. If you're the one being penetrated, insert whatever huge (lubed up, please!) object your partner is dealing with into your vagina or anus, and then use your legs to control how far it goes. Keeping your legs straight works best for shallower penetration. If you feel like you can handle a bit more intensity, lift up one leg (or both) and wrap it around your lover like a pretzel to pull them deeper inside of you.
Cradle
Like being on top in cowgirl, cradle position allows the partner to control the depth of penetration. Plus, this position has the added intimacy of touching torsos. To get into cradle position, have the partner with the penis or dildo sit facing upward with their legs straight out and large shaft facing upward. If you're the receiving partner, lube up, and then gently lower yourself onto the shaft and wrap your legs around your lover.
Cowgirl/Cowboy
This position works great for larger dicks and dildos, because the receiving partner can control the depth and speed of penetration when they're on top, Dr. Schmit says. After having fun with foreplay, lube up the phallus properly (it can be hot to have the receiving partner do it). Then, the receiving partner can slowly insert the penis or dildo using their hands and glide their body down the shaft, moving up and down and only going as deep as feels comfortable.
Standing Doggy Style
As Dr. Schmit says, traditional doggy style can hurt when it's done with a massive object (like a large penis or dildo), because the one being penetrated has less control. In the standing variety, the receiving partner can better manage how deep their well-endowed lover thrusts by opening and closing their thighs.
Reverse Cowgirl/Cowboy
Like the original version, this position works wonders because the person on top can control the depth and speed. Sure, the giver can put their hands on the receiving partner's hips to provide deeper penetration, but ultimately the receiver has the power. And just like with any other sex position, communicate with your partner the moment anything feels uncomfortable, and then adjust accordingly
Fire Hydrant
Sex with giant penises or dildos can be intense. If it gets uncomfortable, switch to oral, and have the partner wielding the weapon (so to speak) get on their knees. As I said, foreplay is extra important when being penetrated by larger phallic objects, since foreplay helps the vagina self-lubricate, which makes insertion easier.
Keep in mind that you can use fire hydrant to warm up for penetrative sex, or simply enjoy it as a stand-alone act. "Oral and foreplay are phenomenal in general, fun for their own sake, and not just something to be viewed as steps in a process," Dr. Schmit says.
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Great information! I was very weary of having sex for a 2nd time with my new partner, due to the size and girth of his penis. 😮 Now I’m anxious to try again with these suggested positions.
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Thank you for this!
Also him on top can work cos I can push his horse or close my legs slightly when it’s too deep.