What if I could give you a magic pill that could make you a sexual goddess in the bedroom?
If I could give you a magic pill, I would.
But sadly, these magic pills just don’t exist. Here’s why…
Getting better at sex takes effort and experience, it’s as simple as that. It’s like learning how to speak a foreign language or how to drive a car.
There is no ‘magic pill’ technique that takes only 5 seconds to learn and works perfectly every time. Instead, you have to put in the effort.
But once you get the hang of the basics, you can rapidly progress and become incredible at sex, very quickly.
The purpose of this newsletter is to get you ‘up to speed’ as fast as possible when it comes to pleasing your partner in the bedroom and getting better at sex. In other words, I am going to teach you...
How To Get Good At Sex, The Fast Way…
The thing is, getting good at sex requires 2 people…
“Well DUH, Sean”, I can hear you say.
Okay, so obviously sex involves 2 people, but…
Both partners need to be in the same state of mind if you are to both enjoy it. Being in the same state of mind is vital to good sex.
The key to both being in the same state of mind and the key to both of you enjoying it is…
Now, I am not talking about sitting down with a therapist and trying to ‘connect’.
What I mean is that you both need to communicate exactly what it is you want, sexually. When couples do this they often find out that they both even have similar fantasies… Or you may discover that you both enjoy a certain position during sex… Or you’ll learn something very simple that your partner doesn’t like.
When you hear me speak about improving ‘communication’, you may think I sound like a therapist.
I am not a therapist.
And I’m not some guy with a pHD in communication who has spent most of my life in a lab coat ‘studying how humans interact’, then writing detailed reports that have little relevance to the real world.
I’m just a normal guy who enjoys sex. More importantly, I’m a guy who enjoys teaching women how to get better at sex. And over the last 11 years I have been doing just that.
So like I was saying, you need to communicate effectively in order to fully fulfill each other sexually. To communicate effectively with your man, you need to do 2 things.
- You need to find out what your man likes and wants in the bedroom.
- You need to make your man receptive and enthusiastic about what you want.
Knowing his wants, likes and desires in the bedroom is vital. Once you know them, you’ll literally have the golden key to keeping him sexually attracted to you. And once you know how to sexually fulfill him, he is much less likely to stray or cheat on you.
So you are probably wondering how you can get him to open up. How can you get him to tell you his sexual wants, his desires and his fantasies, so that you can go about fulfilling them?
There are a few different techniques that you can use to do this.
The first thing that you need to do is realize that a lot of guys are awkward, shy or a little nervous when it comes to talking about their sexual fantasies. In fact, they will usually be more shy about this than you!
Here are the 3 things that you need to focus on to get him to open up.
To get him to open up you need to be non-judgemental and welcoming. If you laugh or snicker, it’s highly unlikely that he will ever open up.
The best place to talk about what he wants and desires is in the bedroom, at night, after good sex. This is when a man is most open to talking about what he wants sexually.
How you approach talking about what he would like in the bedroom takes a little courage, but it’s totally worth it.
You need to use, what I like to call the ‘Go First’ method. It’s a simple psychological technique where you first talk about what you like before getting him to open up about what he likes.
It works because it shows your man that you are relaxed and non-judgemental when it comes to talking about each others fantasies.
Getting Him To Open Up
Here is my 5 step process that you can use to get him to open up.
1. Start off by telling your man how much you enjoy sex with him. He’ll enjoy hearing it.
2. Next you need to then transition to talking about trying new things.
Imagine this process like building a wall. You build it one brick at a time. Start off with something small and then build up to more intense things.
It could be something as small and inconsequential as saying, “I really like doggystyle” or “I really like it when you’re on top” or “I love when you’re in control in the bedroom”.
3. Then ask him what he likes.
9 times out of 10, he will tell you what he likes and wants. But if he doesn’t, then you can say something like, “I bet you like it when you’re on top” or “Do you like me on my knees, giving you a blow job.” This will make it easier for him as all he has to say is “yes” or “no”.
4. Next you need to push the boat out a little and say that you’d like to try something a little more exciting and intense like “I really want to dress up in something super-sexy for you” or“I’d love to feel you totally dominate me in bed” or “I want you to take my anal virginity”.
Most guys will be thrilled to hear these things.
5. Next, it’s time to again ask him if there is anything he’d like to try.
Note: You could keep saying that you’d like to try more new things for hours and hours one night, but it’s more effective to slowly build momentum over a number of nights up to a point where you are both incredibly comfortable talking about all of your sexual fantasies together.
And there you have it. This guide has shown you how to find out exactly what your partner wants when it comes to sex.
Now that you know how to find out what your lover wants in bed, it’s really important to learn more sex techniques and tricks for the bedroom so you can constantly keep things spicy! This will ensure that he never gets bored.