There are also those activities that are more out there. Breastfeeding your man is definitely one of those activities. These relationships, known as adult nursing relationships (ANR), aren’t common, but some people find them extremely fulfilling.

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If you want to know how to breastfeed your man or even why you would want to, then you’ve come to the right place. This in-depth guide is going to cover everything, from the science behind breastfeeding to the benefits to how to actually do it with your man.

Whether your man has expressed interest in adult nursing relationships or you’ve found your own mind drifting to the idea, you might be a little weirded out. It’s certainly an atypical kink, and your reaction is reasonable. However, both men and women find themselves enjoying adult nursing relationships, even if they initially were on the fence about it.

Plus, kinky is subjective. What’s kinky to one person or couple might be completely vanilla to another. If you’re looking for more kinky ideas, then you may want to consider these 25 activities to start with.


You’re either reading this post about how to breastfeed your man because you’ve found yourself fantasizing about breastfeeding your man, or he’s broached the subject with you. You might wonder why one or both of you is having such thoughts.

The truth is we sometimes have fantasies for no particular reason. It doesn’t make us depraved, mean we’re depressed or indicate some sort of trauma from our past. Everyone has fantasies, it’s a normal part of life. Discover how trying your fantasy can lead to some of the best sex ever.

You may have seen breastfeeding porn or realized how sensitive your nipples are after nursing your child. Whatever the reason, the idea is in your head. You’re not the first, though! The concept of erotic lactation has existed as far back as the Roman Empire.


If you’re struggling with the idea of turning your relationship into an adult nursing relationship, you might just need to consider the benefits of breastfeeding your man. To explain, we’ll need to go back to maternal breastfeeding.

Not only does breastfeeding a child provide him or her with nutrients, but it also helps a mother bond with her child [1]. Nipple stimulation during breastfeeding encourages oxytocin, the so-called cuddle hormone [2]. (Need more tips on how cuddling can improve your relationship? Click here!).

Oxytocin makes you feel closer to a child, but it can also increase closeness and trust with any person [3]. Oxytocin increases after a woman is aroused [4], and orgasm can also increase this hormone [5], which is why you might confuse your feelings for a man after having sex.

So if you try breastfeeding your man, you’ll have another way to increase the hormone production of your body and, as a result, intimacy with your man.

Adult nursing relationships also increase intimacy because it encourages a couple to spend more time together. As a new mother, you’d frequently nurse your infant, often on a schedule. In an adult nursing relationship, many couples strive for a similar schedule. The result is scheduled time, where you focus only on your man and vice versa.

You don’t need to breastfeed your man to achieve this, however. Learn the 9 things every relationship needs for emotional intimacy or discover 4 ways to fix intimacy issues in your relationship.


There are other perks to this type of relationship, too. If you enjoy roleplaying (check out the hottest roleplaying games to try with your man) or exploring BDSM with your man, an adult nursing relationship can fit in well. Simply choose roles where you’ll play a maternal figure. Interested in learning more about how BDSM can supercharge your sex life? We’ve got the scoop!

Breastfeeding is touted for infants because of the nutrients, which help to build immunity. Historically, women have breastfed adults who were sickly to help build their immune systems. The practice has continued more recently than you might realize in countries such as China.

Although breastfeeding your man shouldn’t replace a trip to the doctor during a time of serious illness or injury, it may have unexpected benefits.


Breastfeeding is notorious for making a woman’s breasts swell, and who doesn’t like that? You might find yourself feeling sexier than ever when your man is unable to keep his hands off you.

If you’re able to produce milk that your man drinks – don’t worry; this is completely optional! – there are plenty of nutrients in your milk.

Finally, if you’re the type of woman who has sensitive breasts and nipples, you might experience orgasms from this type of stimulation. Of course, if you’re not into breastfeeding your man, you might prefer these 15 techniques for powerful nipple orgasms.

However, many people find they’re able to enjoy adult nursing relationships because of all these perks.


How you start breastfeeding your man will vary. If it’s your idea and you suspect he’s hesitant, you can encourage him to suck your boobs. If he’s already nibbling or massaging your breasts, let him know how good it feels by moaning and breathing heavily.

If you want to be direct, you can tell him how good it feels when he sucks your boobs. The encouragement can motive him to go a bit further. Talking dirty is the perfect way to get him super turned on when sucking on your nipples. Use these 73 dirty talk ideas to tease and arouse him. And here’s another 64 examples so you never run out of ideas.

Use your hands to guide his mouth to your nipples and areolas. He’ll get the hint.

Try adding some porn with an erotic breastfeeding angle to see how your man responds.

Or you can just be upfront about your desires. We recommend reading our comprehensive guide to sexual communication to have more fulfilling sex. Perhaps the two of you can trade fantasies. You’ll give his fantasy a try if he sucks your boobs.

On the other hand, your man should come to you. So you should be patient and listen to his point. You can ease into the idea of breastfeeding your man with nipple sucking and biting.


There are two main differences between letting your man play with your breasts and having him suck your boobs:

  1. Boob sucking can involve actual milk.
  2. Breastfeeding often occurs on a schedule

Although you don’t have to be nursing to enjoy breastfeeding your man, some couples do particularly enjoy this aspect. It’s easier to breastfeed your man with milk if you’ve previously breastfed, or you’re currently feeding or pumping. However, some women can produce milk even if they’ve ever been pregnant.


Latching is the term used to describe the position of an infant’s mouth around your nipple. An incorrect latch means your baby won’t be able to suck as much milk. If sucking milk from your boobs is one of your man’s goals in your adult nursing relationship, then the latch will also be important.

It’s easier to find the right latch because you can communicate directly with your man. He’ll also be able to better control the position of his head and mouth. He’ll need to use his mouth to encourage milk production and movement (and this will also stimulate oxytocin production in your body).

The best position requires sealing his mouth around your areola and not just the nipple. He can use his tongue to press your nipple to the roof of his mouth to get the milk moving. Contrary to popular belief, breastfeeding isn’t as much about sucking as it is about drinking the milk. It’s his tongue that will do all the work.

Rhythmic tongue motions and suckling (that rhythm encourages both of you to be relaxed) are more important than force, which may even hurt you or damage your milk ducts. Unless you specifically like pain, encourage the right latch for the best experience breastfeeding your man.


If you start breastfeeding your man when you stop feeding your baby, you should have no problem continuing. However, you can encourage milk to come in or greater amounts with Mother’s Milk tea, which is available from organic and grocery stores.

Of course, he can suck your boobs even if you don’t produce milk or want milk part of your adult nursing relationship. You can still reap the intimacy benefits, which leads us to our next point.


Part of the reasons couples find adult nursing relationships so empowering and arousing is because the couple sets apart time to spend with one another just like breastfeeding a child gives you a few moments at a time to sit down, relax and enjoy each other’s company. It’s like having a weekly date night, which many couples make a point to do.

If you don’t spend enough time together, breastfeeding your man offers a solution. You can simply enjoy his presence and feel his body close to yours. For some people, this is foreplay. Foreplay is necessary for many women to get turned on or to orgasm.

However, others only find it to be a bonding experience and continue with their lives after nursing is done.

There’s no set amount of time you should set aside for your adult nursing relationship. Obviously, it’ll be easier to do in the comfort of your own home, so it might need to take a backseat when you’re socializing or working.

This might present a problem for women who are lactating. While you can feed your baby whenever necessary, your breasts don’t know the difference between a child and an adult. Your nipples may leak over the course of the day so that a nursing bra may be necessary.

Explaining why your milk glands are active when you don’t have a child at home might also be difficult.

Listen to your body when it comes to your adult nursing relationship. You don’t want to strain it or cause undue stress no matter how good breasting your man might feel.


There are a few things you’ll discover as you learn how to breastfeed your man. First, breastfeeding can cause your period to stop. However, this doesn’t mean you should stop using birth control (Read: the most effective birth control options here) or condoms. Learn how to use condoms step-by-step here.

You can breastfeed your man and your child at the same time. But some women may not produce enough milk to do both, so your child’s health should come first.


You’re not the only person with an adult breastfeeding relationship. In fact, there are a few communities where you can find advice and support from other couples who enjoy this type of foreplay. You might find likeminded individuals in your local BDSM group, or you can go online to forums and blogs that are specifically dedicated to erotic lactation.

There are other dating sites dedicated to adult nursing relationships and adult breastfeeding, too.

Adult breastfeeding and nursing relationships absolutely aren’t for everyone. You might want to only breastfeed your child or never breastfeed at all. One of you might not be able to get over the “ick” factor, and that’s okay! Try these 12 techniques for mind-blowing nipple play, instead.

But if you give breastfeeding your man a try, you might find it to be pleasurable and provide an intense bonding experience that has been lacking in your relationship while satisfying an arousing fantasy.

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