I have a question that I would love you to answer…
Where did you learn how to have sex?
- From a sex ed teacher?
- From watching porn?
- From your experienced friends?
- From your inexperienced friends who claimed to be experienced?
- From your parents?
- From a combination of the above?
I’m asking because I personally ‘learned’ how to have sex from watching porn. Although porn is the worst teacher you could imagine! Sort of like a drunk teaching you how to drive.
We never had a sex ed class in school (thank you Catholic education :/) and I never really discussed the mechanics of sex with my friends.
While I have nothing against pornography, I really feel that it’s the worst thing you can possible use to learn about sex.
If you have no reference experiences and then porn is your first, it can give you some really twisted views on what’s ‘normal’.
Let’s take you average, ‘normal’ porn scene:
A man (or men) arrive at a house/mansion. They seem relatively normal and relaxed. Then he/they meet an incredily submissive and eager young woman.
Almost imediately he/they start to refer to her in a degrading way, calling her a slut/whore/bitch/nasty/etc. which almost always appears to turn her on more and more.
After NO foreplay, but maybe some aggressive groping, the eager young woman is down on her knees giving every guy in the room a blowjob.
But she’s not kissing, caressing and loving what she’s doing. Hell no, she is sucking like the the fate of humanity depends on it. She’s trying to take each penis as deep into her mouth as possible. She’s gagging and wretching. Her eyes are welling up.
And the man/men seem to really enjoy every minute of it.
After a few minutes of this, vaginal sex starts.
Rather, vaginal pounding beings.
You’ll notice in almost every porno that immediately the woman starts to get really vocal about how much she is ‘enjoying’ every second of sex.
Fuck me like that!
Give me every inch!
Fuck me like the nasty bitch I am!
Stretch my pussy!
The truth is, some people are really vocal during sex, while others aren’t.
You’ll also notice that a lot of the sex positions don’t even involve much skin on skin contact, a big intimacy killer.
After a few minutes of vaginal sex, things inevitably move to anal pounding. Something that always appears easy and just as enjoyable on screen as vaginal sex.
In real life this is just not the case. Some woman enjoy receiving it, others don’t. Just like how some guys enjoy giving it and others don’t.
After some anal pounding, it’s time to move onto the cumshot.
If you believe everything you watch in porn, you’ll believe that every girl loves having their man blow his load on their face and every man demands it.
Then after he cums, there is some more dirty talk…
And….scene.[hr]
I certainly sound like I hate porn. I don’t.
I just hate the way that it’s often the first experience young people have when learning about how to have sex.
Sex is a wonderful and fun experience. But it’s not a show where you need to pretend like your enjoying it if you are not.
If you don’t like gagging on your man’s penis, having anal sex, taking his load on your face or being degraded then you shouldn’t have to experience these things.
Some women do find these things a turn on, other don’t.
What’s important is that you only do what you are comfortable with during sex. And the same goes for your man.
So I know this may seem like a rant, but I guess what I am trying to say is not that porn is bad or evil.
It’s that porn is a terrible place to learn about sex. That’s one of the reasons I created this site and this powerful blow job tutorial video. To try and create a better resource for learning about sex and how to make it great!
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