Don’t get us wrong, either! Having a vagina and clitoris provides you with an experience than no man can ever have, but you’ll never be able to understand what a blow job feels like even though you understand that it differs from intercourse. This doesn’t mean you can’t ask your man “What does a blow job feel like?” or use the answers to perfect your technique.
You might not ever be able to experience a blow job for yourself, but you certainly can create an exciting, erotic and, when appropriate, emotionally intimate experience with your partner thanks to your complementary body parts!
This post will tackle your burning question and provide you with tips to become a master at giving blow jobs!
IT’S NOT ALL PHYSICAL
Obviously, a blow job is warm and wet, much like your vagina. In fact, the inside of a mouth and the vagina have very similar tissues even though the shapes vary.
A man might also describe a blow job as having suction, massaging tongue movement and even have reverberations from his partner humming or moaning around his cock.
The tongue is one of the strongest muscles in the body, and you can control is in various ways. Flat, soft tongue movements, pointed tongue movements, swirling around the head of his cock and even licking down the shaft to his balls will provide different stimulation. In fact, the tongue is one of the main ways in which a blow job feels different from sex.
When paired with manual stroking, a blow job offers many of the same sensations as a hand job, with the addition of a warm mouth wrapped around the head of his penis. If you pull away for a breather, your saliva has lubricated his penis to provide him with a slick hand job like no other!
It’s natural to use your hands when giving a blow job, and it gives your mouth and jaw a rest
For a man whose partner is able to deep throat, a blow job can transcend him to another plane! He experiences all the sensations described above but is able to slip deep into his partner’s throat, which offers additional tightness.
Of course, a blow job feels different for a man when he’s wearing a condom. Some men report decreased sensation, but a thin condom helps to prevent the transmission of STIs, which is important because HPV infections are increasingly transmitted through oral sex according to Mount Sinai. But you can use the condom to create suction around your man’s penis.
A quick Google search about what a blow job feels like reveals some overlapping descriptions, but you might be surprised that some men respond to a great blow job with a tickling sensation in their nose. Obviously, it’s a biological reaction that he can’t control, but it’s something most women would be surprised to learn.
WHAT DOES A BLOW JOB FEEL LIKE MENTALLY?
Have you ever been with a lover whose technique might have been a little bit lacking — or even just not your style — but their enthusiasm made up for it? Men experience the same thing. If there’s a strong emotional connection or you simply seem to be having the time of your life, it will make the experience better for him, too!
There are a few things you can do that aren’t necessarily physical to send him over the edge. These are great tricks for giving head if you’re struggling with a gag reflex or a partner who’s so well-endowed that you have trouble fitting him into your mouth.
- Make eye contact, which is incredibly hot!
- Moan or express your love for giving head by touching your clit or breasts as you do it.
- Ask him what he wants and what he likes. Being vocal gives your mouth a break, but also helps to ensure you’re blowing him in a style he enjoys.
All of these ideas play into the fact that enthusiasm is key to giving a good blow job and having amazing sex in general. In fact, many men feel as though nothing is worse than a reluctant blow job, where his partner is simply going through the motions to get it done. Who wants to feel like they’re a chore?
A man may not be able to articulate what he likes when he’s receiving a blow job, but you can pay attention to his verbal and non-verbal cues, including how he thrusts, his moaning and his breathing. These enable you to fine-tune your rhythm to his. This certainly produces a better physical sensation, but it also creates a connection that goes far beyond the physical.
Finally, you can’t underestimate the thrill of looking down to a beautiful woman with her mouth wrapped around your penis. A man who sees a woman working his knob tends to feel powerful and sexual. For many men, this image is enough to get them off, which is why making eye contact works so well!
When it comes to power, seeing a woman’s makeup stream down her face, making her gag or even placing a hand at the back of her head to fuck her mouth can make him feel like a superhero. But not every woman is okay with her man being that handsy, and not every man enjoys mimicking porn in this way.
In fact, a partner who is too forceful can turn you off from the idea of giving head even if it could be pleasurable for you.
IT’S NOT ALL GOOD
If you ask any man what a blow job feels like, you’d have to inquire what a poor BJ feels like. Men will list a few factors that contribute to a less than stellar experience, often including lack of enthusiasm and being sloppy, which can happen when a woman is too drunk. Of course, a blow job can even be painful, especially if you accidentally scrape with your teeth (although, some men don’t mind or even like this sensation! Just make sure to ask him).
Men repeatedly discuss how too much saliva feels slobbery and sloppy. Not everyone enjoys gobs of spit like you’ll see in porn. This is where communication comes in so you can ensure you’re giving him the pleasure he needs.
But sometimes a blow job doesn’t feel as good and it has nothing to do with who’s giving it. A man might be tired, sick, stressed, taking medication or under the influence of drugs or alcohol in a way that makes him unable to enjoy a blow job, even if he would enjoy it otherwise.
Being on the receiving end should be all pleasure, but this isn’t always the case. Men often worry that they will take too long to cum, or they may wonder how they smell and taste. Remaining in a standing position while receiving head can be difficult, especially if he does take quite a while to get off.
You’ve probably had similar thoughts when your man was going down on you, so you can understand why the pleasure of receiving a blow job might be coupled with anxiety. Plus, not every man is able to cum from oral sex at all. This makes oral a great appetizer even if it can’t be a main dish, and knowing he’s not required to orgasm might set your man’s mind at ease.
IMPROVE WHAT A BLOW JOB FEELS LIKE FOR YOUR MAN
During a blow job, there are plenty of things you can do to add variety, too! For example, you can twist your mouth back and forth, run your tongue along the underside of his shaft, fondle and caress his testicles and even blow lightly.
If you know that your partner is open to anal play, running your finger around his anus or even dabbling in a bit of anal fingering to stimulate his prostate can provide him with a more intense orgasm.
To up the ante, pull out your favorite bullet vibratorand place it against his balls or even against your cheek so he can feel it as you’re sucking him off!
Want even more ideas to provide your lover with never-ending pleasure? Try these tricks in bed!
- Use lube during your blowjob. Flavored lubewill make it easier for you while increasing slickness.
- Use an edible massage product with a warming or cooling factor to increase sensation.
- Place an ice cube in your mouth while performing oral.
- Paint your lover’s penis with edible chocolate or body paint and lick it off. Avoid food with sugar, which can cause yeast infections.
- Take a drink of champagne or a highly-carbonated soda before performing oral.
- Focus on a specific part of his penis such as the head or underside.
- Lick, suck and nibble on his testicles.
Because there are so many things you can do while giving head, the answer to “What does a blow job feel like?” might never be the same twice. This also differentiates oral sex from intercourse. Although you can never truly know what a blow job feels like for your man, you can use these tips to up your game and provide your lover with a blow job he won’t soon forget!