Have you ever sat and wondered “Why am I so horny?” Perhaps you’ve been this way as long as you remember, and you feel somewhat self-conscious about it. Or a recent change in your life has led to you feeling so horny. It may be exciting or it may be annoying because you’ve got other things to focus on, and who can do that when they want to jump the next passing man?
WHY AM I SO HORNY – AND SOME PEOPLE AREN’T?
The advice in that post can also help when your sex drive is lower, which can happen during certain points in your cycle when your hormones are less present. Menopause also leads to a decrease in hormone production, which can mean you have trouble feeling horny.
While you might sometimes be so horny, other times your sex drive will dip. This is a normal part of life, and your interest in sex will wax and wane through the stages of your relationship. Furthermore, your health, stress level and psychological state can also decrease your interest in sex. For example, depression often makes people become uninterested in having sex, even when they’re in a loving relationship. Unfortunately, many medications prescribed for depression can also kill sex drive.
This doesn’t mean there aren’t lots of causes for a high or even overactive sex drive, however.
- HORMONES
- You might feel super horny if your testosterone is higher than typical. This can lead to more aggressive behavior and increased hair growth. It’s not normally bad for your health, but high testosterone can be an indicator of something called Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome.
- You may experience increased sex drive just before your period, as both estrogen and testosterone climb during ovulation. This is a perfect time to call up your FWB, hit the bars for some casual sex or plan a sexy date night for you and your boyfriend! Bonus: women report that orgasms during this time are more satisfying, too!
- You’re an adolescent going through puberty, which has you feeling so horny. Your level of hormones has skyrocketed, and it can take a couple years for them to even out. This usually comes with some negative side effects, including an increase in moodiness and acne.
- You’re pregnant. If you didn’t think you’d crave the nasty while a baby is growing inside you, you’re wrong! Just like puberty, pregnancy increases sex drive. Some women find themselves craving sex more than ever during pregnancy. You may find yourself more carefree and interested in experimenting, and you and your partner may even be in awe at the changes your body is making!
- You’re on hormonal birth control. The birth control pill, patch, Mirena IUD, implant and Depo Provera shot are all great at avoiding pregnancy. This is because they all change the balances of hormones in your body, typically by adding both male (progesterone) and female (estrogen) hormones. Increasing these in your system can lead to an increase in horniness. However, one side effect of hormonal birth control in some women is a loss of sex drive.
- CHEMICAL INFLUENCE
Not everything that makes you horny is because of hormones, however. For instance, you might find yourself feeling friskier once you’d had a drink or two. Alcohol helps to take the edge off and lower your inhibitions – just enough to get down and dirty.
While we don’t condone illegal drug use, some people also experience similar boosts in libido after partaking in them.
- APHRODISIAC FOODS
Food can also have a similar effect on your sex drive. For starters, eating a healthy diet that doesn’t weigh you down makes you more likely to want sex. If you’re bloated or backed up, it’s unlikely you’ll want to be in the mood. On the other hand, there’s a long list of foods, known as aphrodisiacs, that might have a positive effect on your sex drive and make you hornier.
These foods include:
- Celery
- Oatmeal
- Garlic – be careful that you don’t eat so much that you smell bad!
- Mangoes
- Sesame seeds
- Steak
- Avocado
- Watermelon
- Blackberries
- Broccoli
- Bananas
- Almonds
- A NEW RELATIONSHIP
Of course, feeling horny is definitely encouraged by new relationship energy, or NRE, which you and your man will experience during a beginning of a romantic or sexual relationship. NRE includes the excited feelings about your new relationship and hope for the future. You might compare it to being manic, in which you’re positive, happy and excitable. As new relationship energy fades, so too does your constant state of arousal, which might not even be a bad thing.
- EVERYTHING ELSE
There are many other things that might have your motor running. Perhaps it’s a certain smell, like the cologne of your lover or an ex. Watching a sexy movie or setting your eyes upon your favorite actor might do the trick, too. Women experience a wide array of turn-ons, just like men do.
HOW TO GET RID OF THAT HORNY FEELING
So it probably sounds pretty awesome to be feeling horny all the time. You can have more sex if you’ve got a willing partner. But feeling horny can lead to physical and mental frustration, especially when you’re single. What are some of the ways you can help to release pressure from feeling horny?
- Have sex with a partner. It doesn’t have to be a serious relationship. It can just be a one-night stand. As long as you’re both horny, relieve some stress, release some hormones and have a good time.
- You don’t need anyone else around to have an amazing orgasm because you can do it yourself.
- Exercise. The goal of this isn’t to get off but to burn off energy in a way other than sex. If you’re feeling horny, head outside for a run, participate in a sports tournament or head to the gym to lift some weights. Not only will you release tension, but you’ll burn calories and build muscles, too.
Be prepared to do these things when you know you’ll be the most horny. For example, set aside time for masturbation and/or sex and exercise during the time in your cycle when you’ll be ovulating, thus the most horny.
If your horniness persists to a point when it interferes with your real life obligations, it might be time to seek help from a doctor. Your doctor may be the only person who can explain why you are so horny. Persistant genital arousal syndrome is one condition in which patients experience sudden physical arousal that they can’t control. This condition may involve sporadic orgasms, or it may just remain at the arousal stage. Some patients even experience waves of orgasms.
We definitely recommend seeking professional help if you worry that you’re a nymphomaniac, which is a condition characterized by having an addiction to sexual activity. This isn’t just about being horny, however. You may be a nymphomaniac if you have obsessiveness thoughts about sex and engage in sexual activity that’s inappropriate or dangerous.
When left unchecked, nymphomania can lead to a sexually transmitted infection, and unwanted pregnancy or jeopardizing your relationship and family life.
For many women, however, being so horny for a short period of time isn’t a big deal. Both you and your partner might benefit from you feeling so horny. It can lead to a revitalized sex life with your long-term partner, help boost your confidence and encourage you to try new things in bed.